Comments on: Are Men Intimidated by Women who can Hold their Own?

By: Zoe

Zoe — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 02:22:26 +0000

Finally, a male’s take on something that has perplexed me for years. I am a strong independent woman. Rarely do I find a date who can keep my gaze or have a great conversation with me over dinner without being tongue-tied or just plain awkward. It is so unattractive and above all sad, because some of these guys actually had real potential otherwise. My best advice to guys is – it doesn’t matter how hot, intelligent, talented, strong, etc. a woman is or isn’t, we all want the same things. We want a man who can look us in the eye, have a reciprocal interested conversation, who can express interest either verbally or in a cue he gives, is respectful while at the same time free to speak his opinions, a protector, and someone that makes us want to be around them. We aren’t going to bite your head off, I promise. Just be you, be confident and assertive, and chances are, you’ll do fine. DO NOT get shy, nervous, overly passive, too aggressive, clingy, or needy, or too casual on early dates. Respect yourself and care about yourself and we’ll feel that and respond to it.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 20:44:40 +0000

Dear Ben… with..
MerciBouquets, Michael, 4That Benly Tune!

Okay, perhaps Your week’s ending was less than stellar…but, there’s another one coming! Hope that above woe isn’t because some “girl” refused 2give “it”.

Some honest chitchat must = AWOL when someone who wants sex ends up w/someone who doesn’t!

Master Ben [familiarity, ok!], Your lingo of “girl” as *women* is belittled by Your absent lingo of “boy” as *men*. That seems 2ignore the routine maturation of females as women BUT presumes the routine maturation of males as men [am saying so as a past/present/future Girl!].

Thousand pardons if U’re beng misread;
if so, t’is reflection of Your own comments.
BTW…just as “femininity” is attractive 2men, *masculinity* attracts women!

Moaning absence of “a man” is psycho-emotionally rightful if NO man who acts as a *Man* is present. Same is true when men moan absence of a *Woman*. The moaning isn’t about physical presence! A thousand males counted as present doesn’t mean that there’s ONE Man in the room! No offense, of course.

It’s wise that we “glamorize” every good facet , but recognize the reality that often it’s only diamonds which shine w/54!

Dear Ben, Peace+Joy onU!

By: Ben

Ben — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 02:13:11 +0000

This is some of the stupidest shit that feminist come up with. It doesn’t mean that men are intimidated just because the want to have sex and a girl doesn’t want to give it to him, so he he leaves. It reeks with an Affirming the Consequent fallacy. What lame reverse-psychology.

It could also be this. Too many women become ball busting, career oriented only, always has an opinion, loud mouth, always comparing what they don’t have compared to men, bitches. Believe it not, if you were truly smart, you would know that this isn’t sexy. Despite the name of feminism, feminism has nothing to do with femininity which is something that attract guys–surprise!

This isn’t to say that one shouldn’t have confidence or can’t hold a decent conversation, or have an opinion, etc.

These girls glamorize that they are “so smart,” “so high and mighty,” “that they don’t need men,” they can take care of themselves,” yet moan that they can’t get a man. If the knew as much as they thought they did they wouldn’t be in the predicament.

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By: ThenAgain

ThenAgain — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 01:06:39 +0000

Hey, thanks for your insight and friendly encouragement. From a broken-hearted, attractive, over-educated woman married to a Russian Neanderthal. Seriously.

But your words make me feel hopeful again. Thank you.

By: Treasa

Treasa — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 16:51:27 +0000

I am in the same situation as Susan. Actually seeing that picture above made me laugh because my most recent ex said I had the “Sarah Conner complex”. I’m a badass and intimidate guys. Boy friends that I have (and I have a lot) have even told me that they thought about dating me but decided we are better off friends. I get that a lot. I have since then thought that there is something wrong with me and guys like the whole damsel in distress thing. Once they find out that’s not me they bail, and fast. Sometimes I still think there is something wrong with me because I can relate to guys and their interests more than women’s. I used to think this was a good thing, but it seems to drive more men away than attract them. This site actually helped me out a bit and even though I had nothing to do with this question being asked, thanks everyone for your comments!

By: Barbara Doduk

Barbara Doduk — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 21:17:50 +0000

This was a perfect answer. I am going to link to this post in a future post on my blog, because you sum up the reality of what it is like for women out there trying to find that guy who “wants to actually date…and have sex with” them.

I’ll be back.

By: Shandra

Shandra — Tue, 13 May 2008 18:03:55 +0000

Seriously! Thank you J-Mac!
The truth will set you free! I am similar to Susan (smart, funny and hot) and the interest dies down after the initial blast of attention. Now that I understand that sex rather than dating is the ultimate goal by [MOST] men, it makes me feel so much better. Keep doing what you’re doing…you are brilliant.

By: Rose

Rose — Thu, 08 May 2008 15:42:25 +0000

The one man you are meant to be with will ove EVERYTHING