You’re only going to get your flowers if you can get him to understand that, “Look, I know these things don’t mean anything to YOU, I get that. But they mean something to ME, and it would feel really good to me if you’d think to do that for me once in a while.”

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It was good reading this plus his name is Jeff.

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Elis

Amber: I agree, it should feel pretty equal. But I’ve also been in situations where it’s all about keeping score. That’s no good either, you know? There’s definitely a balance in there somewhere, though.

Shouldn’t there at least be an equal balance in the things you do for each other, when it comes to date-planning, cooking, spending time together, etc.?

Sassy: Fair questions. If the BIG stuff is there, chill on the little stuff.

Terry: When I read what you said last, I could not for the LIFE of me remember what I had written about dying and cleaning up. I was thinking, “Did I write something about disposing of a body??”

Jumping through hoops doesn’t result in appreciation. It results in unappreciation.

Why don’t you give this guy a chance to miss you a little bit? Go out with your friends. Make new friends. Don’t assume you’re going out with him unless he makes an effort to set something up.

As far as gifts are concerned, I might be in the minority about this, but they don’t mean all that much. I’d rather have a guy who cooks, makes dates, and shows enthusiasm about the relationship.

I can buy my own flowers.

(And, Jeff, I agree with you 100% about the dying and the cleaning up!)