Comments on: Reader Request: The Progressively Pervy Dude? Why?

By: Jeff Mac

Jeff Mac — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 17:25:17 +0000

Loiralei: Boy, thank god you met this guy — how else would you know what ALL women love? Oh man, talk about believing everything you see on TV.

By the way, if you’ll notice, this is a bit of the “Anger Smokescreen” right there. As in, “Listen, I don’t know what the problem is, but it’s obviously YOUR issue, sister.” Hilarious. As Bugs Bunny might say, “What a maroon.”

Susan: Thanks for giving props to the farm animals. You’re right. They deserve far better than this douchenozzle.

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 16:26:19 +0000

Loralei….just happened to check back on this. Ewwwwww. I’m glad you ran (and I’m guessing you ran fast). You deserve much, much more than this asswipe. (Farm animals do, too. Ewwwwwww.) Don’t give it another thought, be glad you are DONE with this one.

By: Loiralei

Loiralei — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 16:19:25 +0000

I did ask him why he was so insistent on these particular sexual requests. (I realize that for some maybe even most it isn’t too outlandish or even demeaning). His answer was, “All women love this”! I said “No..” He said again with the same insistent tone, “ALL women LOVE this”! (So…I guess I’m not a woman)? He was into porno very much so… He owned his own business and once when I visited him in his office he locked the door, brought up porno on his office computer and proceeded to pull it out and yank it in front of me requesting I help him etc.. I was very disturbed because he had women employees right in the next room working, who I was worried could hear our conversation. I told him, “No WAY!” And ran out of the room which made him angry. Yes, he did make me feel like I was abnormal. He said I was “simple”. The clincher was when he showed me a video he just bought of farm animal sex with humans and suggested we watch together. His excuse for this one was, “Honey you’ll like this one you love animals I bought it for you!” NOT…! He soon after told me he was seeing other people. I said enough is enough! I wasn’t and couldn’t even imagine having sex with him again anyway it was ALL too creepy, crawly, yucky, well, you get my drift! Happy Halloween but unfortunately this is a true story.. Thanks again Jeff and girls. I just pity his next victim! The creepiest thing is he really seemed in the beginning like a good catch but in reality was really a monster like a Jekel and hyde!

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 13:50:52 +0000

You’re welcome, Jeff. Enjoy the cool breezes of fall!

By: Jeff Mac

Jeff Mac — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 02:44:35 +0000

Terry: Again — point totally taken. She most definitely could be trying to talk herself into something. And I sure hope she’s not.

Susan: Yeah, if there’s one thing that’s been missing from the world of S&M, it’s some nice, itchy WOOL. Ugh. Thanks a lot, Susan. I’ll never look at a sweater in the same way again…ugh.

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 23:53:02 +0000

Sorry, too fast on the submit button. I meant I hope you enjoy the article, but, hey, the holidays are coming up, so if this is your thing, you’re in luck.

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 23:51:34 +0000

I heard about this on the radio this a.m.: wool bondage suits and willy warmers by the local knitting club of German women….and what did I think of first? THIS POST. Here’s the article. Thought you might enjoy it.

http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,22678995-5012895,00.html

By: Terry

Terry — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 14:37:56 +0000

I agree with you, Jeff.

If two people are happy with adventurous action, I say go for it. But when someone uses the words “abusive” and “creepier,” I fear she’s trying to talk herself into something she doesn’t want to do.

I love this column and your perspective.

By: Theatregal

Theatregal — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 13:05:14 +0000

Hey , “What’s normal”, is what’s okay for you. If it’s not …say so. If it feels abusive, tell him and don’t go there. Having said that…..I didn’t read anything that sounded that weird to me. We’re not all the same. What’s erotic for some, is disgusting for others. You have to find someone you match up with or who listens to you well. If he loves you enough, he won’t need to continue to push the envelope, if you’re not comfortable. I’ve tried a few things that to some women may seem outside the norm. I was asked first! If I liked it…great. if not, forget it. Never again. If he loves and respects you, it’s not a big deal to say, ” That doesn’t sound good to me.”

By: Jeff Mac

Jeff Mac — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 11:28:55 +0000

Susan: Yes, “constantly demanding” would seem to indicate that there’s something weird going on.

Shelby: I think you can also safely exclude the man who does things to you he WOULD do to farm animals.

singlemomseeking: Agreed — asking for something specific is HOTTT. For us too.

Terry: Point taken, but I have to say, I certainly know plenty of people who are into stuff that is FAR more…adventurous, shall we say? Stuff that would have me calling the cops. The only difference is — they really like it. And as long as THEY’RE cool with it, great. But yes, it goes without saying that if Loiralei is not ok with what he’s doing and he’s not ok with THAT, she needs to get out, STAT.

Ronnie: Yep, this conversation I’m suggesting would be something where, well, if this guy has a problem with talking about this stuff, you know exactly where he stands.

anonymouse: I’m glad you have some ammo, and just in time! (And with a “humph” no less!)