Comments on: What You’re Googling: “HOW LONG SHOULD A WOMAN MAKE A MAN WAIT” http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/ Ask for Jeff Mac's advice on what men think -- about relationships, dating, sex, love, squirrels, whatever. Wed, 01 Sep 2010 04:16:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Scarlet http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-5800 Scarlet Wed, 24 Dec 2008 14:46:43 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/#comment-5800 Why is everyone talking like it only guys who like sex. It is good anytime - when you feel okay about. First date, two months whatever, why make it all so rigid (so to speak!). Why is everyone talking like it only guys who like sex. It is good anytime – when you feel okay about. First date, two months whatever, why make it all so rigid (so to speak!).

]]> By: Evenryavake http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-5404 Evenryavake Wed, 29 Oct 2008 23:14:18 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/#comment-5404 Sounds crazy. Be good to my itchy worker Sorry, for off top, i wanna tell one joke) What did one wall say to the other wall? Meet you at the corner. Sounds crazy. Be good to my itchy worker Sorry, for off top, i wanna tell one joke) What did one wall say to the other wall? Meet you at the corner.

]]> By: thaiyellow http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-2817 thaiyellow Sun, 27 Jul 2008 14:12:30 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/#comment-2817 taking the time to get to know a guy is my filter. i'm trying it for the next 25 years or so. so many guys just do not seem interested/want to spend time getting to know a woman. at least this woman. so, ok. the ones who just want sex are as selfish as the ones who want an "instant" relationship~ after saying no to a bloke in either group they tend to disappear (for some until i call them ;-) at the moment i feel i am in a world of mars bars and i'm hungering for some belgian delight... taking the time to get to know a guy is my filter. i’m trying it for the next 25 years or so.

so many guys just do not seem interested/want to spend time getting to know a woman. at least this woman. so, ok.

the ones who just want sex are as selfish as the ones who want an “instant” relationship~ after saying no to a bloke in either group they tend to disappear (for some until i call them ;-)

at the moment i feel i am in a world of mars bars and i’m hungering for some belgian delight…

]]> By: Reader Request: How Many Dates Before Sex? « Manslations http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-2816 Reader Request: How Many Dates Before Sex? « Manslations Wed, 07 Nov 2007 12:38:22 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/#comment-2816 [...] about this once before, in response to a Google search about this very thing (read the other post here.) At the end of that post, my blogger pal, Terry referred to a Dear Abby article in her comment. [...] [...] about this once before, in response to a Google search about this very thing (read the other post here.) At the end of that post, my blogger pal, Terry referred to a Dear Abby article in her comment. [...]

]]> By: Jeff Mac http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-2815 Jeff Mac Thu, 27 Sep 2007 23:26:03 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/#comment-2815 <strong>Terry</strong>: Awesome comment, thanks! Yeah, I hear that kind of thing all the time. All I can think is..."Ok, so you hold off having sex for, say, a month. And then what? THEN you lose the mystery and the chase? Does he just not like that stuff anymore?" Weird advice. <strong>WillaT</strong>: I'm sure the sweet ass is not the problem. And my problem with the Dear Abs is the crazy smile. <strong>Ronnie</strong>: That's exactly right, I think. If a guy only wants to sleep with you, he's not going to stick around for very long unless he does. And IF he does, then he's definitely gone. <strong>Beta Mom:</strong> You shut your dirty mouth, you! (And thank god your blog is back up and running. I was dying for some Beta Mom hilarity action over here.) Terry: Awesome comment, thanks! Yeah, I hear that kind of thing all the time. All I can think is…”Ok, so you hold off having sex for, say, a month. And then what? THEN you lose the mystery and the chase? Does he just not like that stuff anymore?” Weird advice.

WillaT: I’m sure the sweet ass is not the problem. And my problem with the Dear Abs is the crazy smile.

Ronnie: That’s exactly right, I think. If a guy only wants to sleep with you, he’s not going to stick around for very long unless he does. And IF he does, then he’s definitely gone.

Beta Mom: You shut your dirty mouth, you! (And thank god your blog is back up and running. I was dying for some Beta Mom hilarity action over here.)

]]> By: Beta Mom http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-2814 Beta Mom Thu, 27 Sep 2007 19:27:51 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/#comment-2814 ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ...Jeff said "cocked. ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha …Jeff said “cocked.

