Comments on: Men Cheating and Lying: a Reader Request http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/ Ask for Jeff Mac's advice on what men think -- about relationships, dating, sex, love, squirrels, whatever. Wed, 01 Sep 2010 04:16:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jolene http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-7364 Jolene Wed, 16 Jun 2010 15:47:02 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-7364 Thank you so much. This is how I preety much saw things and know that you have written this so elliquently, I feel a little better. I am just wondering what God's thoughts were when he created man. I want a wife in my "next life" Not that I want a perfect man, but some refrain and respect ;) Thank you so much. This is how I preety much saw things and know that you have written this so elliquently, I feel a little better. I am just wondering what God’s thoughts were when he created man. I want a wife in my “next life” Not that I want a perfect man, but some refrain and respect ;)

]]> By: Robyn http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-7267 Robyn Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:07:14 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-7267 I cant believe you can excuse the male species, and say that they want to have sex with every female they see, you would have to then state that females do too, except we have more self control, and dont waste time focusing on excuses as to why we do wrong. We just admit it and bloody well get on with it. I cant believe you can excuse the male species, and say that they want to have sex with every female they see, you would have to then state that females do too, except we have more self control, and dont waste time focusing on excuses as to why we do wrong. We just admit it and bloody well get on with it.

]]> By: Alicia http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-7167 Alicia Tue, 18 Aug 2009 01:44:19 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-7167 Men tend to go back to girls who they had great sex but not to an exgirlfriend, why does sex make men want to go back to a woman? Men tend to go back to girls who they had great sex but not to an exgirlfriend, why does sex make men want to go back to a woman?

]]> By: Ginger http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-5071 Ginger Wed, 10 Sep 2008 18:27:44 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-5071 OK, I'll sounds like a complete sap here but a straight talking male point of view would be good. BF had been a serial cheater. BF cheated in the early months of our relationship, then stopped. A few months later annouced to all his friends he was 'going to be faithful to this one' (I know Ladies, a real charmer). More than 6 months after that I found evidence and confronted him (having been suspicious anyway) and he admitted to 4 one night stands in the first few months and load of other stuff from before me. Most of me believes him. I moved out and he has spent 10 months being so attentive and pretty damn wonderful. And has given me passwords to everything so I can reassure myself whenever I want. He's doing so much that part of me thinks I should give myself a kick up the arse and stop worrying. The other part of me is worried that having been really quite bad in the past its all just more of an act. If he's found time to be up to something it's been during work time and he's been incredibly careful to be accountable for his whereabouts. I really want to move on but I am struggling OK, I’ll sounds like a complete sap here but a straight talking male point of view would be good.

BF had been a serial cheater. BF cheated in the early months of our relationship, then stopped. A few months later annouced to all his friends he was ‘going to be faithful to this one’ (I know Ladies, a real charmer). More than 6 months after that I found evidence and confronted him (having been suspicious anyway) and he admitted to 4 one night stands in the first few months and load of other stuff from before me. Most of me believes him. I moved out and he has spent 10 months being so attentive and pretty damn wonderful. And has given me passwords to everything so I can reassure myself whenever I want.

He’s doing so much that part of me thinks I should give myself a kick up the arse and stop worrying. The other part of me is worried that having been really quite bad in the past its all just more of an act. If he’s found time to be up to something it’s been during work time and he’s been incredibly careful to be accountable for his whereabouts.

I really want to move on but I am struggling

]]> By: Jeff Mac http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-2676 Jeff Mac Mon, 07 Jul 2008 14:43:15 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-2676 hatty: Tough, tough call. This is definitely one of those cases where the only way out is through. If you feel that you want to trust your husband again (sounds like you are at least open to the possibility) then I'd say you're going to have to get more than the standard, "Baby, baby, I would never do that again!" sort of thing. A true cheater (as opposed to someone who makes a mistake and can actually keep himself from doing it again) is banking on coming up with what you want him to say, rather than the real truth. Good luck, hatty. I think the only way to restore trust is by both of you being 100% honest, and by both of you believing that the other one is being 100% honest. I wish you the best in this. hatty: Tough, tough call. This is definitely one of those cases where the only way out is through. If you feel that you want to trust your husband again (sounds like you are at least open to the possibility) then I’d say you’re going to have to get more than the standard, “Baby, baby, I would never do that again!” sort of thing.

A true cheater (as opposed to someone who makes a mistake and can actually keep himself from doing it again) is banking on coming up with what you want him to say, rather than the real truth.

Good luck, hatty. I think the only way to restore trust is by both of you being 100% honest, and by both of you believing that the other one is being 100% honest. I wish you the best in this.

]]> By: hatty http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-2675 hatty Sun, 06 Jul 2008 00:05:11 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-2675 My husband of 9 years has been cheating and it has just come out, we have been seperated for about 5 months now due to this, he has realised that he made a mistake, and it is his fault and he really wants to fix things up what should i do? My husband of 9 years has been cheating and it has just come out, we have been seperated for about 5 months now due to this, he has realised that he made a mistake, and it is his fault and he really wants to fix things up what should i do?

]]> By: The Secret to Getting a Man to Fall Madly in Love With You? A Reader Request « Manslations http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-2674 The Secret to Getting a Man to Fall Madly in Love With You? A Reader Request « Manslations Tue, 02 Oct 2007 11:10:32 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-2674 [...] manslatees. We have our very first return customer. Frequent commenter and manslation requester (on the subject of men, cheating, and lying), Loirelei, has asked a very, very simple question: So what’s the trick in getting a man to [...] [...] manslatees. We have our very first return customer. Frequent commenter and manslation requester (on the subject of men, cheating, and lying), Loirelei, has asked a very, very simple question: So what’s the trick in getting a man to [...]

]]> By: Another Fine Google Search: “can men stop cheating” « Manslations http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-2673 Another Fine Google Search: “can men stop cheating” « Manslations Thu, 20 Sep 2007 11:19:57 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-2673 [...] 20, 2007 I did a post a little while back about men and cheating, and it spurred quite a bit of conversation on the subject. One thing we didn’t totally cover [...] [...] 20, 2007 I did a post a little while back about men and cheating, and it spurred quite a bit of conversation on the subject. One thing we didn’t totally cover [...]

]]> By: Jeff Mac http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-2670 Jeff Mac Fri, 07 Sep 2007 02:21:58 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-2670 <strong>PishPosh</strong>: What, are you saying Mother Nature did NOT intend to have all your hairs yanked out by the roots? <strong>Loirelai</strong>: You certainly know how to make a blogger blush! I am very happily not single, but I DO know something about narcissistic men. I'll have to drag myself away from the mirror to write about it, of course. But I'll post something up here about it. PishPosh: What, are you saying Mother Nature did NOT intend to have all your hairs yanked out by the roots?

Loirelai: You certainly know how to make a blogger blush! I am very happily not single, but I DO know something about narcissistic men. I’ll have to drag myself away from the mirror to write about it, of course. But I’ll post something up here about it.

]]> By: Loirelai http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/comment-page-1/#comment-2672 Loirelai Thu, 06 Sep 2007 18:06:31 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/04/men-cheating-and-lying-a-reader-request/#comment-2672 I love you Jeff.. Are you single? What about narcisstic men? Do you know anything about those? Or am I getting to pschological with you? I love you Jeff.. Are you single? What about narcisstic men? Do you know anything about those? Or am I getting to pschological with you?

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