Juggling 8 different relationships is absolutely about avoiding intimacy. It’s basically an addiction to EXCITEMENT. As I always say, everybody has a certain level of trouble that they’re comfy with. If they don’t have enough, they’ll go out and MAKE trouble.

The guy you’re describing and guys like him definitely don’t give off sneaky vibes, or else they wouldn’t be very successful at this. These are men who NEED women to pay attention to them. So they specialize in figuring out what you need, and appearing to give it to you (and I agree, it’s probably not even conscious.)

I don’t know how many alcoholics/drug addicts you’ve come across, but they’re usually pretty damn charming as well. They have to be, in order for their bad behavior to be allowed.

I’m sorry you had to deal with one of these. All I can say is, good for you that you got out of there. Some women spend their whole lives with one of these insecure pricks.

Seriously, people. Go see this man live. Jesse and I were on Comedy Central together, and he’s absolutely one of my favorite comics ever. Click on his name up there, get his schedule, and find out when he’s in your town. You will laugh til you barf.

Good sir and dear friend whom I have no interest in making out with, I maintain phone contact with you because I tour around this country doing the stand up comedy because I am in fact 1. “a hilarious comic” as you mentioned earlier, and 2. because I can not rollerskate… so thusly, the only way for us to maintain any sort of friendship whatsoever is for me to occasionally call you. It is usually whilst driving or between shows when I call… very rarely am I lying on a bed festooned with teddy bears, staring at my Justin Timberlake poster, playing with the phone cord and giggling about boys whom I find dreamy… From now on, I will only call you while I am having sex with women.

And for those who read his blog and are seeking advice about women, I do in fact maintain plenty of contact with women over the phone given the nature of my occupation, and it seems to be very appreciate by aforementioned women. And they are in no way similar to the phone conversations I have with my very good friend and also hilarious comic Jeff Mac. So call your wife or girlfriend. But if you are a guy, do not call Jeff Mac, he’s relatively insecure about his heterosexual compass. And if you do, make sure it is a conversation exclusively about having sex with a football while working on your car on a fishing trip.

And you could be absolutely right — Though she didn’t seem to imply that she saw any sneaky behavior on his part, whenever you don’t know, well, you just don’t KNOW. You know?

I had a a boyfriend who turned his phone off whenever we were together. I finally got it. He was juggling…quite a few of us. If I called him and he actually answered , he always seemed happy to hear from me. He was alone at the time.

Finally, I got a phone call from a gal who found my # on his cell phone. I also, received several e-mails and IM’s from several woman who got into his computer. None of us knew about each other. For the moment he was screwed, but I’m sure the stable’s full again.

Then again, He may just not be into calling. You’ll never know until you explore it in conversation. Of course, you have to discuss it in a way that doesn’t put him on the defensive. There are a lot of guys that are honest and not jerks.