Comments on: Is She Putting Out the Cougar Vibe? http://manslations.com/2008/06/27/is-she-putting-out-the-cougar-vibe/ Advice for smart women who are tired of feeling so stupid about men. Mon, 23 Jan 2012 04:24:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Char (PSI Tutor) http://manslations.com/2008/06/27/is-she-putting-out-the-cougar-vibe/comment-page-1/#comment-6188 Char (PSI Tutor) Wed, 04 Mar 2009 00:51:19 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=319#comment-6188 I think it is your self-confidence that is attracting the younger guys. For me, the guys really flirting are the one's 10 years younger than me or more (I am 37; my cut-off age this year is 28 :-) Just because society in general deems women responsible for men's responses does not mean you have to buy into it. If you are being friendly and they think you want sex, that is their interpretation and you are not responsible for it. Of course their is a line, are you intentionally flirting and calling it friendliness~ well, only you would know that. Or are you flirting in that polite non-serious way that adults are capable of but that the emotional non-adult will misinterpret? I try to treat things like this as a CULTURAL difference, and adapt my behaviour providing I am not over-compromising myself~ as I am so over gender double standards. I think it is your self-confidence that is attracting the younger guys.

For me, the guys really flirting are the one’s 10 years younger than me or more (I am 37; my cut-off age this year is 28 :-)

Just because society in general deems women responsible for men’s responses does not mean you have to buy into it.

If you are being friendly and they think you want sex, that is their interpretation and you are not responsible for it. Of course their is a line, are you intentionally flirting and calling it friendliness~ well, only you would know that.

Or are you flirting in that polite non-serious way that adults are capable of but that the emotional non-adult will misinterpret?

I try to treat things like this as a CULTURAL difference, and adapt my behaviour providing I am not over-compromising myself~ as I am so over gender double standards.

]]> By: Lana B http://manslations.com/2008/06/27/is-she-putting-out-the-cougar-vibe/comment-page-1/#comment-4655 Lana B Sun, 29 Jun 2008 03:31:27 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=319#comment-4655 I am a bit confused here actually JHF. Is it that you can't be friends with these guys cos they think you like them and hence they RUN AWAY? Or that they think you like them and are trying to indeed do the do with you the way that you do best? My problem seems to be the former... that all guys think I like them and so they just don't talk to me for fear that I will try to get them into bed. Hmmm.... Should I be then taking that as the ultimate anti-compliment Jeff Mac? Perhaos a trip to the beautician may be in order, but I doubt it. A good friend has since admitted that he didn't want to talk to me cos he thought I liked him first off, and he was scared of that, which was definitely not the case... considering I was interested in someone else at the time! So which one is it? If they WANT to sleep with you, then THAT'S AWESOME! What the hell? Have a good time cos you're peaking, girl. If it's the other way, I'd be interested in reading the answer to that one too, cos lord knows what the hell I am doing? Oh yeah, and I totally get the flirt fumbling over the man you really want. It doesn't make sense. I feel your pain. I am a bit confused here actually JHF. Is it that you can’t be friends with these guys cos they think you like them and hence they RUN AWAY? Or that they think you like them and are trying to indeed do the do with you the way that you do best?

My problem seems to be the former… that all guys think I like them and so they just don’t talk to me for fear that I will try to get them into bed. Hmmm…. Should I be then taking that as the ultimate anti-compliment Jeff Mac? Perhaos a trip to the beautician may be in order, but I doubt it.

A good friend has since admitted that he didn’t want to talk to me cos he thought I liked him first off, and he was scared of that, which was definitely not the case… considering I was interested in someone else at the time!

So which one is it? If they WANT to sleep with you, then THAT’S AWESOME! What the hell? Have a good time cos you’re peaking, girl. If it’s the other way, I’d be interested in reading the answer to that one too, cos lord knows what the hell I am doing?

Oh yeah, and I totally get the flirt fumbling over the man you really want. It doesn’t make sense. I feel your pain.

