He’s also my Facebook friend now; he sought me out, fyi.

So for the moment, I’m just having fun sending masturbation jokes back and forth. Life’s grand, really. I think this would be a much more serious situation if he was working in my office as there is a bit of spark there (one of my co-workers recently described him as my soul mate, which threw me for a loop), but as he is not, the messages just are what they are.

He has a girlfriend you have a boyfriend. You are clearly dissatisfied with your relationship you have no clue how he feels about her. So before you do anything, try to find out what the situation is between them.

Also, those questions he asked you “where do you see yourself in ten years time” etc, I have read them once in a book. A male friend of mine sent me an e-book written by some guy who claims to know everything about women (and puts women down throughout the book btw). The “trick” was to ask those questions to get her thinking and to be different so that she wont know how to respond. Whatever! The thing is, you dont know him that well and the only thing you know is what he chooses to share with you over the emails. Im not suggesting he has read that particular book but the questions were exactly the same!!! My advice would be to make him open up so that you would get the bigger picture.

All the best

You sound already well-enticed by Mr. Reb, BUT marred vs. *married* to the 3yr-bf. FIRST, get clarity on that boyfriend relationship—e.g., is that where Uwant 2B, irrelvant what happens re-enticing & unmarried Mr. Reb. Clarity will act as simple fairness all around.

BTW: What does that “out of line” condition signify 2U, and would Your “it ” equal bad news for the whole quartet?

Ask….to find out, whatever! Outcome won’t differ whether in 4penny or 4pound, but answers can deflate. Truly, “posits” of direct questions are eternal BFs for everyone of us!

If that FIRST issue opened doors, Your SECOND canB to place cards down, face-up in front of Southern Boy. Tell Him that You’re interested (well, RU!), and ReadyFergie IF He becomes unattached. Then, puppies are His to hush or to stroke. In all events, Tantalizing Platters!

However, if you are interested in pursuing more of a relationship with him, you can start asking questions back to him such as “What qualities in a woman make for a solid long term relationship” or “How will you know you have found “the one”?” or whatever leads you into a discussion about relationships past, present and future.

If you ask searching questions and don’t read too much between the lines, you should be able to get more comfortable with eventually asking is there a future for us…

Also, i think his questions are innocent, but you’re kinda hoping they’re not. Nothing wrong with that, but you have to explore why.

Also screams that your current relationship is not really meeting your needs.