Comments on: Weird Contact With the Ol’ Ex

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 00:41:22 +0000

Whoa, whoa, whoa! Elizabeth – first you say you think your Ex is a “red-neck loser”, then you call him up and he tries to make you feel better (or at least tries his best to lend you an ear) and THEN you think he’s an idiot for taking your call and saying he was tired the next day…after he texts you to see if you were feeling better?!

Please. I’m with the red-neck on this one.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 21:43:50 +0000

Dear Elizabeth, Mee2 second Friend Mee’s notion!
Your Mr.X might have had a HoneyBun at that weehour. Surely, only a most rare woman would encourage that. After all’s said: HE seems to be exLover, not exFriend—in which case ‘call me anytime’ doesn’t even have wings.

Considering no-connection for 8 years, Mr.X was remarkably kind; God Bless ‘em. Do Self some favors AFTER sending Him a thankU note: [1] Make some Realfriends for midnite-chewing-of-fat; and/or [2] Start keeping a JuicyJournal.

His motives are immaterial to Your purposes. Prepare for a future moment. Luck & Love may make it so that preparation isn’t needed. Enjoy some Happy Hunting!

By: mee

mee — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 20:35:42 +0000

quite honestly, i wouldn’t appreciate it AT ALL if an ex from 8 years ago rang me at 2.00 AM! out of the blue! i think that the guy was very polite, considering the circumstances…..

By: Tonya

Tonya — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 16:38:12 +0000

Jeff Mac. You make me laugh so much. I love you and your silliness.

Ok, with that said, I completely agree! I was thinking, “Hey, she should just stay away from him.” and then I read what you said about her expectation of what the next day’s phone call was like. Isn’t it funny how we do things like that?!

I think you’re right. She did call expecting something because she’s convincing herself of his modus operandi. Maybe she’s hopeful? Anyway good call on seeing right through that.

By: Eric the BeehiveHairdresser

Eric the BeehiveHairdresser — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 14:56:06 +0000

“Your mission is not to open your heart to people who drive you nuts.”

Amen!

By: tasha

tasha — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 12:17:37 +0000

Elizabeth hi,

First of all spinsterfood does not stare you in the face at 27. Are you by any chance Greek? Because I am and all my friends (and myself included) went through this phase of “of, my God I’m approaching 30, I got no steady employment and no ring on my finger”. Some of them realised how stupid that was, some didnt and now are “men hunting” (which is silly…no man wants that kind of pressure). So next time you think the clock is ticking stare at spinsterhood and make faces at it. You dont want ANY guy, you want THE guy and if you dont find THE guy then spinsterhood is bliss trust me!!!

Now, I understand where you are comming from. When you are stressed out and worried and you cant sleep all those “what if” thoughts keep comming back with a vengeance. And usually we end up contacting the old boyfriend whom we still think we got feelings for. And maybe we do. But they are ex for a reason. And we know it. And yes, it is great to have somebody listening to you and physically being there for you when you need them. BUT lets face it, did you actually think this was going to happen when you rung this guy???

I dont think he said something wrong per se. However, I do see why you are angry. You know the guy! You know how he thinks and I bet you know that he didnt like you calling him in the middle of the night. He was being polite, but he couldnt keep himslef from pointing out that your call kept him awake now did he? And so he undid all the good. The one night he is listening and a “friend” and the next he tells you that he was a wee bit annoyed at the call.

Again, what did you expect??

If while you two were dating, this guy had exhibited those behaviours, chances are he is going to do it again. Think of it as a learning curve. You “forgot” his behaviour and he made sure he reminded you why he is an ex. So, next time you feel upset talk to a good honest friend and avoid contacting him. (I went through the same thing with an ex and if and when my request gets manslated, you will see what I mean! )

I know its hard but unfortunately some things are best left as they are….

From one insomniac to another all the best