]]> By: Ronnie http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-2813 Ronnie Thu, 27 Sep 2007 19:09:29 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/#comment-2813 You know I really like your take on this subject. Havng sex with men too fsst doesn't send them away - it just separates the serious suitors from the manwhores On the girl side of things though, the male sluts can be a bummer. That's what I think the waiting is for. Observing him long enough to see if he's consistent, truly intereted or just looking for a quick lay. Somehow the "notch guys" as I call them (always looking to put another notch on that proverbial bed post) seem to lose interest faster and disappear. Not always true of course. Some guys just love a chase no matter how long it takes. But your point is an excellent one for women to keep in mind - THANK YOU! It's nothing we women do wrong- just a different agenda for the man that we can't seem to figure out upfront. You know I really like your take on this subject. Havng sex with men too fsst doesn’t send them away – it just separates the serious suitors from the manwhores

On the girl side of things though, the male sluts can be a bummer. That’s what I think the waiting is for. Observing him long enough to see if he’s consistent, truly intereted or just looking for a quick lay.

Somehow the “notch guys” as I call them (always looking to put another notch on that proverbial bed post) seem to lose interest faster and disappear. Not always true of course. Some guys just love a chase no matter how long it takes.

But your point is an excellent one for women to keep in mind – THANK YOU! It’s nothing we women do wrong- just a different agenda for the man that we can’t seem to figure out upfront.

]]> By: WillaT http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-2812 WillaT Thu, 27 Sep 2007 18:50:22 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/#comment-2812 Ok, so if a guy doesn't call after sex, I can stop worrying that I'm not good at it? Because I think I'm pretty good at ti. It will be a relief to know that it's ME he dislikes, and not my sweet ass. Oh, and Dear Abby freaks me out. I think she's got the crazy eyes. Ok, so if a guy doesn’t call after sex, I can stop worrying that I’m not good at it? Because I think I’m pretty good at ti. It will be a relief to know that it’s ME he dislikes, and not my sweet ass.

Oh, and Dear Abby freaks me out. I think she’s got the crazy eyes.

]]> By: Terry http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/comment-page-1/#comment-2811 Terry Thu, 27 Sep 2007 15:34:51 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/09/27/what-youre-googling-how-long-should-a-woman-make-a-man-wait/#comment-2811 Interestingly, today's Dear Abby (and I usually like and agree with her) explicitly told a reader exactly the opposite of what you just told us. Her reader wrote to say she'd slept with a guy, and he disappeared. Abby responded that he'd hit the highway because the woman had slept with him too soon, effectively killing the chase and the mystery. So I appreciate your refreshing take on the subject, Jeff. (Too bad the poor woman hadn't written to you!) We women have been trained since birth to keep our pants on or: a) We'll be considered sluts b) No self-respecting man will want to marry us We've also been told: There are good girls and bad girls. Bad girls act on their sexual impulses. Good girls don't have sexual impulses. If a good girl is going to have sex, she should do so only if the man loves her (it's his reward for loving her, or even better, for marrying her). Otherwise, she is a slut, a tramp, a fallen women, a putana, etc. Even though the double standard seems retro, it certainly still exists (why else would Conan be making 'Paris Hilton is a whore' jokes without mentioning the creep she made the video with?). Thank you for saying that a woman should have sex when she wants to. Many women need to hear that. Unfortunately, a lot of females cannot fully enjoy sex because it's been pummelled into their skulls that sex is dirty. After marriage, they resist sex with their husbands because it's been reduced to a chore. Society has steadily and effectively drubbed sexual desire right out of them. No double standard = More fun for all. Thanks for doing your part. Interestingly, today’s Dear Abby (and I usually like and agree with her) explicitly told a reader exactly the opposite of what you just told us.

Her reader wrote to say she’d slept with a guy, and he disappeared. Abby responded that he’d hit the highway because the woman had slept with him too soon, effectively killing the chase and the mystery.

So I appreciate your refreshing take on the subject, Jeff. (Too bad the poor woman hadn’t written to you!)

We women have been trained since birth to keep our pants on or:

a) We’ll be considered sluts
b) No self-respecting man will want to marry us

We’ve also been told:

There are good girls and bad girls. Bad girls act on their sexual impulses. Good girls don’t have sexual impulses.

If a good girl is going to have sex, she should do so only if the man loves her (it’s his reward for loving her, or even better, for marrying her). Otherwise, she is a slut, a tramp, a fallen women, a putana, etc.

Even though the double standard seems retro, it certainly still exists (why else would Conan be making ‘Paris Hilton is a whore’ jokes without mentioning the creep she made the video with?).

Thank you for saying that a woman should have sex when she wants to. Many women need to hear that.

Unfortunately, a lot of females cannot fully enjoy sex because it’s been pummelled into their skulls that sex is dirty. After marriage, they resist sex with their husbands because it’s been reduced to a chore.

Society has steadily and effectively drubbed sexual desire right out of them.

No double standard = More fun for all.

Thanks for doing your part.

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