Comments on: Should You Call/Email Him After a Date? A Manslations Exposé

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 20:06:27 +0000

I’ve been emailing a man that I am very much interested in for a few months now and last weekend we had our first date. It was amazing. At the end of the date, he said that he wants to see me again the following weekend and I said yes. Well the week has gone by and I havent heard from him since. Its Friday and the suspense is killing me. I dont want to seem clingy or desperate so i have not made any contact. What shall i do? Advice anyone, thank you.

By: Apri

Apri — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 02:30:42 +0000

I love how we all have alot of the same problems.. mind is sorta similar.. I was talking to this guy for a about a week and last wendsday we finally hung out at his house.. we allways have great conversations and he tells me how we have chemistry and how he likes me, we flirted, made out, cuddled all the good stuff and the same night he told me he would call and that he had to go out of town.. Well he went out of town on thursday night and it is now monday night.. i havent heard a thing from him.. and i am just clueless to what has happened in the past 5 days.. i dont understand it.. can someone help !!

By: jane

jane — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 13:26:11 +0000

hmm, i’m not sure about emails either. i dated a guy for a month, saw him every weekend, sometimes twice a week. went out for a fab date, had three long snogs in the car. emailed him two days later and made a joke about how we’d disagreed on a fruit, and then never heard back from him. go figure. i felt pretty snubbed and embarassed and always blamed myself for sending that email.

By: travelinshoes

travelinshoes — Fri, 22 May 2009 05:35:33 +0000

This guy i have been goin out with just stopped calling as he said i was needy (cuz i was calling him & asking him out due to my hectic schedule). He was always accepting my offers to go out so wtf? He said he did not mind iif i called & asked him out when my s chedule opened up. now he stopped calling & said i was needy & pushy.? I guess i just learned my first lesson after my divorce in dating eh?

By: Nora

Nora — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 05:37:48 +0000

I’ve sent him a follow up email. But it’s been almost a week, he still has replied. I really want to know if I should just move on. But I have thought of several things that might be the dealbreakers. First, I told him ‘a guy is cute’ right in front of his face (it’s the second date, so I thought we could loose up a little bit). Second, I confronted him for something we fought over AIM. Third, I told him I was meeting another guy from the dating site we met. And at last, I told him I care about him alot, and I am hoping for something serious.

Jeff, do you think these are the reasons he’s ignoring me? Or maybe he’s just simply not interested any more? Please help, thanks!!!

By: leslie

leslie — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 16:07:04 +0000

I haven’t heard from the guy I’m casually dating in over a week, last time he called me he txt 4 times before hand and then waited a half and hour to call, I txt him monday and asked if we were hanging out tuesday and he said ‘well see u wanna c me huh’, i called tuesday but no answer, wtf do i forget this guy or what?

By: Selena

Selena — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:53:27 +0000

Tanya,

I’m not Jeff but if I were “the guy you like” and saw you kissing someone else while drunk, I’d probably back off thinking you weren’t all that interested in me. If you were, you’d be lip locking with ME, no?

I suppose only time will tell. In the meantime, you might want to be a bit more careful with the alcohol consumption. No lecture, just a word to the wise. Wink.

By: Tanya

Tanya — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 00:01:44 +0000

Hi Jeff,

I’ve had a crush on this guy I go to school with for while now. I’ve never tried to initiate anything with him because even though he is cute, funny, smart, etc., he is also in a relationship. Recently I’ve been hanging out with him with a group of friends pretty regularly. Another guy in the group and I have been flirting and getting a little closer. (Closer consists of talking to each other over text message a few times a week and going to see a movie together – once.) I like him. I’m not sure I would like a long term relationship with him, but I’m having fun. (It only started about two weeks ago!) However, all of the friends were hanging out again last week, and I got a little drunk, and…I really wish you couldn’t see where this was going. We (me and the original crush) didn’t sleep together, but I’m told there was some lip contact. The Original Crush was pretty drunk, too, and I don’t think he meant anything serious by it. Also, I don’t think I would like a relationship with him, even if he did. The Guy I Like was there, though.

So, I guess my question to you is: can I ever expect to be forgiven? Was the Guy That I Like taking us serious enough to banish me forever?

Sincerely,
-Been feeling like a whore ever since and eagerly awaiting any manswers which can be offered. (Preferably not involving the words “no duh,” or “ouch,” or similar, if it can be at all helped. Although I have my doubts.)

p.s.
I know it sounds like I am in high school. However, I am actually in college.

By: S

Fri, 19 Sep 2008 19:29:04 +0000

Hmmm. I think if a guy likes you enough, a casual email won’t hurt. But what if he is on the fence? I don’t know…I think initiating contact can be taken for desperation from a woman. Let him chase you. Let him work for it. The harder he works for it, the more of a challenge you are, the more he will appreciate you.

By: Zora

Zora — Wed, 14 May 2008 14:46:32 +0000

I met and danced with a really cool guy this past saturday( today is wednesday) we danced all night ! I had so much fun. We exchanged numbers. I have not heard from him… should I call first.
I wanted to text him and reference the dancing. He kept saying what a great dancer I was.