Comments on: Do Men Want Women Who Act Stupid?

By: Nina

Nina — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 19:12:16 +0000

I’m tired of this “men love dumb women” discussions. Like attracts like. Dumb men go for dumb women.

I am a woman in grad school working on my Phd and I have no issues attracting men. Sure some guys may feel intimidated by my resume but thats their problem and I wouldnt want an insecure, shallow guy anyway. So whats the deal.

I dated men and now in a relationship. From my experience men want a balance. I can talk intellectual topics yet have fun, relax, and be down to earth. A socially awkward or arrogant person isnt fun to be with? Plus you can listen to conversations about tanning and sunglasses so much. It gets boring.

Men are funny. I heard comments that I look hot in glasses and after hearing that I’m a grad assistant some comments were, “I’d love to be a student in any of your classes.” My profession helps because I get to roleplay the sexy librarian/teacher and my boyfriend plays the naughty student. It’s helped our sex life.

When in a relationship, go for a man who’d fully accept, respect you and love you for who you are. If his ego can’t handle it, he’s not man enough for you.

I expect a guy to accept me, respect me for who I am (and likewise I do the same thing).

By: Kayle

Kayle — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 14:53:46 +0000

Spell fail.

By: Kayle

Kayle — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 14:53:11 +0000

I think men don’t like smart women for the same reason stupid people didn’t want Obama for a president or white south Africans didn’t want apartheid to end: they’re dead convinced they’re going to get screwed because their not in control. You know, screwed in the same way they know they’ve been screwing over the “other” for some time or would like to, if they had the intelligence or means.
Other than that, they just feel stupid and they really should go for the lower intelligence ladies just to be fair and equal. Reasonably smart men though? See the above.
If a guy can’t keep up and you weren’t trying, take it as a compliment and a signal to move to greener pastures. If the guy can’t when comprehend that you weren’t competing with him, run away. And be sure to light fire to your trail so he can’t find you once the smoke clears.

By: Pnut

Pnut — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 07:13:19 +0000

forget about all that stuff. what about what a guy wants. im so tired of tryin to make my gurl happy. no matter wat she wants its already done and she dont even have to ask, but on the other hand when it comes down to what i want and what makes me happy. she does not satisfy me at all not even sexually so the moral of this story fellas is lay back sometimes and play the back fild and let your women make that move on you every once and a while, becouse if you run to her aid everytime she wants somthin they windup spoiled. and after a while all they know is what they want

By: Datehazard

Datehazard — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 20:50:09 +0000

I don’t think that men want women to act stupid and “sit purty” like a china doll (as Jeff pointed out), but from my own experience, I’ve had several guys who don’t like that I’m a pretty independent, self-motivated woman.

In fact, on at least two different occasions, I’ve been called “intimidatingly intelligent” (it was meant to be a compliment), and on another, was told that my date — a corporate lawyer — felt that he couldn’t match my wits when we were joking around. I was dismayed, I didn’t think either of those instances were one-upmanship games. Then, other guys have been impressed with my sharpness and have said so too.

It really depends on how confident the guy is who you’re dealing with, and how much more “out of his league” you appear. Or not.

By: thaiyellow

thaiyellow — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 11:36:03 +0000

really~ most guys want to ride a unicorn too JM?

i’m with Grace on this one, sometimes the guys i meet have put so much pressure on themselves to “know what i want”…and base it on stereotypes, that they get very upset when i say what i want-cause it’s so far away from what they were thinking i wanted. and they feel wrong, like they are not able to make me happy.

and then every now and again i meet a guy who has no idea what i want- but wants to provide it and is all ears when i’m stating what that is- and if they are comfortable with my request

e.g., like when i say “isn’t this beautiful!” of my re-potted flowers, and i am nodding my head at him to let him know i want reassurance that it is- so he does say, “Yes, that ‘s beautiful”…and it is a beautiful moment cause now he knows what i want even tho he doesn’t actually give a rat’s butt about flowers. that’s caring

By: Grace

Grace — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 23:31:53 +0000

The thing is that, sometimes woman think if a guy likes her then he should know the certain things she want

but a lot of the times people have very different assumptions and expectations

so yes, asking for what you (i) want does work out much better than just expecting the other person to know

By: Alex

Alex — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 17:04:50 +0000

Thanks for the laugh! Tayna, I don’t know where you have been finding your men, but the guy I am dating loves the fact that I am pursuing my MS/MBA in Accounting. In fact he encourages it. But does this mean he is unemployed and waiting for his gravy train? No, he is gainfully employed and has his own money. This is one (of many traits) my guy enjoys and thinks I am sexy because I have a brain and I am able to carry an intelligent conversation. Bottom line, the common theme from many comments from different situation: Where are you fishing for your guys?

By: Cindy

Cindy — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 15:20:39 +0000

AnneZ, your response gave me the first good chuckle of the day. Thanks for that!
Here’s the bottom line (supplemented with a little story): I just ended a relationship with a guy I was dating when I found out he lied to me about owning his home. I didn’t CARE weather or not he owned his own home, but what I DID care about is that he wasn’t comfortable enough with himself to be honest about his situation and be who he really is. What kind of a foundation would THAT be???? So getting to the bottom line: look for a guy who likes you for YOU….otherwise you’re going to be working awfully hard to be that other person that he wanted you to be & thinks you are…phew, I’m exhausted just thinking about it!!!

By: AnneZ

AnneZ — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 13:40:37 +0000

I dunno, Jeff, I think I was too stupid to read all the way through this. How come there aren’t any pictures? That would help me. Never mind, I usually leave all the reading to my man. He doesn’t like it when I get all uppity.

Sheesh.