Comments on: Can She Teach An Old Dog New Tricks? http://manslations.com/2008/09/05/can-she-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/ Ask for Jeff Mac's advice on what men think -- about relationships, dating, sex, love, squirrels, whatever. Tue, 07 Sep 2010 00:30:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: mmagnolia http://manslations.com/2008/09/05/can-she-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/comment-page-1/#comment-5060 mmagnolia Mon, 08 Sep 2008 05:02:04 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-5060 All*Dears! Whoa....Please hold those pens! Any "fundamentally wrong" scenario is within notion that general statements apply to particular folks. [HunterDear, UR QuiteRight; viagra is not Agoodie.] Even hereabouts, a professorBud observed longago that if one doesn't bleed by age 17, one never grows up; he was wrong2, then and now! Here's a sweet wish: Dry those hankies, IF on behalf of us *Geezettes* who enjoy "fundamentally" wonderful lives which, absolutely, can be enhanced by soulmates; but... For sure! a fundamentally *right* issue of Life is to love and be loved, thereby helping self and another to become better selves! Let's applaud the picking of whatever Petunia, at one's leisure and at one's will! Besides all that--some flowerbeds have 'issues', anyway. Cheers2 Our Gardening & Betterment! All*Dears!
Whoa….Please hold those pens!
Any “fundamentally wrong” scenario is within notion that general statements apply to particular folks. [HunterDear, UR QuiteRight; viagra is not Agoodie.]

Even hereabouts, a professorBud observed longago that if one doesn’t bleed by age 17, one never grows up; he was wrong2, then and now!

Here’s a sweet wish: Dry those hankies, IF on behalf of us *Geezettes* who enjoy “fundamentally” wonderful lives which, absolutely, can be enhanced by soulmates; but…

For sure! a fundamentally *right* issue of Life is to love and be loved, thereby helping self and another to become better selves! Let’s applaud the picking of whatever Petunia, at one’s leisure and at one’s will! Besides all that–some flowerbeds have ‘issues’, anyway.

Cheers2 Our Gardening & Betterment!

]]> By: Christina http://manslations.com/2008/09/05/can-she-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/comment-page-1/#comment-5058 Christina Sat, 06 Sep 2008 20:48:00 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-5058 Sabrina, He sounds great. There are myriad reasons why someone wouldn't be in a relationship for a long periods of time--possibly many good reasons among them. Our society tends to pathologize singlehood (reference Shelby's comment above, "My forensic psychiatrist friend once said that if he/she hasn’t been married/in a lengthy serious relationship or have had a child by the age of 30, there is something fundamentally wrong with them") for a lot of reasons, most of which are bunk. In fact, your man may simply be unusually independent and self-sufficient, or he may be astute enough to sense early when people are not right for him, respectful enough to terminate an relationship before wasting his partner's time, and/or responsible and confident enough to not jump into a relationship just to lengthen his dating resume. For more on the perspective of single-not-pathological, you might want to check out Bella DePaulo's Living Single blog at http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single or Lisa's and my blog at http://onely.org. Good luck! CC Sabrina,
He sounds great. There are myriad reasons why someone wouldn’t be in a relationship for a long periods of time–possibly many good reasons among them. Our society tends to pathologize singlehood (reference Shelby’s comment above, “My forensic psychiatrist friend once said that if he/she hasn’t been married/in a lengthy serious relationship or have had a child by the age of 30, there is something fundamentally wrong with them”) for a lot of reasons, most of which are bunk.

In fact, your man may simply be unusually independent and self-sufficient, or he may be astute enough to sense early when people are not right for him, respectful enough to terminate an relationship before wasting his partner’s time, and/or responsible and confident enough to not jump into a relationship just to lengthen his dating resume. For more on the perspective of single-not-pathological, you might want to check out Bella DePaulo’s Living Single blog at http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single or Lisa’s and my blog at http://onely.org.
Good luck! CC

]]> By: hunter http://manslations.com/2008/09/05/can-she-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/comment-page-1/#comment-5057 hunter Sat, 06 Sep 2008 06:23:18 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-5057 Man has had heart surgery, I don't think he can go on Viagra.......or can he?...... Man has had heart surgery, I don’t think he can go on Viagra…….or can he?……

]]> By: Shelby http://manslations.com/2008/09/05/can-she-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/comment-page-1/#comment-5056 Shelby Sat, 06 Sep 2008 06:08:17 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-5056 My forensic psychiatrist friend once said that if he/she hasn't been married/in a lengthy serious relationship or have had a child by the age of 30, there is something fundamentally wrong with them. But! That there is always the exception to the rule. Case in point, my aforemention friend. He's simply careful and picky. He knows what he wants. If "all the checkmarks are in the right place," then why not give it a go? Opinions are worth only what you pay for them...but mine is this: If things seem wonderful, wait it out. I would. For the right guy. Of course be careful of yourself, but if you're genuinely happy, stay with what works and give it a go. best of luck!! My forensic psychiatrist friend once said that if he/she hasn’t been married/in a lengthy serious relationship or have had a child by the age of 30, there is something fundamentally wrong with them. But! That there is always the exception to the rule. Case in point, my aforemention friend. He’s simply careful and picky. He knows what he wants. If “all the checkmarks are in the right place,” then why not give it a go? Opinions are worth only what you pay for them…but mine is this: If things seem wonderful, wait it out. I would. For the right guy. Of course be careful of yourself, but if you’re genuinely happy, stay with what works and give it a go. best of luck!!

