Comments on: Manslations Reader Request: How to Ask for What You Want in the Bed Section of the House http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/ Advice for smart women who are tired of feeling so stupid about men. Fri, 04 May 2012 06:11:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: He Doesn’t Wanna, you know, DO it: A Reader Request « Manslations http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-2829 He Doesn’t Wanna, you know, DO it: A Reader Request « Manslations Wed, 21 Nov 2007 12:28:19 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/#comment-2829 [...] how impressed you are at how well he picked up on that. (I wrote a post a while back all about how to ask for what you want in bed, that might be worth a [...] [...] how impressed you are at how well he picked up on that. (I wrote a post a while back all about how to ask for what you want in bed, that might be worth a [...]

]]> By: Jeff Mac http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-2828 Jeff Mac Tue, 02 Oct 2007 03:04:46 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/#comment-2828 <strong>Eric the BHH</strong>: Great idea, and anything that works both in comedy improv AND in the sack can't be bad. <strong>DG</strong>: Excellent point -- the boys do like to be TOLD. <strong> Susan</strong>: I think the only downside with your BOB vs. a living man is that once you try it, you can't return it. (I mean, god, I hope not.) Then again, a vibrator never left anybody's toilet seat up, either. So I guess it's a wash. <strong>CCJohn</strong>: Strong words. But I hear you. Ladies, take note: If you go out with CCJohn, please feel free to bludgeon him. Eric the BHH: Great idea, and anything that works both in comedy improv AND in the sack can’t be bad.

DG: Excellent point — the boys do like to be TOLD.

Susan: I think the only downside with your BOB vs. a living man is that once you try it, you can’t return it. (I mean, god, I hope not.) Then again, a vibrator never left anybody’s toilet seat up, either. So I guess it’s a wash.

CCJohn: Strong words. But I hear you. Ladies, take note: If you go out with CCJohn, please feel free to bludgeon him.

]]> By: CCJohn http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-2827 CCJohn Tue, 02 Oct 2007 02:30:37 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/#comment-2827 With a club. In the grip of passion a man's immune to most anything, which explains a number of trust funds. With a club. In the grip of passion a man’s immune to most anything, which explains a number of trust funds.

]]> By: Susan http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-2826 Susan Tue, 02 Oct 2007 00:00:51 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/#comment-2826 In some circles, it is called a BOB (battery operated boyfriend). In other circles, I think all of the above hits it on the spot...er, mark...um...you know what I mean. In some circles, it is called a BOB (battery operated boyfriend).

In other circles, I think all of the above hits it on the spot…er, mark…um…you know what I mean.

]]> By: Dating Goddess http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-2825 Dating Goddess Mon, 01 Oct 2007 20:00:50 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/#comment-2825 I like what both beehivehairdresser and Jeff have to suggest. I'd even suggest being more direct. I find men like it when you tell them what you want -- they want to be successful and want to know how to do so. So tell him, "Oh that feels good. Now put your hand here (directing his hand)." And then show him you like that. Doing it in the moment is much better than giving him a dissertation on what you like beforehand. And make sure to follow it with verbal noises (you know what I mean) that show him it's working. I discussed this some in my posting “Would you like the recipe for how to seduce me?” at http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/01/14/would-you-like-the-recipe-for-how-to-seduce-me/ Good luck! Report back how these ideas worked. Dating Goddess http://www.DatingGoddess.com I like what both beehivehairdresser and Jeff have to suggest. I’d even suggest being more direct. I find men like it when you tell them what you want — they want to be successful and want to know how to do so. So tell him, “Oh that feels good. Now put your hand here (directing his hand).” And then show him you like that. Doing it in the moment is much better than giving him a dissertation on what you like beforehand. And make sure to follow it with verbal noises (you know what I mean) that show him it’s working.

I discussed this some in my posting “Would you like the recipe for how to seduce me?” at http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/01/14/would-you-like-the-recipe-for-how-to-seduce-me/

Good luck! Report back how these ideas worked.

Dating Goddess
http://www.DatingGoddess.com

]]> By: eric the beehivehairdresser http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/comment-page-1/#comment-2824 eric the beehivehairdresser Mon, 01 Oct 2007 19:10:30 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/10/01/manslations-reader-request-how-to-ask-for-what-you-want-in-the-bed-section-of-the-house/#comment-2824 Might I recommend the "yes and" technique? It's similar to "think he's great"... Casually bring up how much you enjoy it when your guy does "a" in bed, and then tell him how much you'd really enjoy "b". If you can't think of anything good to put into an "a" you may be with the wrong guy, and or you might need to just be overly blunt about how awful he is in bed - all this while not in bed. Remember to use the word "and" instead of "but" after your "a" portion, "but" is negative, "and" is a complimentary in this case. Might I recommend the “yes and” technique? It’s similar to “think he’s great”…

Casually bring up how much you enjoy it when your guy does “a” in bed, and then tell him how much you’d really enjoy “b”.

If you can’t think of anything good to put into an “a” you may be with the wrong guy, and or you might need to just be overly blunt about how awful he is in bed – all this while not in bed.

Remember to use the word “and” instead of “but” after your “a” portion, “but” is negative, “and” is a complimentary in this case.

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