Comments on: Separating the Manslations from the Boyslations http://manslations.com/2008/08/11/separating-the-manslations-from-the-boyslations/ Advice for smart women who are tired of feeling so stupid about men. Mon, 23 Jan 2012 04:24:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: thaiyellow http://manslations.com/2008/08/11/separating-the-manslations-from-the-boyslations/comment-page-1/#comment-4884 thaiyellow Fri, 15 Aug 2008 08:24:24 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=437#comment-4884 maybe part of his attraction IS that you are unavailable. i have a housemate who so enjoys flirting and telling me the most wonderful (sometimes weird) things- when I am busy working at my computer. maybe your youn'in is like mine (he is 10 years younger)- little lonely for companionship and so wanting to just woo, but hesitant about being hurt (again) or rejected. you may be like a celebrity substitute- be flattered and use your power wisely. maybe part of his attraction IS that you are unavailable. i have a housemate who so enjoys flirting and telling me the most wonderful (sometimes weird) things- when I am busy working at my computer.

maybe your youn’in is like mine (he is 10 years younger)- little lonely for companionship and so wanting to just woo, but hesitant about being hurt (again) or rejected.

you may be like a celebrity substitute- be flattered and use your power wisely.

]]> By: Jeff Mac http://manslations.com/2008/08/11/separating-the-manslations-from-the-boyslations/comment-page-1/#comment-4883 Jeff Mac Tue, 12 Aug 2008 20:04:19 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=437#comment-4883 <strong>Angela</strong>: Fair question -- how did we get here to begin with? Maybe our friend here gave him a little too much credit as an adult, and helped to encourage this. <strong>Terry</strong>: Yeah, good point -- no sense in getting Chris Hansen involved here. <strong>mmagnolia</strong>: Good perspective there -- looking at it as if it were your kid. Not so "cute" then, eh? <strong>Shelby</strong>: Shelby! Long time no hear!!! And I love the "24" lingo. Defuse. "Ghost" the kid. Gabrielle, your mission, should you choose to accept it... Angela: Fair question — how did we get here to begin with? Maybe our friend here gave him a little too much credit as an adult, and helped to encourage this.

Terry: Yeah, good point — no sense in getting Chris Hansen involved here.

mmagnolia: Good perspective there — looking at it as if it were your kid. Not so “cute” then, eh?

Shelby: Shelby! Long time no hear!!! And I love the “24″ lingo. Defuse. “Ghost” the kid. Gabrielle, your mission, should you choose to accept it…

]]> By: Shelby http://manslations.com/2008/08/11/separating-the-manslations-from-the-boyslations/comment-page-1/#comment-4882 Shelby Tue, 12 Aug 2008 03:53:05 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=437#comment-4882 Jeff is correct, however I want you to understand that you could be facing serious problems. Boys say much out of context and he may implicate you without meaning to cause you any trouble. I'm referring to the fact that he isn't of legal age. And once a young boy with pressure from his friends says or adds to something that may or may not have happened in the first place, it doesn't matter what you say or do. You will be viewed as guilty. You should NOT give this or any kid related to him in any fashion a ride unaccompanied. Nor should you respond to any messages or correspondence from him. Defuse the situation immediately, or else you could be facing something you might have been able to avoid in the first place all together by not responding to him. Be nice but "ghost" this child, for your own good. Immediately. Jeff is correct, however I want you to understand that you could be facing serious problems. Boys say much out of context and he may implicate you without meaning to cause you any trouble. I’m referring to the fact that he isn’t of legal age. And once a young boy with pressure from his friends says or adds to something that may or may not have happened in the first place, it doesn’t matter what you say or do. You will be viewed as guilty. You should NOT give this or any kid related to him in any fashion a ride unaccompanied. Nor should you respond to any messages or correspondence from him. Defuse the situation immediately, or else you could be facing something you might have been able to avoid in the first place all together by not responding to him. Be nice but “ghost” this child, for your own good. Immediately.