]]> By: mmagnolia http://manslations.com/2008/09/05/can-she-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/comment-page-1/#comment-5055 mmagnolia Sat, 06 Sep 2008 05:43:49 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-5055 Postscript, SabrinaDear... JMDear's "viagra" suggestion was !eureka, but check internet for natural, non-lethal fruits. Can't err being gently cautious, exactly! as wanting 4Self. SweetCheers! Postscript, SabrinaDear…
JMDear’s “viagra” suggestion was !eureka, but check internet for natural, non-lethal fruits. Can’t err being gently cautious, exactly! as wanting 4Self.
SweetCheers!

]]> By: mmagnolia http://manslations.com/2008/09/05/can-she-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/comment-page-1/#comment-5054 mmagnolia Sat, 06 Sep 2008 05:11:26 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-5054 Dear Sabina: Deelighted 2Second JM/Selena; "my gosh"--perfect & Hey, Ma, "less baggage"! Ignore that tawdry tune about *never married/never cohabitated*; melody depends on Which Guy as it would on Which Gal. Better to practice a 3-step of Will+Way equals Goal! Make efforts toward gentle de-cloistering of Your PalPerfect! Use that SoulMateness stuff to turn any age difference into a Treat! BTW: "47" isn't ancientville, not even near the 'hood'. Re-the LushStuff, seek out TV/Web reruns of 'Talk Sex w/Sue', who gives straight, soft, knowledgeable, hilarious answers. BTW2: She's possibly twice Both your ages! Also....there's a bookPair ['She Comes First' & 'He Comes Next', by Ian Kerner] 2stoke, read 'em 2gether! IF U want what U say U want, that IT could succeed there & now. Mr. PalPf seems to want the same. Soooo, Serenade & enFlower HIM! Enjoy making Good, Grand! Dear Sabina:
Deelighted 2Second JM/Selena; “my gosh”–perfect & Hey, Ma, “less baggage”!

Ignore that tawdry tune about *never married/never cohabitated*; melody depends on Which Guy as it would on Which Gal. Better to practice a 3-step of Will+Way equals Goal!

Make efforts toward gentle de-cloistering of Your PalPerfect! Use that SoulMateness stuff to turn any age difference into a Treat! BTW: “47″ isn’t ancientville, not even near the ‘hood’.

Re-the LushStuff, seek out TV/Web reruns of ‘Talk Sex w/Sue’, who gives straight, soft, knowledgeable, hilarious answers. BTW2: She’s possibly twice Both your ages! Also….there’s a bookPair ['She Comes First' & 'He Comes Next', by Ian Kerner] 2stoke, read ‘em 2gether!

IF U want what U say U want, that IT could succeed there & now. Mr. PalPf seems to want the same. Soooo, Serenade & enFlower HIM!
Enjoy making Good, Grand!

]]> By: Liz C http://manslations.com/2008/09/05/can-she-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/comment-page-1/#comment-5050 Liz C Fri, 05 Sep 2008 16:12:24 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-5050 Sabina, I'm in a situation similar to yours, except my guy was married for 6 years, but no other serious LTRs. And he's over 50. We're going on 18 mos together now and will probably eventually tie the knot. It's not always issue-free, but the issues aren't all his -- hell, I was married for over 25 yrs and I have plenty of issues of my own to work thru. I think you've got a great chance here! Just take it slow and keep an open mind. I'm so lucky to have found my guy (also an old friend, from over 20 yrs ago) and wouldn't trade him for the world. And ED drugs are a nice enhancement for those of us over a certain age. :) Sabina, I’m in a situation similar to yours, except my guy was married for 6 years, but no other serious LTRs. And he’s over 50.

We’re going on 18 mos together now and will probably eventually tie the knot. It’s not always issue-free, but the issues aren’t all his — hell, I was married for over 25 yrs and I have plenty of issues of my own to work thru.

I think you’ve got a great chance here! Just take it slow and keep an open mind. I’m so lucky to have found my guy (also an old friend, from over 20 yrs ago) and wouldn’t trade him for the world.

And ED drugs are a nice enhancement for those of us over a certain age.
:)

]]> By: Selena http://manslations.com/2008/09/05/can-she-teach-an-old-dog-new-tricks/comment-page-1/#comment-5049 Selena Fri, 05 Sep 2008 14:04:36 +0000 http://manslations.wordpress.com/?p=521#comment-5049 It's not as if he has no r'ship experience, you wrote he was involved with someone for 6 yrs. And I wouldn't rule him out given that you have been enjoying the last 3 mos. It could be a matter of having taken him 47 yrs. to find YOU. I don't think you need to rush living together, or marriage--why don't you just take the next 3 mos. and see how it goes? As far as the libido issue, I like Jeff's idea of commenting (lightly) on the viagra commercial and possibly (hopefully) opening a dialog from there. If you get closer to each other, this seems like an area you can work on as long as he's motivated. And there is a positive to becoming involved with someone less experienced...they often have far less baggage from previous relationships that ends up affecting yours. It’s not as if he has no r’ship experience, you wrote he was involved with someone for 6 yrs. And I wouldn’t rule him out given that you have been enjoying the last 3 mos. It could be a matter of having taken him 47 yrs. to find YOU. I don’t think you need to rush living together, or marriage–why don’t you just take the next 3 mos. and see how it goes?

As far as the libido issue, I like Jeff’s idea of commenting (lightly) on the viagra commercial and possibly (hopefully) opening a dialog from there. If you get closer to each other, this seems like an area you can work on as long as he’s motivated.

And there is a positive to becoming involved with someone less experienced…they often have far less baggage from previous relationships that ends up affecting yours.

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