Comments on: When is a Booty Call NOT a Booty Call?

By: Jeff Mac

Jeff Mac — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:31:15 +0000

BB: Ha — “can’t decide” whether he’s in a relationship. That reminds me of an old Mitch Hedberg joke:

“I don’t have a girlfriend, I just know this girl who’d get really mad if she heard me say that.”

Sorry it didn’t work out…but then again, given who you’re dealing with…maybe I shouldn’t be, you know?

By: Bloomsbury Bell

Bloomsbury Bell — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 22:04:15 +0000

Thanks, all. As AnneZ put it, “Be Gone, Slippery Sir” turned out to be the way to go on this. I “forced the issue” and he immediately went into hiding for a few weeks, from which he eventually emerged with a lot of indirect, third-person stuff. As best I can figure, he can’t quite decide whether he is in a relationship, or at least whether it is or is not exclusive, from one day to the next. (There is this woman on another continent . . . not so convenient when you want dabloons.) I’m a bit disappointed, cause I quite liked the guy, but it’s all a little too hypothetical.

By: mar

mar — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 23:02:59 +0000

Hi all

I don’t know what to say: I’d need to know more about their history!

I think in principle it doesn’t look a lot like a booty call, but I think Barbara Doduk has a point there. Maybe he intended that but then felt it would be rejected?

I think AnneZ is quite right that “closing the deal” is required. Somehow.

I’d say there is some interest, but I don’t know how much (or for what).

Best

Mar

By: Barbara Doduk

Barbara Doduk — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 21:33:53 +0000

Is it at all possible that he was indeed doing a booty call but was testing it out to see if the offer of booty would fly and when it seemed unlikely, bailed by making “plans” for Sunday. Which of course he had no intent on, and which he avoided.

My senses tell me, this “friendly” guy wants to be a sex friend. Last time around the friendship never got to the sex part, and now he’s sniffing you out again to see if you are perhaps more willing to let him in on the sex part this time.

After all you said you were up late and alone and you flirted with him. A late night lonely flirtatious woman – to a man – might mean he might get non-committal sex… no? In a man’s mind anyway that could be his thought process. That’s what my senses are telling me.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 20:54:48 +0000

Oops & Yipes! Forgot 2suggest that Dear PalBB make sure [by ASKING!] that Her ‘He’ is unattached. She’s on his fringe; only He knows! Worse case: Give Him your wettest raincheck!

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 17:47:16 +0000

Yes, Dears, Yes! A “Closer” is needed, stage Right-There. ‘ That Mr. Zebra [Thx, Ms. AZ!] could use assist of palBB as Ms. Giraffe. Why-OH-Why, did She not reach out 2Him b4 his Saturday call! Sometimes, Jane jumps b4 Tarzan, you know?
Ms. BB’s interest seems to be of a non-”booty” call; maybe even an achy ‘true love’ call! Timely news on brainworkings, covering personal and non-personal stuff; ‘Neuroscience’ is confirming some biblical stuff! about biochemicals re-the notion that ‘perfect love casts out fear’.
Bottomline, Ms. BB: At It, Girl & Take a Chance on Love. Could be a 2fer; Hearts you save could be yours & his!

By: AnneZ

AnneZ — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 13:48:04 +0000

Fishing expedition, exactly right. Sounds to me like he needs her to close the deal.

As in, “As a matter of fact, I am free tomorrow between x hour and D hour (approximately 3 hours later). I think it would fun to get together. I would love it. Let’s do it.”

Notice all the clear instructions and unmistakeable stroking in above sample. Not there by accident.

This situation would drive me nuts. I would close the deal. If he wiggles away, be gone, Slippery Sir, cease thy endless window shopping. Next time he called I would laugh it off. Not rudely, but gently. I would tell him he’s not serious and I know it and, ah, well, life. Yanno?

But since neither one of them has forced the issue yet, she still has the possiblity that something wonderful could happen. Me? I’d force the issue. Invite him to something and see what happnes. Let’s see what color the stripes are on this zebra for once and for all.

By: Selena

Selena — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 11:03:50 +0000

Doesn’t sound like a booty call to me either. Sounds like an insomniac seeking out another insomniac to chat. Saturday night isn’t necessarily “date night” to everyone, so I wouldn’t put alot of emphasis on that. Hey, if you were actually on a date you wouldn’t have been home to answer the phone right?

He sounds interested but SLOW. I think if you actually want to date him, you are going to have to be proactive about inviting him to do things with you.