]]> By: mmagnolia http://manslations.com/2008/08/11/separating-the-manslations-from-the-boyslations/comment-page-1/#comment-4881 mmagnolia Mon, 11 Aug 2008 21:16:25 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=437#comment-4881 Dears: All of the above is excellent! BUT, let me a One who simply says to our Dear Gabrielle: Shame! Dealing with this is simple: Nip in Bud--without sharing a 'Bud'. DearieJMmee--BeaucoupSmiles4 "crush will starve to death"! Surel]y, being in the "30s" makes one responsible to be the adult when the other one is undeniably an adolescent. Yes-Yes, Ignore his OR any kiddo's bright-eyed, bushy-tailed [figuratively speaking!] admirations of that species. BTW: Am wondering WHY there's any interest fromU in this child. If Loveships are lost-at-sea, hire *Escorts* w/Heavenly cheers. Minimum: (1)You wouldn't want some predator sniffing YOUR child [Yes, Dear Gabb--"he" IS a child]; and (2) You shouldn't take the youngster's ga-ga as personal 'cause to him, You are a mere port-in-storm; (3) Redirect queries2 fashion magsRschool nurse. Never mind if IT seems harshly simple--IT is! Happy Blessings, as YOU search for what YOU need! Dears: All of the above is excellent!
BUT, let me a One who simply says to our Dear Gabrielle: Shame!
Dealing with this is simple: Nip in Bud–without sharing a ‘Bud’.
DearieJMmee–BeaucoupSmiles4 “crush will starve to death”!

Surel]y, being in the “30s” makes one responsible to be the adult when the other one is undeniably an adolescent. Yes-Yes, Ignore his OR any kiddo’s bright-eyed, bushy-tailed [figuratively speaking!] admirations of that species.

BTW: Am wondering WHY there’s any interest fromU in this child. If Loveships are lost-at-sea, hire *Escorts* w/Heavenly cheers.

Minimum: (1)You wouldn’t want some predator sniffing YOUR child [Yes, Dear Gabb--"he" IS a child]; and (2) You shouldn’t take the youngster’s ga-ga as personal ’cause to him, You are a mere port-in-storm; (3) Redirect queries2 fashion magsRschool nurse.

Never mind if IT seems harshly simple–IT is!
Happy Blessings, as YOU search for what YOU need!

]]> By: Terry http://manslations.com/2008/08/11/separating-the-manslations-from-the-boyslations/comment-page-1/#comment-4880 Terry Mon, 11 Aug 2008 15:49:57 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=437#comment-4880 Fashion advice? I'm with Jeff on that one. Anyway, Gabrielle, you don't need to 'let him down easy.' He's underage. He knows that. Don't let him make you the subject of a Dateline special. Next time he contacts you, tell him you're working. Fashion advice? I’m with Jeff on that one.

Anyway, Gabrielle, you don’t need to ‘let him down easy.’ He’s underage. He knows that. Don’t let him make you the subject of a Dateline special.

Next time he contacts you, tell him you’re working.

]]> By: Angela http://manslations.com/2008/08/11/separating-the-manslations-from-the-boyslations/comment-page-1/#comment-4879 Angela Mon, 11 Aug 2008 11:03:52 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=437#comment-4879 I think Jeff's assessment and advice is, as usual, spot-on given the situation as it stands. My concern is with how things got to this stage. Sounds a bit like the lady asker may have been encouraging the boy to begin with, and hinting at things that she knew were inappropriate. How did he get her contact details to be sending her "daily contacts" and "cute messages"? I hope he got them off his friend, but I suspect he got them directly from her - and since they'd just met on the day in question, and assuming she was just innocently giving him a ride to the train station, why would they have exchanged emails/mobile numbers? Additionally, I'm concerned that the fact that the male in question is underage is kind of tacked on to her request like a footnote or an afterthought. Earlier in her message she refers to him as "this guy," "a friend of a friend." Sounds like she considers him an equal, until that Britney-esque closing: "ooo... I forget." Strikes me as a little bit creepy, a little bit predatory. I hope I'm misreading this email or being overly cautious and picking up on meanings that aren't there. But hopefully after taking Jeff's very sound advice, she will think for the future about how to avoid similar "misunderstandings" about underage boys she invites into her car. I think Jeff’s assessment and advice is, as usual, spot-on given the situation as it stands. My concern is with how things got to this stage. Sounds a bit like the lady asker may have been encouraging the boy to begin with, and hinting at things that she knew were inappropriate. How did he get her contact details to be sending her “daily contacts” and “cute messages”? I hope he got them off his friend, but I suspect he got them directly from her – and since they’d just met on the day in question, and assuming she was just innocently giving him a ride to the train station, why would they have exchanged emails/mobile numbers?

Additionally, I’m concerned that the fact that the male in question is underage is kind of tacked on to her request like a footnote or an afterthought. Earlier in her message she refers to him as “this guy,” “a friend of a friend.” Sounds like she considers him an equal, until that Britney-esque closing: “ooo… I forget.” Strikes me as a little bit creepy, a little bit predatory.

I hope I’m misreading this email or being overly cautious and picking up on meanings that aren’t there. But hopefully after taking Jeff’s very sound advice, she will think for the future about how to avoid similar “misunderstandings” about underage boys she invites into her car.

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