Comments on: What do Guys REALLY Think of Girl-on-Girl?

By: marty

marty — Sun, 10 May 2009 03:36:22 +0000

OK, I know I’m a bit late commenting on this, but I just recently discovered manslations.
I am bisexual… I actually prefer the term queer, because for me, it is not just about sex, but that’s another story.
My ex (male) was fine with my bisexuality, sometimes thought it was hot, sometimes thought it was cool because it showed my non-conformist ways, but still, every now and then he’d get incredibly jealous, particularly of my lesbian friends. Frankly, it was a pain, but hey, nobody is perfect. I had to explain to him at least every couple of years (I guess his memory was not what it used to be) that no, I would not grow uninterested and unfulfilled with him because he was a man and not a woman (I did grow uninterested and unfulfilled, however, because he was an self-absorbed irresponsible man). No, I did not need to have sex with women while in a relationship with him, same ways as I didn’t need to have sex with other men…
There appears to be this misconception that bisexual means you are in to open relationships, but me, no, not really. I am bisexual monogamist.
I normally try to bring up the fact that I’ve been in relationships with women pretty early on because it is very telling to see how a guy reacts about this (or lesbian girl when learning I’ve been with men). I am not interested in dating a homophobe (or heterophobe) or someone whose only understanding of non-straightness is mainstream depictions of to barbie-looking girls kissing/making out/getting it on. But that’s just me.

By: Jeff Mac

Jeff Mac — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 13:38:19 +0000

Miss Curious: I’m glad to hear that your douchebag-o-meter has been calibrated correctly. And again, if a guy is reasonable, I can’t imagine any unsurmountable turbulence from this. (And as T pointed out, hell, it may very well become his most very favorite tale.)

By: Miss Curious

Miss Curious — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 20:04:40 +0000

Also wanted to add, excellent point about it revealing the insecurity rather than creating it. Writing this down now…

By: Miss Curious

Miss Curious — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 19:59:44 +0000

Yep, its the OP here:)
Jeff – you gave an EXCELLENT response. Fact is, I have not been dating seriously for about 3 years now due to the fact that my last relationship was a total abusive nightmare. I have pretty much forgotten what it was like to date anyone that is well… *normal.*
I have had several sexual encounters with woman in all my 27 years. It’s still something that I am coming to terms with as I mature, so mmagnolia hit the nail on the head with my level of comfort in discussing this.
I love women, being with women but have never been interested in actually having a relationship with a woman. As the first commenter said, I love the peen too much to give it up
The reason I asked how REASONABLE men think when told this kind of information (if I were to tell them) is because I know what the douchebag’s reaction would be. No worries, my douchebag radar is pretty much finetuned to a nanometer these days so that is a non-issue.
I just feel like I would be lying if I were not to divulge this information in a serious relationship down the road. It could change though, as you said, the right person it shouldn’t matter.
PS – sending in another question from the latest dating episode. It will be short again
Thank You!

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 03:00:23 +0000

Oh! Dears,
First thought was to pass the topic because woman-2-woman romance is not my cuppaTea. But, allow 1.5cents from an unrepentantly [One!] man’s woman.

JMdear, your point about “trust” is the kitty’s best meow. Male/Female anxiety on issue of Who-Did & Wants2Do-Whom revolves around trust. Oh, chastityBelts!

Happy2offer affirmation 2Ms. Curious, who seems a bit unsteady, unsure about Her womanly expressions. Text seems to give off that She’s sorta uncomfortable indulging in that delicacy. An 88yr old hetero-woman who remained coupled, 60 years 2Same man explained to me her theory on same-sex treats as being: Love is Love, whether of a person or one’s sexuality!

Some women friends have had women as partners, and some male friends–males. Some romances were both friendship & sex-based, and generally much in the open. If any relation is embarrassing, charm is dulled, whether it’s a *same or non-same” sexual pleasure.

Bottomline, Ms. Curious: Don’t fret about a guy who moans that You arrived at the door with a Smile! It’ll be his Loss!

By: Val

Val — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 19:02:09 +0000

I was engaged to a man who’d I’d been with for about four years, before dating a woman for about ten. I just broke it off with the woman about a year ago and have been dating only men since then. I was quite nervous about how guys might react to the news of 10 years with a woman, but I have to tell you – no need! I’ve had nothing but positive, and often down right enthusiastic reactions to this piece of information. So don’t sweat it, Miss Curious. It’s no big deal.

By: T

Fri, 12 Sep 2008 14:03:12 +0000

Well now….

I have been with girls myself. A few of my girlfriends ran into problems with jealousy once they shared the story with their significant others. I actually know another girl who left her husband recently for a woman. I can see where the threat is more real these days as society gets more relaxed with the idea of same-sex couples. But as you stated, this could easily have applied to cheating in general.

I asked my soldier about it (and of course, he only wants details. like as often as I can dish them out. like its his favorite set of bedtime stories…).

He said that he’s not threatened by it at all because he knows I love the penis. And girls, very simply, lack in that area. He’s quite cocky about it actually. (yeah, I had to go there.)