Comments on: Why Are Men Such Bad Kissers?

By: marty

marty — Wed, 13 May 2009 03:21:47 +0000

I’m all for passionate kissing, but yeah, there are some guys out there that don’t quite have the technique down.
I have to say that my worst kissing experience (at least that I remember) was with a dear friend that I had been flirting with for years. One we finally got down and dirty it was so disappointing. He did the pecking thing. What am I? Bird food? I wanted to hold on his head, pry his mouth open and stick my tongue in. Needless to say, that didn’t work out.
Recently I had a very good kissing experience and my tongue was sore for days. The best part was that he could also do tender soft kisses when appropriate.

By: No time to lose

No time to lose — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 03:33:38 +0000

I have broken up with men in my life who were bad kissers and UNTRAINABLE: 1. sloppy dog kisser. 2. The helicopter kiss. The first is obvious, but the second – just imagine a tongue that believes it is trying out for Cirque D’ Soleil! It went around and around in side my mouth. Even thought this guy had a great job – a home – two cars, I couldn’t make it work. I would literally stop him and tell him to “feel” the kiss with me. But soon…while we were making out..away it would go! Twirly twirly twirly.

By: Theatregal

Theatregal — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 10:51:07 +0000

I agree that it often depends upon the moment. Cuddling often requires soft kisses, but when we are both revved up on high wonderful, passionate tongue kisses are required. I had never really had a truly terrible kiss since Junior High School until I started dating again after my divorce. I went out with a guy who was doing and saying everything right, plus he was 12 years younger than me. Then he moved in for the kiss good bye. UGH!!! I had not been the receiver of “the Wide Mouth Bass with the Jack Hammer tongue” since I was 12. I tried every way possible to help him to change. Finally, I realized that this was going to require a small talk of some sort because “subtle” was completely lost on him. He was 34, so I couldn’t imagine that someone hadn’t brought the subject of the way he kissed up at sometime. So, I just jumped in. I very nicely explained to him that it was much more of a turn onto be kissed by a man with soft, tender lips, as opposed to lips stretched so tight and open and far apart they couldn’t move…..and tongues that explored one another in a very sensual working through to sexual as the thermomometer rises than to have my mouth literally attacked by what seemed to be not attached, had a mind of it’s own, and was about to kill me. Well, I received an answer that NEVER crossed my mind. He wasn’t upset at all. He looked at me quizically and sais, “You know. you’re not the first woman to tell me something very similar to that.” I said,”Okay. Then how come you haven’t changed the way you kiss?” He said, ” Because this is the way I like to kiss. I like it and I don’t want to change.” We talked a little more about coming to some sort of middle ground or compromise and he didn’t want to change, even though I found out most of his “relationships” never lasted more than a few weeks. Go figure.

By: Luna

Luna — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 15:24:29 +0000

I’m with K on this and maybe cultural differences should be considered too. I’m South American and upon moving to the US was dissapointed with the too gentle no tongue action kisses – which to me screams bad kissers! I felt like telling these guys “hey your tongue is very welcome down my throat!”

By: Single Mom Seeking

Single Mom Seeking — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 05:40:05 +0000

This is going down as one of my all time favorite posts.

This is classic:
“They’re into it, they want to be MORE into it, and they figure, “Let’s crank this thing up to eleven and see how she flies, shall we?” Dopey logic, but there it is.”

By: Grace

Grace — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 05:07:45 +0000

Very true, you just gotta let him know…..and seriously everyone has slightly different standard on what’s a good kiss, so yes, let him know what’s yours

It’s a two-way thing, so try to find out what’s good for him too

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 01:25:09 +0000

Dears! Merci….am getting h-o-t in the mostBest sense compliments of seems the shortest ‘slation query! ‘Slation prescription, DearLea, is perfection–demonstrate 4Him on Him 4U!

Yippee, “K” : Totally agree on being “voraciously” kissed, the ideal resuscitating mouth2mouth!

Pardon, am I alone to consider prospects for that “cow’s tongue”? What if it was from a nice free-range bull out of the woods! Oh, wrong door or girlish greed!

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By: Selena

Selena — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 23:08:27 +0000

Re: Heather’s comments

Yep, IKWYM too. It’s all about the chemistry wouldn’t you say? If it’s there, the kissing is great. If it isn’t it’s one big yuck!

By: Liz C

Liz C — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 22:24:58 +0000

Heather — eeewww! But IKWYM. Gag!

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 21:01:35 +0000

I agree it’s in the timing. I made out with a guy once and all I could picture was the cow’s tongue in the meat freezer at the grocery store. It was horrible! But when you are really enjoying someone’s company, it’s nice to escalate to deep passionate, I can’t-be-without-you kisses…..sigh.