Comments on: What if He’s Being a Little TOO Honest

By: Sassy

Sassy — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 12:29:41 +0000

Just another quick thought: People tell you who they are. You just have to listen.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 03:18:55 +0000

Dear Stacey et al: Wow & Wonderful that *He* stepped up! A Woman asked; A Man answered. We should all have seconds of that! Sure: His motives may contradict Hers, but Honesty couldn’t be counterproductive if BOTH He & She wanted it to.

Oops & Pardon, DearJM, but where’s the wolf-of-too-much-info under Moons of Romance? *Nakedness* is a byproduct and the simplest process is ripping off garb in the form of accoutrements and closets! Gosh….sorta-kinda-naked may equal ‘romancing’, but NOT ‘partnering’.

Am wondering also, Ms. Stacey, if Your squeamish is due to not wanting to spread Your own slice o’Life on His table? Tell Him whatever fantasy/slipup may throb within Your bosom. BTW&Golly: IF ULike Him truly, multiply Sweetness4Both!

By: Mimi

Mimi — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 01:02:09 +0000

I don’t trust it. He is telling you in not so many words that he is who he is. He is being honest with you and THAT is exactly how he is getting around it. My ex Mr. Crazy actually admitted to doing just that…it was his “way around it.” This one sounds very clever. Be careful. I would not trust him.

By: tasha

tasha — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 17:44:36 +0000

Hi Stacey,

I would as well proceed with caution. I’m not saying that this guy is no good but at the end of the day he seems to have a lot of experience with women and still told you that he could “slip”. Now if this came from a guy who had just started dating, would be a totally different story. But from a man in his 40s who is looking to “settle down” he was either thinking out loud, testing the waters (and see your reaction) or trying to prepare you for something as Jeff said.

I think I would talk to him at some stage and try to find out exactly what he meant by that “slip”, Because if he gives you an elaborate explanation about how men just do those stuff and it doesnt mean anything blah blah (if he actually defends this position with ease and conviction) then you have your answer. Just listen carefully and you will get your answer.

By: Sassy

Sassy — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 17:24:32 +0000

I think it depends on what you want out of this relationship. You’ve got honesty by the buckets, but sounds like this is a long distance relationship and that he may not be taking it all that seriously.

I’d step back, listen and watch to what he does and then take it from there. Plus, I’d evaluate what I would want.

Good luck!

By: TJo

TJo — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 15:34:07 +0000

Make me nervous? Hell ya! But if you really care for him, proceed with caution. Remain the confident person you are but let him know that under no circumstances will any straying be tolerated and he will immediately be kicked to the curb without a look back. It’s “one & done” you get one chance pal, screw it up & your done. Good Luck!