Comments on: Reader Request: Speed Dating Tips?

By: Jeff Mac

Jeff Mac — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 20:52:48 +0000

Heather: So…what are you saying — he was, like, just a cousin? Or what? Closer? Further?

I keed, I keed.

By: Heather/Writesome

Heather/Writesome — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 16:58:13 +0000

I. AM. NOT. DATING. A. RELATIVE….sigh

Seriously Jeff, the fact that you had a hard time understanding what I would be concerned about is comforting and liberating.
Thanks so much.

By: Jeff Mac

Jeff Mac — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 14:11:20 +0000

Heather/writesome: First of all, I’m so sorry that I “outed” you. I assumed that your whole question was for public eyes. That said…it took me a minute to even know what you might be concerned about! Your entire question was 100% reasonable, as far as I can see.

Now, dating a relative…that’s different.

Susan: Right, right. Total badass. I keep forgetting!

By: writesome

writesome — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 12:53:02 +0000

Thanks Susan. No worries. We are definitely having fun with the random oddity of it. Sassy is right, you can never have too many friends, even the related ones. CRAP…Chatting online isn’t considered dating is it? Sigh…I have so much learn.

Sorry Jeff, did I just leave you out of this commentsation?…you’re awesome, btw.

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 12:28:58 +0000

I’m the bad ass, Jeff, remember? I make people cry all the time. Sorry ’bout that. But if you ever need some decent Nigerian Bank spam, please give me a call. Oodles to choose from.

Heather, way to go. It’s really very harmless actually. JUST. DON’T. DATE. YOUR. RELATIVES. That would not be a good thing.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 03:09:24 +0000

Ok..so now that my cover is completely blown…I shall never act shy again…thanks for outing me Jeff, you may have saved my life, or at least my dating life. Shy girls don’t get dates, right?

Jeff, as always, I love your advice. I’ll definitely take it with me and leave my expectations in the car. And, Susan, thanks for your brilliant speed dating stories…all good stuff. Wish me luck.

Just as an update, I did put in my digits on a dating site and starting chatting with a nice guy online…turns out, we are probably related…but we have fun chatting and that’s ok. That’s actually my worst fear about speed dating…seeing someone I already know…or maybe it’s paying money to meet someone I already know. I guess it will be our little six minute secret…better than a six second secret.

By: Jeff Mac

Jeff Mac — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 02:13:32 +0000

Susan: Holy crap, woman! You made WordPress cry! (Well, you made it tell me to moderate the comment. It thought you were trying to sell me Cialis or Nigerian Banks or something.) Great links, thanks so much for taking one (or more) for the team!

Sassy: See, I think that’s the way to go — “We’re not date material, so let’s not sweat it.”

beta mom: Yep. Then you take that last left at the Island of Misfit Porn.

By: beta mom

beta mom — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 22:52:01 +0000

The “sea of douchebaggery”? Is that located on the other side of Mt. Misogynist in the Land of Lechery?

By: Sassy

Sassy — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 14:47:39 +0000

A few years ago I met a nice guy at Speed Dating. We knew right away we weren’t “date” material, but we were friend material. And we’ve been friends ever since. And you can never have too many of those!

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 14:29:22 +0000

Jeff and Heather, yep. Done it. Two or three times, and have blogged about the experience (see below) in post mortems if you will… although perhaps that’s not the best way to describe it. (Then again…) Heather, definitely go for it! The Manslator is amazingly absolutely unbelievably right on all counts — and the guy hasn’t even done it! Incredible. This must mean by reverse logic I, too, could be in commercials…Jeff, honey, have your agent call me.

In the meantime, if you’d like to know why I like the speed dating concept, you can read more here:

http://susancourtad.com/2007/04/12/cmon-admit-you-wanna-try-it-speed-dating-part-1/

If you want to know more about my last speed dating experience — note the similar reference to the trip to the dentist (not MY trip, this was in reference to the other people attending), see this one:

http://susancourtad.com/2007/06/08/root-canal-anyone/

Finally, for the record, no great loves have come of it, but I like it. There are always stories and, Heather, you’re taking a chance and putting yourself out there. There is NOTHING desperate about that!

http://susancourtad.com/2007/06/11/are-you-the-lid-for-me/

Okay, that’s all she wrote. Sorry for the informercial, but it’s more just ‘cuz I’m lazy and wouldn’t want to repeat all that brilliant writing!