Comments on: How Can She Show Her Appreciation for Him?

By: Jst me

Jst me — Wed, 14 Dec 2011 21:17:58 +0000

Wow,i found myslf in da sum situation 2,its realy nt dat easy,coz sumtyms wordz dnt s3m enuf,bt wit advice 4rm u guys,i culd make it work,da only prblm is dat im stil at skul.But hey nthng is impossible

By: Cuda

Cuda — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 01:55:58 +0000

Great question! Im in the same boat!
I could never figure out how to say thanks to a guy in a personal and unique way.
The guy Im seeing now is big into rock concerts and big cd collection (and like almost every guy, big music system.) So for Valentines day, Im getting my guy a DVD of a classic rock concert of one of his favorit bands. No mushy-mushy stuff animal or candy.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 06:05:50 +0000

Dear Kelly, How about expressing that: (1) you have his ‘back’ [figuratively ! literally]; (2) he’s priority 4U as UR4 him [presuming no minor offspring on either side]; (3) his wonderfulness exists in real examples; (4) his potential 4wonder is real and if he hesitates, remind him anything’s possible because you’re near—-even if he’s quadriplegic, he must have a heart’s delight which hints of potential you can suggest. Godspeed & Frolic!

By: The Happy One

The Happy One — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 00:11:20 +0000

The book titled something like”The Five Love Languages” explains the 5 major ways people express love. Touch,gifts,words,gifts of service or time together.
My husbasnd is big on words while i was big on gifts of service. So when he said mushy things or gave me cards it didn’t mean much to me. Last year i asked him to take care of changing/rotating tires on my car as my valentines’ day gift and he did because that meant more to me than a card or candy or flowers.
And when i do a service for him i make sure to tell him what i am doing for him, and that i am doing it because i love him.

By: Beta Mom

Beta Mom — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 13:57:38 +0000

Lucky, lucky girl!

One of the things I know Beta Dad really appreciates is when I get out of my comfort zone and do things that he’s into that I couldn’t care less about. (Keep it clean, folks) Watching football with him, for example. Listening to Bjork (although that has brought us to the brink of divorce). Spending hours at the Apple store looking at wires and such that all look the same to me. Selfless gestures of time in our house are priceless.

Letting him cop a cheap feel from time to time doesn’t hurt either.

By: mar

mar — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 13:51:16 +0000

Jeff, that’s excellent advice. Everyone wants to be loved for how they are, and to love them for how they are, the key thing is to really know them. And to really know someone is not that simple, and it requires continuous observation, care and communication. So that’s the extra-step: not just being happy because your partner is good to you, but to make sure that you really know him.

Good luck Kelly!

By: Selena

Selena — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 12:01:19 +0000

This is a problem? Sheesh. I don’t know why he would think your current ways of showing him your appreciation aren’t genuine.

I suppose you could try surprising him from time to time–getting him a card stating how much you appreciate him; leaving little love notes in his place, his car for him to find. Maybe buying him tickets to an event you know he’d like to go to. Making a dinner of his favorite things, followed by an evening of unbridled passion?

Really, unless you’re a cool customer by nature, how is this an issue? I’d say the best way of showing him how appreciative you are is to not become blase’ about the nice things he does and start taking them (and him) for granted.