Comments on: Why Didn’t He Mention The Girlfriend?

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 05:27:47 +0000

I suppose the other thing that I forgot to mention that *might* make a little more sense:

Mr. Two Girls is FRENCH!!!

By: Jeff Mac

Jeff Mac — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 12:53:27 +0000

Susan: Holy cow. That’s actually a little creepier than I was giving him credit for. Gotta give it to him for balls though. Bring a woman home and flirt with another woman right in front of your…whatever she is?? The guy is brave. Dumb and disgusting, but brave.

Good for you for not getting caught in the web there, Susan.

(And no worries on the future Mrs. Manslator. She hasn’t actually gone so far as to kill anyone over comments on the site…yet.)

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 01:55:05 +0000

Just want to make sure that Mrs. Manslator-to-be doesn’t think I’M FLIRTING…heaven forbid!!!

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 01:53:23 +0000

YIKES!!! I just read my entry….I meant congrats on YOUR engagement…not OUR engagement! ay yi yi….

To clarify, I did not confuse Mr. Manslator the Magnificent’s response to my letter as a request for my hand in marraige…

I’m really a quite sharp and bright girl…no really!!! That was just a typo!

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 01:46:08 +0000

Hello everyone! It’s me…SUSAN from the letter above! I was so excited to see my letter appear today “YEE HAW!” and thanks so much for your comments. Boy, I was relieved to hear that someone else had the same experience!!

I realize that I did leave a great deal out of the letter, like the previous year when a co-worker asked if he had a girlfriend or anyone he was seeing he replied NO (I know that could have changed over the course of the year, but you think SOMEONE would MENTION THAT in one of the many EMAILS exchanged!!!); yes, MONICA did stay for dinner; yes, he did continue to flirt with me in front of MONICA; I did not return the flirting as I was still DAZED and CONFUSED (“Wahhh???”) ; MONICA did not seem too happy with my presence AND she appeared to be upset that he was flirting;

Later that evening he invited me to spend the following day with him (it was Saturday) to hang out and visit some monuments and such, curiously AFTER MONICA had stated that she had to work; due to MONICA’s reaction to his flirting at the dinner table (he was seated directly across from me) and my overall confusion with the situation I declined the offer. It was all I could do to be polite and charming throughout the whole evening!

As he drove me home, no passes, simple conversation, no flirting (BIG CLUE); he walked me to the door and gave me hug and kiss on the cheek, wished me a safe trip, invited me back to dinner the next time I was in town (NO THANK YOU), and that was it.

When I sent an email to express my thanks for a lovely evening spent with him and MONICA (I know, but my parents raised me to be polite ALWAYS), SHE responded to my email! Now if that doesn’t scream “HANDS OFF MY MAN B#$%&H!” I don’t know what does!

After giving it some thought, I concluded that somewhere along the way, I must have missed a clue. When he dropped me off, if he were interested, he would have made his move and, when I emailed he would have responded himself. This, ladies and gentlman, I’ve learned from reading Manslations over the last couple of weeks.

To Mr. Manslator the Magnificent: a million thank you’s for your insightful response and for such a FABULOUS website. Congrats on our engagement!

By: Selena

Selena — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 01:33:41 +0000

I think I’d have had to ask. ” So, do you guys live together?” when sitting down to dinner. Or at least ask HIM what the deal was the next day.

Sure wish Susan would write back in with “the rest of the story”.

By: Shelby

Shelby — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 19:36:57 +0000

Yahoo!! And I don’t mean my email address… Finally a manslation in which I get to add a comment!! When I first met my fiance, he took special care to say, “I have a female roomie named M. She was nice enough to allow me to rent on short-notice. When my ex left all my belongings in the parking lot of my workplace, M. was a kind enough person to allow me to be her roomie & there’s never been anything between us. She has a boyfriend named —.” The whole thing put me at ease, I met M and have liked her ever since.
My point is, that anyone who has an interest in dating you — even having a chance to ever sleep with you — would have taken measures to explain another female presence. If mystery woman ate with you, I truly believe that she’s his girlfriend. He probably didn’t introduce her as “girlfriend,” because he assumed you knew he was “taken.” He probably has a somewhat jealous girlfriend who said, “I want to meet Susan, your workmate. If there’s nothing going on between you, then invite her over for dinner.” So he did. He probably also wanted to thank you for help at work, since you two have a friendly work relationship. Dinner would have been a nice gesture then, in his mind. Women sometimes misthink a man’s being friendly as flirting. Robbie had many female coworkers at his old workplace and to keep the things interesting during the day, they’d all email jokes and funnies back and forth. When he left that workplace to move in with me in another city, they gave him some parting gifts. On the bottom of one of those gifts, was a phone number and an email address of one of those females. He was like, “You’ve got to be kidding me…” I said, “She misunderstood your friendly actions as flirting.” Jeff is again 100% correct! If she had dinner with you, she’s a girlfriend and you misunderstood his being nice as flirting. If she’s just a room mate, he should have explained to you that a room mate is all she is.

By: Sassy

Sassy — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 18:53:46 +0000

I really don’t have enough information. Did the roomie stay for the whole dinner? Was the conversation icky? Maybe he WAS just clueless. They are men, after all.

I agree….I want to know what happened!

By: Liz C

Liz C — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 16:51:41 +0000

Hate to jump in with only a ‘me too’, but that’s what I’m doing. I agree with AnneZ.

There is no way to interpret his actions as normal social behavior.

In other words, you’re fine. It’s him. Run away. And I want to hear what happened!

By: AnneZ

AnneZ — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 12:18:04 +0000

Wow. This exact thing happened to me. And what everyone told me was there was no possible good explanation. All answers led to Creepy Couple hunting a third or, at best, beleaguered girlfriend felt philandering was inevitable and did not object. At the very bestest, oblivious girlfriend, with obliviousness that would have Neville Chamberlain sucking in his breath, made philandering boyfriend find it unneccessary to mask his activities.

In my case, the live in girlfriend had moved in with him from hundreds of miles away and still flew back once a month to attend to her veterinary practice. I don’t think she did this to be a “roommate” only!

In my case, the woman was also introduced just as a name (which I have forgotten), not as a title. He brought her to my house. He proceeded to flirt with me right in front of her but she showed no reaction. I was flabbergasted–they didn’t mention she lived with him with till pert near the end of the professional visit (almost an hour). This had been preceded by his coming alone to my house for about 7 weeks of increasingly bold flirtations during professional visits (home veterinary care).

My answer: whatever they were up to, I wanted no part of it.

In Susan’s case, I think she was also hoodwinked into something creepy. Platonic roommates make a point of saying, “Don’t mind me, I’m going over to my sister’s, you two have a great time. Hey, date chick, this is a great guy and he talks about you all the time..” If the platonic housemate doesn’t say it, the date man should.

I think Susan and I got caught up in the same evil vortex. If he wasn’t flirting with her all that time, he would have said “Come on over and meet Monica, my girlfriend, she’d love you.” His silence speaks volumes.