Comments on: Leading a Double Life — How to Come Clean?? http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/ Advice for smart women who are tired of feeling so stupid about men. Mon, 23 Jan 2012 04:24:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: hunter http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3368 hunter Fri, 04 Jan 2008 00:35:20 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3368 to loiralei, ..a woman in the audience, asked the same question. The therapist responded, "pick men with your ears, not with your eyes...." to loiralei,

..a woman in the audience, asked the same question. The therapist responded, “pick men with your ears, not with your eyes….”

]]> By: Loiralei http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3367 Loiralei Sat, 29 Dec 2007 17:14:56 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3367 Where are they? I don't see any! Where are they? I don’t see any!

]]> By: hunter http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3372 hunter Fri, 28 Dec 2007 23:57:31 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3372 to loiralei, A 70 year old female therapist at a singles seminar was on the "nice guy subject." She said, "ever since womens lib, mothers are saying, I want my son to grow up and be a nice man." The therapist went on to say, " I have news for you ladies,...now we have nice guys all over, now what do we do"? to loiralei,

A 70 year old female therapist at a singles seminar was on the “nice guy subject.” She said, “ever since womens lib, mothers are saying, I want my son to grow up and be a nice man.”

The therapist went on to say, ” I have news for you ladies,…now we have nice guys all over, now what do we do”?

]]> By: hunter http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3373 hunter Fri, 28 Dec 2007 23:49:44 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3373 to loiralei, Interestingly enough, nice guys, have good jobs, and they stay in their own little circles. Our attention span is small, but, we are working on becoming better listeners. I think the average man likes women, and they really don't want to hurt them. It is like, up until recently,... there is info on relationships for men, but, even then, some, don't believe what they read, if, they read about relationships at all...we all ask about the magic phrase to say.....and I don't think there is one.... to loiralei,

Interestingly enough, nice guys, have good jobs, and they stay in their own little circles.

Our attention span is small, but, we are working on becoming better listeners. I think the average man likes women, and they really don’t want to hurt them. It is like, up until recently,… there is info on relationships for men, but, even then, some, don’t believe what they read, if, they read about relationships at all…we all ask about the magic phrase to say…..and I don’t think there is one….

]]> By: Loiralei http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3371 Loiralei Tue, 25 Dec 2007 19:05:36 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3371 Hunter, I didn't not want that guy "because he was nice" I loved that part about him. I LOVE nice. And by nice, I mean a good person in general that you can actually trust your life and heart with, even some "bad boys" can be good people. It was the part that almost MADE me stay with a guy I had no sparks with. There was just no sexual chemistry. And a guy DOES want to have sex with you reguardless eventually! Its like being with a treasured friend that you love alot but not THAT way. Nice guys are the only ones who are worth it. And its what every girl wants to finish with! Its not fun being in love or sharing your life with a cheater, liar, player, phony, abusive, narcissistic pig (and by the way I've dated all those). But nice guys are just SOOO hard to find! So you need to tell me exactly where that mountain of nice guys is so's I can take a trek there! The scary part is a lot of guys are wolves in sheep's clothing. They act like they are nice of course at first to suck you into their web. (I'm sure some women are like that too). And then there are those red flags that we sometimes choose to ignore because we can't believe they are REALLY insane assholes, etc...Theatregal, that's hilarious! And I read that too that men will usually tell you pretty much what they are all about with what they say and especially like Jeff said their actions right off. If you choose to listen. But I think we as women just choose not to see it or we forgive it or think it'll be different with us. Whereas women come off a bit more complicated because they probably talk so much about so much, feelings, emotions, etc... men are overwhelmed with our girlie understandings and don't listen with their short attention spans and so find it harder to understand what's what. But then there are the new and yet unknown guys we can't figure out, or lying, player guys and manipulative guys with agendas and secrets and guys that don't tell you anything and you can't even drag it out of them. That's why we need Jeff's manslations! Hunter, I didn’t not want that guy “because he was nice” I loved that part about him. I LOVE nice. And by nice, I mean a good person in general that you can actually trust your life and heart with, even some “bad boys” can be good people. It was the part that almost MADE me stay with a guy I had no sparks with. There was just no sexual chemistry. And a guy DOES want to have sex with you reguardless eventually! Its like being with a treasured friend that you love alot but not THAT way. Nice guys are the only ones who are worth it. And its what every girl wants to finish with! Its not fun being in love or sharing your life with a cheater, liar, player, phony, abusive, narcissistic pig (and by the way I’ve dated all those). But nice guys are just SOOO hard to find! So you need to tell me exactly where that mountain of nice guys is so’s I can take a trek there! The scary part is a lot of guys are wolves in sheep’s clothing. They act like they are nice of course at first to suck you into their web. (I’m sure some women are like that too). And then there are those red flags that we sometimes choose to ignore because we can’t believe they are REALLY insane assholes, etc…Theatregal, that’s hilarious! And I read that too that men will usually tell you pretty much what they are all about with what they say and especially like Jeff said their actions right off. If you choose to listen. But I think we as women just choose not to see it or we forgive it or think it’ll be different with us. Whereas women come off a bit more complicated because they probably talk so much about so much, feelings, emotions, etc… men are overwhelmed with our girlie understandings and don’t listen with their short attention spans and so find it harder to understand what’s what. But then there are the new and yet unknown guys we can’t figure out, or lying, player guys and manipulative guys with agendas and secrets and guys that don’t tell you anything and you can’t even drag it out of them. That’s why we need Jeff’s manslations!

