manslations

A young lady calling herself “Clueless” is wondering what’s going on with one of her dad’s employees. This dude seems to pay all the attention to HER, and none to his own girlfriend. Is he gunning for her, or what? Let’s find out what he’s doing:

there is a guy i’ve known for 2 years .we live in separate countries and he does some useful stuff for my father..basically employed by him. there is a pretty big age gap between me and the guy-of 11 years.

Ok, leave it ambiguous if you want to. But just so you know, I’m going to picture him smuggling endangered animals to a secret, underground dinner party like in “The Freshman.”

he already has a girlfriend who 2 yrs ago he told my pa he would be marrying and he still hasn’t.
and he doesn’t treat her nice.i know this cuz she told me.she is head over heels in love with him and doesn’t get the hint by the guy’s actions that he is ignoring her..um..by ignoring i mean,replying once to her 100 msgs(exaggerating of course),just calling her once at night and talking totally to the point with her,while she calls him a few times and he doesn’t pick up even once,not meeting him for 3 weeks and showing that he’s way too busy etc

Ok, so you seem to be semi-fluent in the art of manslations so far. His actions are telling the tale here (as always.) So what’s the issue? By the looks of that pink text coming up next, I’m guessing you’re gonna ‘splain.

the problem is that even though i have myself seen him treat her this way when me and my family visit his country,still i cant relate to it..

because..

he calls ,msgs,mails me everyday,tells me about his day and asks me about mine,takes care and remembers every little and silly thing i have ever told him. we have also been out quite a lot of times,not out alone but with our families when we are visiting and he always walks very close to me,putting his arm around my shoulder,offering me his coat when it gets cold..

he also likes to touch and play with my hair.(by the way what is up with that??)

anyway,by the way he attends to my every little comfort and shows his care and concern..could it be that he likes me?

if so,why isn’t he telling me that he does?

thx for answering

Dear Clueless,

Ah. Now I see. Ok, you’ve got 2 questions here, and I’m going to answer both of ‘em. That’s how it works here at Manslations, ok? If you’ve got 2 questions, I’m not going to answer 4 — wouldn’t make any sense.

COULD IT BE THAT HE LIKES YOU?

Well, it certainly could be. At the very least, he seems infatuated with you. I mean…playing with your hair? Dead giveaway. Always. Once again, no guy wants to play with your hair unless he wants to make out with you, or style your hair.

Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants to be in a relationship with you. But it is one of those excuses to touch a person that clues you in — this guy wants to TOUCH you.

As for all the other stuff, the asking how you are, etc. — as I say, it’s at least an infatuation or a crush. Maybe more. Who knows? Not us, because he’s not saying anything. Which leads us to…

HOW COME HE’S NOT SAYING ANYTHING?

It’s hard to say specifically why, but given what you’ve told us, there are any number of possibilities. Such as:

• He works for your father, and doesn’t want to end up getting whacked.
• For some reason, he intends to go ahead and marry this other girl in spite of the fact that he isn’t all that crazy about her.
• He wants to have an affair with you, but doesn’t want to make the first move so he can claim it was all your idea.
• He doesn’t know where you’re at with the whole thing, and he knows that given your situation (family, other woman, the fact that he’s way older, etc.) he doesn’t want to go out on a limb without knowing what comes next.

I think that whatever the main reason, it’s that last one that’s the kicker. Your situation is a complicated one. If something were to happen between the two of you, it had better be for real, because it’s definitely going to make some waves in all of your lives, right?

Good luck, Confused. I don’t know what you want with this guy, so I don’t know what to tell you about what to do next. But I’ll say this — I’d be careful. That’s what he’s doing.

What’s your sense of this guy, ladies? Interested for real, or what? And why so quiet about it?