Comments on: What if She Sleeps With Him After She First Said “No”? http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/ Advice for smart women who are tired of feeling so stupid about men. Fri, 04 May 2012 06:11:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: jennie http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-8035 jennie Thu, 24 Feb 2011 09:55:07 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-8035 omg this is amazing and super super helpful. thank you so much. i really needed this, and esp loved the sample conversation conversion. omg this is amazing and super super helpful. thank you so much. i really needed this, and esp loved the sample conversation conversion.

]]> By: hunter http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3867 hunter Sun, 02 Mar 2008 16:17:56 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-3867 to jeff, ....men know that the "snippy" thing continues, on and on, mostly embarassing us in public, in front of friends, etc...my prediction is, he may penetrate, and never see her again......... to jeff,

….men know that the “snippy” thing continues, on and on, mostly embarassing us in public, in front of friends, etc…my prediction is, he may penetrate, and never see her again………

]]> By: tee http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3868 tee Thu, 28 Feb 2008 04:16:44 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-3868 Just don't to be too drunk or high when you decide whether or not to have sex... Think of it this way... if I would do it without drinking/drugs then just do it... this will avoid morning after regrets. Just don’t to be too drunk or high when you decide whether or not to have sex… Think of it this way… if I would do it without drinking/drugs then just do it… this will avoid morning after regrets.

]]> By: C&C http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3869 C&C Wed, 27 Feb 2008 21:35:40 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-3869 OK, I can't stop laughing!!!! These are great!!! "Screw the pooch" I almost fell off my chair with this paragaph: "I can’t think of a term that doesn’t sound filthy. Can’t say “foxhole.” That’s terrible. “Bunker”? Or “pillbox”? Nah, makes you sound like your crotch is made of concrete. (MANSLATOR’S NOTE: I am NOT trying to offend any readers whose crotches are made of concrete. But, ah, good luck with that, ok?) You are so clever. Love it!!!!! As far as feeling like a slut, don't. If the sex was good and he comes back, excellent. If the sex was good and he doesn't come back, his loss. But then again, the sex could be bad and he still comes back, that would really suck. Just take one day at a time and enjoy yourself. Use a condom :) OK, I can’t stop laughing!!!! These are great!!!

“Screw the pooch”

I almost fell off my chair with this paragaph:

“I can’t think of a term that doesn’t sound filthy. Can’t say “foxhole.” That’s terrible. “Bunker”? Or “pillbox”? Nah, makes you sound like your crotch is made of concrete. (MANSLATOR’S NOTE: I am NOT trying to offend any readers whose crotches are made of concrete. But, ah, good luck with that, ok?)

You are so clever. Love it!!!!!

As far as feeling like a slut, don’t. If the sex was good and he comes back, excellent. If the sex was good and he doesn’t come back, his loss. But then again, the sex could be bad and he still comes back, that would really suck. Just take one day at a time and enjoy yourself. Use a condom :)

]]> By: anonymouse http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3872 anonymouse Wed, 27 Feb 2008 19:11:59 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-3872 The way I see it, if a man is going to judge me for something he is, in fact, participating in, that tells me a lot about him and his sexual maturity. I've had early sex with lots of follow-up and waited with no post coital follow-up. If you feel like it, take precautions and do it. Don't allow yourself to be labeled a slut (out loud or to yourself) because you are a human being with passion and desire. The way I see it, if a man is going to judge me for something he is, in fact, participating in, that tells me a lot about him and his sexual maturity. I’ve had early sex with lots of follow-up and waited with no post coital follow-up. If you feel like it, take precautions and do it. Don’t allow yourself to be labeled a slut (out loud or to yourself) because you are a human being with passion and desire.

]]> By: Selena http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3871 Selena Wed, 27 Feb 2008 18:49:02 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-3871 Do adults really think in terms of "slut button"? I don't know of any who've held someone in disregard because they felt the person slept with them "too early". (Whatever that means). It would seem though, that some people are bothered by "the number" someone else has. Perhaps that goes back to the old high school mentality of 'slut'. Do adults really think in terms of “slut button”? I don’t know of any who’ve held someone in disregard because they felt the person slept with them “too early”. (Whatever that means).

It would seem though, that some people are bothered by “the number” someone else has. Perhaps that goes back to the old high school mentality of ‘slut’.

]]> By: mar http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3870 mar Wed, 27 Feb 2008 17:05:31 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-3870 Jeff and everyone else I didn't wish to comment on this one, but... on second reflection, this whole idea of the slut button is really a bad thing. And we, women, would be better off without. Sex has to be for the right reasons for everyone, and when it's right for them. Why this concern about what others will think? If they think of women who have sex early as "sluts" isn't that their problem? What self-respecting woman will stay with a man who will think of her as a slut if they have sex too early? Isn't sex for us to enjoy too? Isn't sex for us a strong drive too? As women, I wish we all would stand against this idea, even if we are in reasonable disagreement about when to have sex. Because it's just a matter of individual decision, and each have to decide for himself. And women too. And what others think is their problem. Peace and good luck to all Mar Jeff and everyone else

I didn’t wish to comment on this one, but… on second reflection, this whole idea of the slut button is really a bad thing. And we, women, would be better off without.

Sex has to be for the right reasons for everyone, and when it’s right for them. Why this concern about what others will think? If they think of women who have sex early as “sluts” isn’t that their problem? What self-respecting woman will stay with a man who will think of her as a slut if they have sex too early? Isn’t sex for us to enjoy too? Isn’t sex for us a strong drive too?