]]> By: Theatregal http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3370 Theatregal Tue, 25 Dec 2007 10:30:36 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3370 P.S. Loiralei, I would love to hook up my guy friend's Wacko with your ex and then get to be a fly on the wall. And like you I had a guy who gave me a Red Flag early on. He told me, one morning , while driving me home that he was an asshole. It may not show now, but it could turn up at any moment, so I should be prepared. For some stupid reason, I hung around until he proved it to me. I read or heard somewhere, that you should listen and always believe everything a man says. So, I'm trying harder these days not to reinterpret what they say, just because I want them to mean something else.. Happy Holidays! P.S.
Loiralei,
I would love to hook up my guy friend’s Wacko with your ex and then get to be a fly on the wall. And like you I had a guy who gave me a Red Flag early on. He told me, one morning , while driving me home that he was an asshole. It may not show now, but it could turn up at any moment, so I should be prepared. For some stupid reason, I hung around until he proved it to me. I read or heard somewhere, that you should listen and always believe everything a man says. So, I’m trying harder these days not to reinterpret what they say, just because I want them to mean something else..
Happy Holidays!

]]> By: Theatregal http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3369 Theatregal Tue, 25 Dec 2007 10:11:34 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3369 Hunter, Just because a guy is "nice" doesn't make him automatically unattractive. I've been nastily attracted to men that my friends find amazing not good looking. Some amazingly nice. The spark....the chemistry for me rarely has anything to do with looks. I wish I could pinpoint it. I don't seem to have a "Type". Lot's of my friends, male and female do. have a "Type". I've been in plays, where all most of the women are after the same guy, and he usualy isn't that great looking. It's something else. I won the one in the summer of "78". I wish I could figure out the ingredients. :) Loiralei, I do seem to get the extremes. Either too much "getting to know you" and never any "getting to see you....like, in person"....or "you're my soulmate...let's get married" or "meet me in Palm Springs" after our 2nd phone call. I'm enjoying your social experiment. Keep us updated. Isn't it expensive? Hunter,
Just because a guy is “nice” doesn’t make him automatically unattractive. I’ve been nastily attracted to men that my friends find amazing not good looking. Some amazingly nice. The spark….the chemistry for me rarely has anything to do with looks. I wish I could pinpoint it. I don’t seem to have a “Type”. Lot’s of my friends, male and female do. have a “Type”. I’ve been in plays, where all most of the women are after the same guy, and he usualy isn’t that great looking. It’s something else. I won the one in the summer of “78″. I wish I could figure out the ingredients. :)
Loiralei,
I do seem to get the extremes. Either too much “getting to know you” and never any “getting to see you….like, in person”….or “you’re my soulmate…let’s get married” or “meet me in Palm Springs” after our 2nd phone call.

I’m enjoying your social experiment. Keep us updated. Isn’t it expensive?

]]> By: hunter http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3366 hunter Sun, 23 Dec 2007 17:01:54 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3366 to loiralei, ...luv u 2........ : ) to loiralei,

…luv u 2…….. : )

]]> By: hunter http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3365 hunter Sun, 23 Dec 2007 16:58:23 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3365 to loiralei, ......."I didn't have a spark with, because he was really nice"......how interesting, I have heard, nice guys, don't get much business....and there are mountains, of nice guys out there..... to loiralei,

…….”I didn’t have a spark with, because he was really nice”……how interesting, I have heard, nice guys, don’t get much business….and there are mountains, of nice guys out there…..

]]> By: Loiralei http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/comment-page-1/#comment-3364 Loiralei Sat, 22 Dec 2007 16:51:29 +0000 http://manslations.com/2007/12/18/leading-a-double-life-how-to-come-clean/#comment-3364 Hunter I love you. Signed, obsessed lady. Theatregal, I agree chemistry is the glue and the magnet. Without it, all either falls apart right off the bat, goes blah or icky, either way you have to get away. I've tried to stay with a guy I didn't have a spark with because he was really nice but it just became icky. You get to where you don't want them to touch you EVER and that's not right or fair for them. That first lady your friend met online was truly a crazy. I wish I could introduce her to my ex so they could destroy each other. Like two super heroes of insanity - who needs kryptonite! A perfect match, and it would save everyone else from meeting them. I had a couple girlfriends and boyfriends in my life that were insane in the way that you never knew when they would turn on you for no reason. One gave me a red flag in the beginning telling me he was "very, very unpredictable". He thought it was romantic and exciting to be a wackjob I guess. I still can't figure it out except that they were just truly nutty. If you have any ounce of sanity left you absolutely HAVE to get away from these people or they'll put you in the looney bin and just move on to next victim cause they'll still be FINE with it all. Its their method of operation. Hunter I love you. Signed, obsessed lady. Theatregal, I agree chemistry is the glue and the magnet. Without it, all either falls apart right off the bat, goes blah or icky, either way you have to get away. I’ve tried to stay with a guy I didn’t have a spark with because he was really nice but it just became icky. You get to where you don’t want them to touch you EVER and that’s not right or fair for them. That first lady your friend met online was truly a crazy. I wish I could introduce her to my ex so they could destroy each other. Like two super heroes of insanity – who needs kryptonite! A perfect match, and it would save everyone else from meeting them. I had a couple girlfriends and boyfriends in my life that were insane in the way that you never knew when they would turn on you for no reason. One gave me a red flag in the beginning telling me he was “very, very unpredictable”. He thought it was romantic and exciting to be a wackjob I guess. I still can’t figure it out except that they were just truly nutty. If you have any ounce of sanity left you absolutely HAVE to get away from these people or they’ll put you in the looney bin and just move on to next victim cause they’ll still be FINE with it all. Its their method of operation.

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