Firstly: Don’t “apologize” (4being “female”) and…DO let *Them* see You sweat–early, late, often!

Secondly: It’s okay to assume a virtue if we have it not [Gratias, Bard], and to dust our variants of femininity if we’re womanly—or choose2B.

Yes, Friend Ada– it’s possible to relish being womanly AND strongly unpassive. I personally move and second such commotion! Ultimate Charm of the words “feminine” and “masculine” depends on whether one chooses either!

None of us should put Selves or Any of us [e.g., Girls of Any age] in straitjackets of cultural code! When Any of us assign a cultural code NOT of a Personal choosing, the virus of being *conditioned* slithers.

Thirdly: Women and Men are “alike”, yet different–to which we sing Merci, Lord! Any “little theatrical game” to enliven Joy of Sex is a GoodThing…if only because Sex is a GoodThing [it's been proved so!].

Whether such GoodThing is melodramatic depends on which Man and which Woman stirs the “sex”! *Gamers* [whether female, male, man, woman] will be Gamers and, thus, the Sex will be contrived. If contrivance serves Mistress & Master, no other hound is in Their pen!

Gee, Ms. Ada—if we put Pox on “role playing”, the Brains of Sex peters out [pun, intended]. Maintain costumes!

Sometimes, a cigar is just a cigar but can ignite glory of smoke-free bonfires.

So. lettuce enjoy All carrots of *Being*!

MerciBouquets for provocative comments.
YesYes, my first real Beau [so2say!] did importune me via put-downs. Yes, I did suspect an ego problem, which proved itself. On bright side, he was a fine friend far, far longer than repugnant lover. I did learn lots about lots; Blessings rest2Him!

Some highquality *mutual admiration* [vs. "intimidation"] in the sense of wonderful Awe is a goodThing to share in relationships [vs. "relations"].
*No Fear, No Favor* is one of my favorite codes–But, my admiration of my certain Wonderfella is compatible with that! One’s sense of Self help set boundaries of both intimidating and being/feeling intimidated. Ideal is to have less thorns hovering One’s sense of Self.

YesYes, Sister Sophia, we shouldn’t allow entry for “intimidation”. It’s a redFlag of caution–put egg in sneaker & beat it!

On TheDonald being “good in the kitchen” Issue: In Some ways, stirring oatmeal for someone can be a grander gesture [especially when tired2bone] than doing megaDeals. Let’s hope 4Mrs. Don that he’s “good”, either/both atStove,onTable!

Lastly, there IS “porn” which is sweet, imaginative, respectful of women [&men]!
For example, *Art of Sex*[redtube,28674] is delightful. As a matter of fact–in the free clip, the man sexually worships the woman more than woman does the man;
YesYes, equal opportunity titillates!

Fare Thee Well, Ms. Sophia, in All Ways!

I am 48 and still have guys of all ages treat me like eye candy – which makes me laugh as didn’t I stop being eye candy 20 years ago?
Also men do seem a bit sexually selfish these days. I can’t tell you how many guys want me to do porn with them or have threesomes…and I’m not even dating or sleeping with them. I don’t dress sexy and when dating on the internet I have one head shot and no body shot.

That aside, I think SMART MEN when they find a woman they care about the issue isn’t so much she is strong, I’m intimidated, as much as can he and is he willing to give her somethings she needs. For example, a man (sorry I can’t remember his name) appeared on the Today Show, wrote a book, about how when he met his wife, she was actually the bread winner and he was struggling. So he found ways to give and provide for her. He made dinners for her, kept house for, maybe ran errands….it sounds like role reversal and for a time it was, however, he did it willingly and she did not look down on him. He wanted her in his life and he wanted to provide for her however her could. I think essentially those who want a relationship vs. sex do for one another. All the money and success in the world can’t make up for the lack of affection, kindness, support, connection with a lover.I’m not sure why men don’t recognize that? I believe men want the same and hide behind sex when really they want affection and connection.
I’m not anti-men however, there seems to be some angry men responding on here.
One thing that society (men side) has been very ignorant to embrace is women have had to work hard to be able to buy property (only since the 1970′s) been able to rise in Corp. AMerica (1980′s) and sexual freedom, on and off since the 60′s while the double standard still exists. So it sort of makes sense women would be proud of these achievements – yes? Imagine dating Donald Trump and saying to him, “Ok so you make money – big deal – are you any good in the kitchen?” Sometimes it feels like that is how men treat me and other women. Men also seem obsessed with chemical attraction, which is by nature fairly superficial. I can walk away from a guy who I feel sexual attraction to when he has nothing else to offer or wants to offer.
It does seem a little like women have evolved and guys still hold onto sex, porn, etc. to not have to be vulnerable and it’s that fear that keeps them in isolation. And the more women refuse casual sex porn may be more embraced and therefore weakening even further a guy’s ability to really connect.

Oh, sorry, one last thing – most guys try to come on to me or bond to me by putting me down, even as I sit and mind my own business??????? Sort of hostile attraction? Does anyone else have that happen?

Hope Ufelt planets move! Your Words corrected confusion! Easy2cheer words which stitch agreement, heart2toes!

Calm YourSelf: The scenario Ucheer is never “too much to ask” [even, this side o'Heaven]! Your”Want” is nonExcessive!

Slices o’That would please most crowds
sooo, Be Blessed 4sharing, and MerciMardiGrasBouquet…4Tossing!

most certainly not Dear K.c…..
Of course,
What U

OopsOops..Ben, let me float my dismay 4failure 2affirm Your “Consequent fallacy” back yonder in November!
Here’s belated ‘Hush, Dearie’ on notion that intimidation is different than threat: Oftentimes, t’is true; sometimes, not! Whether difference exists depends on the Souls involved. Sadly, 4Some–one IS the other; Woe 2That…

WellWell, K.c.—can’t figure if YOU know “what” YOU want!
I am confused2; can’t figure if YOUR “unattainable” relates to relations OR to relationships.
Am doubtful that t’is about *Relations*–given that one can get laid crossing the road [even if one looks both ways!].

P’haps, articulating2self about the *why* of Your-Want might flush out Your-Want.
P’haps, discerning that Udon’t want such a Want would lighten Your wonder.

Hope holds that Peace… rules!

Intimidation is not the same thing as threaten.

Men who don’t go out with women are not intimidated. Anything, but. The fact that they refuse to go out is proof that they are not timid nor conform from the fear of repercussion of some act–which is what to intimidate means.

“Man-ginas” who go out with such brutes of women, out of the fear of being called intimidated or sexist, are the ones actually intimidated.

And since when does independent always equals more intelligence? Independent can also mean more arrogant, narcissistic, mean, nagging, ball busting, brute, crude, and stupid.

Did I mention arrogant? I don’t think I did.

Since these women are “happy” because of their independent–this is only a suggestion, but they should stay independent. Let their bones turn to dust…alone. Leave those who understand the term interdependent, dependent, bondage, alone–Mr. Independent or Ms. Independent.

Apparently “successful” women like to complain about their current status which really questions how “successful” they really are in life.

Apparently for all the intelligence that you and these women have, you both need to go back to grade school.