Comments on: Thoughts on Whether to Phone a Jellyfish http://manslations.com/2008/07/28/thoughts-on-whether-to-phone-a-jellyfish/ Ask for Jeff Mac's advice on what men think -- about relationships, dating, sex, love, squirrels, whatever. Tue, 27 Jul 2010 15:10:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Ronnie Ann Ryan http://manslations.com/2008/07/28/thoughts-on-whether-to-phone-a-jellyfish/comment-page-1/#comment-5505 Ronnie Ann Ryan Fri, 14 Nov 2008 13:48:18 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=376#comment-5505 I'm with Doc Jenn - don't touch that phone! Jack is all talk and no action, and this situation is nonsense. Jessica - wake up and smell the coffee - he's not wishy washy, he's full of it. Run now before your run screaming and look for a man who knows who he is and what he wants - YOU! Don't try to pry a man out of his so called misery because you will be the next part of that drama and his unhappiness. I’m with Doc Jenn – don’t touch that phone! Jack is all talk and no action, and this situation is nonsense. Jessica – wake up and smell the coffee – he’s not wishy washy, he’s full of it. Run now before your run screaming and look for a man who knows who he is and what he wants – YOU! Don’t try to pry a man out of his so called misery because you will be the next part of that drama and his unhappiness.

]]> By: Dr. Jenn http://manslations.com/2008/07/28/thoughts-on-whether-to-phone-a-jellyfish/comment-page-1/#comment-5357 Dr. Jenn Wed, 22 Oct 2008 06:05:54 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=376#comment-5357 Should she keep prodding?? no, No, and NO! Wishy-washy is too wussy for real love. End of story. Keep YOUR backbone and step away from the phone. Unless you want to dial up heartbreak! Jeff's right on this one. As always! :) Should she keep prodding?? no, No, and NO!

Wishy-washy is too wussy for real love.

End of story.

Keep YOUR backbone and step away from the phone. Unless you want to dial up heartbreak!

Jeff’s right on this one. As always! :)

]]> By: Heather http://manslations.com/2008/07/28/thoughts-on-whether-to-phone-a-jellyfish/comment-page-1/#comment-4818 Heather Thu, 31 Jul 2008 04:13:19 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=376#comment-4818 He didn't seem to have any trouble letting Jessica go. When a man is with a woman he can't stand, it's rarely true that he can't stand her. He probably just likes the drama and the sympathy it gets him. A man will be where he really wants to be, not where he says he wants to be. Move on. This screams of heartache. And one other thing, if he comes back, make sure things have changed and he's ready for what you want. Like lobster, they will resurface before they are fully cooked. He didn’t seem to have any trouble letting Jessica go. When a man is with a woman he can’t stand, it’s rarely true that he can’t stand her. He probably just likes the drama and the sympathy it gets him. A man will be where he really wants to be, not where he says he wants to be.

Move on. This screams of heartache. And one other thing, if he comes back, make sure things have changed and he’s ready for what you want. Like lobster, they will resurface before they are fully cooked.

]]> By: mmagnolia http://manslations.com/2008/07/28/thoughts-on-whether-to-phone-a-jellyfish/comment-page-1/#comment-4817 mmagnolia Mon, 28 Jul 2008 20:38:48 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=376#comment-4817 Dear Jessica, I second JM/Ms. Tasha's commotions because Your being JackGuy's *leftover* EVEN by default must be unbecoming and unworthy to having Him in your heart! Just say: NO! Be kind 2self by remembering that you had "backbone" to bear & bare your heart. How in anyone's Creation could anyone have Love & Peace with Someone whose bones are missing-in-action. Your thinking that *It* would be "something great" is a sure thing, for the GreatBeyond--where we all will be "SG". In Your here and now, follow the advice YOU probably would give a friend. Besides all that: You're moving, so presume no problem exists when Jack is absent. Also, understand that His absence is His choice; Peace 2Him. Cheers & Joys 2U! Dear Jessica, I second JM/Ms. Tasha’s commotions because Your being JackGuy’s *leftover* EVEN by default must be unbecoming and unworthy to having Him in your heart!

Just say: NO! Be kind 2self by remembering that you had “backbone” to bear & bare your heart. How in anyone’s Creation could anyone have Love & Peace with Someone whose bones are missing-in-action.

Your thinking that *It* would be “something great” is a sure thing, for the GreatBeyond–where we all will be “SG”. In Your here and now, follow the advice YOU probably would give a friend. Besides all that: You’re moving, so presume no problem exists when Jack is absent. Also, understand that His absence is His choice; Peace 2Him. Cheers & Joys 2U!

]]> By: Tasha http://manslations.com/2008/07/28/thoughts-on-whether-to-phone-a-jellyfish/comment-page-1/#comment-4816 Tasha Mon, 28 Jul 2008 12:39:29 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=376#comment-4816 Hi, Jeff, could it just be that this guy, right now gets the "best of all worlds" (a term coined by a very bright linguist friend). To me it eeringly sounds like a) he is comfy with his girlfriend and is not willing to let go (maybe Jessica should look at all the benefits he gets from being with her, social, physical etc) b) the whole "my friends keep telling me I should dump her but poor me I cant" sounds like an excuse. I mean do we actually know that his friends actually tell him to dump her? And even if they do he puts his comfort first and foremost and is willing to stay with somebody he doesnt actually fancy just so that he will have his needs met c) if Jessica wasnt moving to another city would he dump the girlfriend? I dont know but it seems that this is an excuse to let Jessica down "politely" d) Jessica would you really want to date a guy who cheated on his girlfriend with her friend?? (or aquaintance or whatever still you two knew each other and it makes it worse) So, I would think that he is definitely not ready for any sort of commitment and it would be very upsetting for you to put in energy into trying to make him leave this other girl. At the end of the day he knows you and should know how wonderful you are. He was willing to get physical with you and still hasnt sorted himself out and in the process tags both you and the other girl along. I would not call him. Let him sort himself out and this way whatever happens its not going to be a case of "she made me" scenario. All the best Hi,

Jeff, could it just be that this guy, right now gets the “best of all worlds” (a term coined by a very bright linguist friend). To me it eeringly sounds like
a) he is comfy with his girlfriend and is not willing to let go (maybe Jessica should look at all the benefits he gets from being with her, social, physical etc)

b) the whole “my friends keep telling me I should dump her but poor me I cant” sounds like an excuse. I mean do we actually know that his friends actually tell him to dump her? And even if they do he puts his comfort first and foremost and is willing to stay with somebody he doesnt actually fancy just so that he will have his needs met

c) if Jessica wasnt moving to another city would he dump the girlfriend? I dont know but it seems that this is an excuse to let Jessica down “politely”

d) Jessica would you really want to date a guy who cheated on his girlfriend with her friend??
(or aquaintance or whatever still you two knew each other and it makes it worse)

So, I would think that he is definitely not ready for any sort of commitment and it would be very upsetting for you to put in energy into trying to make him leave this other girl. At the end of the day he knows you and should know how wonderful you are. He was willing to get physical with you and still hasnt sorted himself out and in the process tags both you and the other girl along. I would not call him. Let him sort himself out and this way whatever happens its not going to be a case of “she made me” scenario.

All the best

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