As women, I wish we all would stand against this idea, even if we are in reasonable disagreement about when to have sex. Because it’s just a matter of individual decision, and each have to decide for himself. And women too. And what others think is their problem.

Peace and good luck to all

Mar

]]> By: KL http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3876 KL Wed, 27 Feb 2008 16:13:24 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-3876 I like the advice that Jeff gives in other Manslations applied here: Forget about “him” for a moment. What do YOU want? And what do you feel comfortable with? It doesn’t matter if HE thinks you are a slut. The real issue here is what you think of yourself. If YOU want to have sex, than have sex. If he is going to stick around, he’s going to stick around regardless of whether you have sex now or later. If he’s going to bolt, he’s going to bolt – regardless of when you have sex, so you might as well get some sex out of it… That being said, there is that gene or whatever that we women have (the “slut button”)…so I solve this dilemma by only having “early” sex with people I am pretty sure I am not interested in pursuing a relationship with, but I really want to have sex with. So I’m fine if I never hear from them again, because I don’t expect to, nor do I really want to. This is key: Never have sex with someone that you both don’t want a relationship with and don’t want to have sex with. If I really like someone, I wait. I suppose it is partly because of the “slut button” (can’t be helped) but also partly because getting to know someone, that build up of both closeness and sexual tension over time make the sex so much better when it finally happens. “Early” sex can be fun, but it is usually just “good”. It is rarely “great”. And that’s what I’m holding out for. I like the advice that Jeff gives in other Manslations applied here:

Forget about “him” for a moment. What do YOU want? And what do you feel comfortable with?

It doesn’t matter if HE thinks you are a slut. The real issue here is what you think of yourself.

If YOU want to have sex, than have sex. If he is going to stick around, he’s going to stick around regardless of whether you have sex now or later.

If he’s going to bolt, he’s going to bolt – regardless of when you have sex, so you might as well get some sex out of it…

That being said, there is that gene or whatever that we women have (the “slut button”)…so I solve this dilemma by only having “early” sex with people I am pretty sure I am not interested in pursuing a relationship with, but I really want to have sex with. So I’m fine if I never hear from them again, because I don’t expect to, nor do I really want to.

This is key: Never have sex with someone that you both don’t want a relationship with and don’t want to have sex with.

If I really like someone, I wait. I suppose it is partly because of the “slut button” (can’t be helped) but also partly because getting to know someone, that build up of both closeness and sexual tension over time make the sex so much better when it finally happens. “Early” sex can be fun, but it is usually just “good”. It is rarely “great”. And that’s what I’m holding out for.

]]> By: LIsa http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3875 LIsa Wed, 27 Feb 2008 15:12:26 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-3875 Oh! Yeah, and I'm still laughing about "screw the pooch"!!! Oh! Yeah, and I’m still laughing about “screw the pooch”!!!

]]> By: LIsa http://manslations.com/2008/02/27/what-if-she-sleeps-with-him-after-she-first-said-no/comment-page-1/#comment-3874 LIsa Wed, 27 Feb 2008 15:08:18 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=216#comment-3874 OMG!!! That was great.... I'm exhausted from laughing. What you wrote was a masterpiece. I come and read your quips daily for insightful information into the male mind and quite honestly a laugh. You are far under paid (whatever your paid, damn it, it's just not enough!!!) The slut button...... Interview with a womanizer..... Good Stuff..... Personally, I think if it turns out to be a one timer and he's gone......if the sex was great.......say an AMEN for that and move on. Personally, I turn off all emotions after I let a guy in (sorry if that sounds too tacky), expecting him to bolt, it keeps me from feeling used and if he does come back for more (not just sex, but more of me as a whole) then I re-engage those emotions and take it a day/night at a time. I think it's great too that you are open enough to snip and apologize so early. I think sometimes (and I have been guilty of this too many times) that if I act sad, bummed, mad, when I first meet someone that it will run them off. Like I'm not supposed to have any emotions and be a Stepford Wife or something like that. Now-a-days, if I meet someone, I'm open, honest and if I'm pissed off or in a bad mood, or even sad, I'm not going to hide it for fear that they will run. If they can't handle that I too have feelings......then I don't need them. That's just me though!!! Good luck and hope you had or have a great time!!! OMG!!! That was great…. I’m exhausted from laughing. What you wrote was a masterpiece. I come and read your quips daily for insightful information into the male mind and quite honestly a laugh.
You are far under paid (whatever your paid, damn it, it’s just not enough!!!)

The slut button…… Interview with a womanizer….. Good Stuff…..

Personally, I think if it turns out to be a one timer and he’s gone……if the sex was great…….say an AMEN for that and move on. Personally, I turn off all emotions after I let a guy in (sorry if that sounds too tacky), expecting him to bolt, it keeps me from feeling used and if he does come back for more (not just sex, but more of me as a whole) then I re-engage those emotions and take it a day/night at a time.

I think it’s great too that you are open enough to snip and apologize so early. I think sometimes (and I have been guilty of this too many times) that if I act sad, bummed, mad, when I first meet someone that it will run them off. Like I’m not supposed to have any emotions and be a Stepford Wife or something like that.

Now-a-days, if I meet someone, I’m open, honest and if I’m pissed off or in a bad mood, or even sad, I’m not going to hide it for fear that they will run. If they can’t handle that I too have feelings……then I don’t need them.

That’s just me though!!!

Good luck and hope you had or have a great time!!!

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