Comments on: Why Are Men Such Untrusting Buffoons? A Calm, Rational Question…

By: Ruth

Ruth — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 13:49:23 +0000

All I can say is that my exhubby was extremely jealous and very accusing to the point where I just gave up and never went anywhere unless he was with me.
I found out later on that he was worried I would cheat on him because he was cheatting on me with a family friend and I just didn’t know it. Which is why he is the exhubby…
Now I figure, if the guy is that jealous then he has an alturnative reason which really isn’t about you…

By: Elise

Elise — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 23:35:00 +0000

Jealousy can be an issue of self esteem and trust issues. Sometimes the most jealous men are jealous for a reason! They don’t trust other men or themselves. The most jealous men that I dated have actually cheated on me!!

By: mssinglemama

mssinglemama — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 03:11:37 +0000

I could never be with a jealous man! Jealousy is soooo unattractive and it’s just ridiculous. I think it’s also in the woman’s court to put a naturally jealous man at ease…to not feed any of his insecurities.

By: hunter

hunter — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 17:21:40 +0000

to mmagnolia,

…I am not sure if I read that in, “The Evolution of Desire,” by David Buss, or, “Is Sex Necessary?” by James Thuber……….at 35+ we justify our behaviour with all kinds of reasons…and evidence…..

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 07:17:31 +0000

Jeff, You are absolutely hysterical. Your portrayal of marking your territory on your former girlfriend made me giggle with great intensity. ***could have led to the wetting of my pants*** Thankfully, I was quick to react and made a run for it.

My policy is, and it’s worked for me so far, is….if my actions are right and I’m not doing anything wrong, like walking out of the house fully naked and I’m still being accused of lying, cheating….etc, than something is up with him.

At least that’s been my experience, I believe this is something you deemed “the anger smokescreen” .

I come here to read how to interact with my male coworkers. It’s fantastic. You are truly the zen master!!!

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 04:53:27 +0000

Dear Hunter: Let’s douse that flame a little by considering what survey, how conducted, by whom conducted, what questions asked, and of whom questions asked! On the other grill: there are stats to show equal or greater percentages of married men who admit to extra-marital affairs. If your preferred theory is that married females cannot be trusted, conclusion is itself out-of- reach because faithfulness of woman or man depends on what- woman and what-man under scrutiny. Introduction of data, albeit not fully served, is cheering, nonetheless. Press on!

By: hunter

hunter — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 23:04:45 +0000

to Shelley,

….oh, are you dollying up when you leave the house by yourself?………

By: Selena

Selena — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 19:56:34 +0000

I think when someone does not trust their partner, without a legimate reason, it is because they themselves are insecure.

Accusing a partner of cheating is also sometimes the tactic of a person who is in fact cheating himself. Be aware of that.

By: Lori

Lori — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 18:48:02 +0000

In my case, I am usually the jealous lunatic, not the dude.

In really, really good relationships, I don’t think cheating is concern because if it’s really really good, trust is there.

By: hunter

hunter — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 15:36:27 +0000

to jeff,

…one disadavanatage of being with an attractive woman, she gets hit on almost everywhere you two go…..