Comments on: He’s Friendly With his Ex!? http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/ Ask for Jeff Mac's advice on what men think -- about relationships, dating, sex, love, squirrels, whatever. Sat, 22 Nov 2008 19:21:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Not Elizabeth http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-5427 Not Elizabeth Mon, 03 Nov 2008 03:28:49 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-5427 I have the same problem. Only, my guy doesnt tell me about it, and I had to find out through web blogs. I see their conversations and read how she "really misses him". I confronted him about it, and I got the feeling he obviously didn't want cut her off from his life because she was in his life longer than I was in his. Although I've been honest with the situation and told him upfront how I felt uncomfortable that they exchange sweet emails, etc. He tells me, he needs "friends" -- although I was just referring to that one ex. Anyhow, now I feel as if there's something I can't fulfill that she can and it has left me really confused since then. :( I have the same problem. Only, my guy doesnt tell me about it, and I had to find out through web blogs. I see their conversations and read how she “really misses him”. I confronted him about it, and I got the feeling he obviously didn’t want cut her off from his life because she was in his life longer than I was in his. Although I’ve been honest with the situation and told him upfront how I felt uncomfortable that they exchange sweet emails, etc. He tells me, he needs “friends” — although I was just referring to that one ex. Anyhow, now I feel as if there’s something I can’t fulfill that she can and it has left me really confused since then. :(

]]> By: Elizabeth http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-5374 Elizabeth Fri, 24 Oct 2008 22:55:56 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-5374 You have NO idea how much this is freaking me out! Your advise was really helpful to me. -Liz You have NO idea how much this is freaking me out! Your advise was really helpful to me. -Liz

]]> By: kelli http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-5363 kelli Wed, 22 Oct 2008 22:17:19 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-5363 I just went thru this whole gauntlet with my recent ex. I even posted a blog http://klawless.wordpress.com/2008/10/20/jealous/ about it because so many of my friends were "concerned" that he was just biding time. Like you, I looked for the signs and one day was lucky enough to meet her as she came over to get a check for taking care of his dogs the night before (when he wanted to stay late at a party I was hosting.) When I saw them "High 5" goodbye, I REALLY knew I had nothing to worry about. Aside from his openness about her and absolute lack of longing in reference to what they shared, I'm just not the jealous type and wasn't concerned. We recently ended things, but due to other reasons and he has yet to run back into her arms. I'd say the next girl has nothing to worry about either. *grin* But may want to tell him that IMing and texting the ex when on a date with new girl, isn't the best of form. I just went thru this whole gauntlet with my recent ex. I even posted a blog http://klawless.wordpress.com/2008/10/20/jealous/ about it because so many of my friends were “concerned” that he was just biding time.

Like you, I looked for the signs and one day was lucky enough to meet her as she came over to get a check for taking care of his dogs the night before (when he wanted to stay late at a party I was hosting.) When I saw them “High 5″ goodbye, I REALLY knew I had nothing to worry about. Aside from his openness about her and absolute lack of longing in reference to what they shared, I’m just not the jealous type and wasn’t concerned.
We recently ended things, but due to other reasons and he has yet to run back into her arms. I’d say the next girl has nothing to worry about either. *grin* But may want to tell him that IMing and texting the ex when on a date with new girl, isn’t the best of form.

]]> By: sweetie http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3119 sweetie Thu, 15 May 2008 00:53:52 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3119 My fiance has an ex who is currently working for him. He owns a huge business and says that he needs her to work, She is now with a partner and has one child. However, i still find her annoying, bossy and disrespectful. She's very bossy and when i'm around she has no respect for me. Recently, i heard that he picked her up because she had a flat tyre, and there is another rumour that i suspect that maybe he has picked her on a couple of times to drop her off at work or at her house, but i am not sure. Recently she called and asked to use our gym, which resulted in me and my fiance arguing , she keeps calling and asking for things, and i am very tired of this. He only tells her no, because i get upset, he doesn't talk to her when i'm around , but when i am not around i suspect that they are very comfortable with each other. His ex's partner also works for my fiance, so basicly he's looking after them, his family is close to her and she is always around. I know i will have to live having her around for the rest of my life!..am i going insane or being irrational?, He says that he doesn't love her, (they were in a 7 years relationship, but had no kids)what should i do ? My fiance has an ex who is currently working for him. He owns a huge business and says that he needs her to work, She is now with a partner and has one child. However, i still find her annoying, bossy and disrespectful. She’s very bossy and when i’m around she has no respect for me. Recently, i heard that he picked her up because she had a flat tyre, and there is another rumour that i suspect that maybe he has picked her on a couple of times to drop her off at work or at her house, but i am not sure. Recently she called and asked to use our gym, which resulted in me and my fiance arguing , she keeps calling and asking for things, and i am very tired of this. He only tells her no, because i get upset, he doesn’t talk to her when i’m around , but when i am not around i suspect that they are very comfortable with each other. His ex’s partner also works for my fiance, so basicly he’s looking after them, his family is close to her and she is always around. I know i will have to live having her around for the rest of my life!..am i going insane or being irrational?, He says that he doesn’t love her, (they were in a 7 years relationship, but had no kids)what should i do ?