]]> By: mmagnolia http://manslations.com/2008/06/27/is-she-putting-out-the-cougar-vibe/comment-page-1/#comment-4654 mmagnolia Sun, 29 Jun 2008 02:57:52 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=319#comment-4654 Three's the Charm for comments......Seems that our Ms. JHF IS having fun BUT enjoying less because her come-hithers are taken differently than she wants. Perhaps, she hoped Her "recently separated" perch would be a kind of protection--maybe. Surpise-Surprise, eh! Sooo, Dear FunPersonette: Be careful with yourself. All *Flirtees* are not equal 2U, nor innocent. Be certain you're Really Honest with Yourself about Why Udo Hoodoo Udo. A "recently separated" guy R gal is fragile on at least one level. BTW: What's "recently separated" mean 2U or do4U when you caption self as that....Is it Your time to kick up heels, sow some oats, then back to the reality show!] Your funLife & loveLife can be sweet, especially if U're clear on anything unclear 2U. Enjoy to sprinkle Your Charms on Guy"prudent" [Excellent, Ms. Selena!] . Good Joys as U tweak His interest in being Your bracelet! Three’s the Charm for comments……Seems that our Ms. JHF IS having fun BUT enjoying less because her come-hithers are taken differently than she wants. Perhaps, she hoped Her “recently separated” perch would be a kind of protection–maybe. Surpise-Surprise, eh!
Sooo, Dear FunPersonette: Be careful with yourself. All *Flirtees* are not equal 2U, nor innocent. Be certain you’re Really Honest with Yourself about Why Udo Hoodoo Udo. A “recently separated” guy R gal is fragile on at least one level. BTW: What’s “recently separated” mean 2U or do4U when you caption self as that….Is it Your time to kick up heels, sow some oats, then back to the reality show!]
Your funLife & loveLife can be sweet, especially if U’re clear on anything unclear 2U. Enjoy to sprinkle Your Charms on Guy”prudent” [Excellent, Ms. Selena!] . Good Joys as U tweak His interest in being Your bracelet!

]]> By: Selena http://manslations.com/2008/06/27/is-she-putting-out-the-cougar-vibe/comment-page-1/#comment-4653 Selena Sat, 28 Jun 2008 00:08:37 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=319#comment-4653 I'm not sure what the problem is here really. She enjoys flirting, but doesn't like the guys coming on to her? Except for the one who she wishes would, but doesn't? Maybe he doesn't because he doesn't take her seriously. Well, she could tone it down with all the other guys and step it up with the selected one. That's all I can think of. And I'm not so sure it's a wonderful idea to be 'on the hunt' anyway if one is *recently* separated. The selected guy might be holding back for that very reason. Call him prudent. I’m not sure what the problem is here really. She enjoys flirting, but doesn’t like the guys coming on to her? Except for the one who she wishes would, but doesn’t? Maybe he doesn’t because he doesn’t take her seriously.

Well, she could tone it down with all the other guys and step it up with the selected one. That’s all I can think of. And I’m not so sure it’s a wonderful idea to be ‘on the hunt’ anyway if one is *recently* separated. The selected guy might be holding back for that very reason. Call him prudent.

]]> By: Bee http://manslations.com/2008/06/27/is-she-putting-out-the-cougar-vibe/comment-page-1/#comment-4652 Bee Fri, 27 Jun 2008 15:46:25 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=319#comment-4652 well....my opinion, since you begged for it: I am a good bit older and single X 7 years after a 27 year marriage (dont do the math). I have been dating for 4 years.....and I do believe that men know when a woman is still married....or separated.... and women can tell the same about a man! In other words, THAT territory combined with flirting, tends to make the other sex think one is out for jollies...fun and fun stuff... with no strings attached. SO, does that make you a cougar? No ....I am the cougar... a single mature lady who younger men think is a great teacher....etc...LOL on THAT one! Just have fun with your sports and friends! Why worry what others think as long as your actions keep you where you want to be. You have enough to worry about! well….my opinion, since you begged for it:
I am a good bit older and single X 7 years after a 27 year marriage (dont do the math). I have been dating for 4 years…..and I do believe that men know when a woman is still married….or separated…. and women can tell the same about a man! In other words, THAT territory combined with flirting, tends to make the other sex think one is out for jollies…fun and fun stuff… with no strings attached. SO, does that make you a cougar? No ….I am the cougar… a single mature lady who younger men think is a great teacher….etc…LOL on THAT one!

Just have fun with your sports and friends! Why worry what others think as long as your actions keep you where you want to be. You have enough to worry about!

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