]]> By: What’s Up With Him And that Ex? « Manslations http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3118 What’s Up With Him And that Ex? « Manslations Wed, 09 Apr 2008 11:38:51 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3118 [...] further reading, the post she’s referring to is this one, and there’s a good bunch of comments on there.) My situation is [...] [...] further reading, the post she’s referring to is this one, and there’s a good bunch of comments on there.) My situation is [...]

]]> By: Jeff Mac http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3117 Jeff Mac Thu, 10 Jan 2008 14:39:02 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3117 Lucy: Well gosh, I can't imagine why you two can't be bestest pals... Thanks for the story, though I'm sorry it worked out like it did. Then again, maybe I'm not. I think in the long run you want a guy who's in it for YOU, not one who's trying to forget someone else. And on the "meeting the ex's current squeeze" front, I was in a situation once where my girlfriend left me for another dude. I later met him, did the big thing, went up, shook his hand, and he gave me such a "who the hell do you think you are?" look, you wouldn't believe it. I was like, "You have my woman. What do you want, my car? My credit card to take her OUT?" Lucy: Well gosh, I can’t imagine why you two can’t be bestest pals…

Thanks for the story, though I’m sorry it worked out like it did. Then again, maybe I’m not. I think in the long run you want a guy who’s in it for YOU, not one who’s trying to forget someone else.

And on the “meeting the ex’s current squeeze” front, I was in a situation once where my girlfriend left me for another dude. I later met him, did the big thing, went up, shook his hand, and he gave me such a “who the hell do you think you are?” look, you wouldn’t believe it. I was like, “You have my woman. What do you want, my car? My credit card to take her OUT?”

]]> By: Lucy http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3116 Lucy Wed, 09 Jan 2008 23:42:25 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3116 Well, I was the new girlfriend and my boyfriend was on friendly terms with his ex-fiancee. We lasted about six months, and a couple of months after we broke up, and he got back with her. They've been back together for over a year and have moved in together. And so, oddly, I became the ex-girlfriend who's still close friends with the boy. It was a long time before I met his girlfriend, but we manage to be polite and friendly to each other. Don't think us girls are ever going to be that close though... Well, I was the new girlfriend and my boyfriend was on friendly terms with his ex-fiancee. We lasted about six months, and a couple of months after we broke up, and he got back with her. They’ve been back together for over a year and have moved in together. And so, oddly, I became the ex-girlfriend who’s still close friends with the boy. It was a long time before I met his girlfriend, but we manage to be polite and friendly to each other. Don’t think us girls are ever going to be that close though…

]]> By: Jeff Mac http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3111 Jeff Mac Tue, 13 Nov 2007 17:32:05 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3111 Elizabeth: Sounds like a great plan. I'm glad it's all working! Loiralei: Interesting thinking, but I'd warn you against modeling your future sex life off of the Queen of England. Could just be my American eyes, but I'm not seeing too much "wildchild" in her... Elizabeth: Sounds like a great plan. I’m glad it’s all working!

Loiralei: Interesting thinking, but I’d warn you against modeling your future sex life off of the Queen of England. Could just be my American eyes, but I’m not seeing too much “wildchild” in her…

]]> By: Loiralei http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3115 Loiralei Tue, 13 Nov 2007 16:43:04 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3115 Heck! She's even been Queen a few times! Heck! She’s even been Queen a few times!

]]> By: Loiralei http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3114 Loiralei Tue, 13 Nov 2007 16:40:42 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/11/12/reader-request-hes-friendly-with-his-ex/#comment-3114 I'm changing my name to "Elizabeth"! It seems like that name gets all the action! I’m changing my name to “Elizabeth”! It seems like that name gets all the action!

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