Comments on: Is He Scared of Her? http://manslations.com/2009/01/12/is-he-scared-of-her/ Advice for smart women who are tired of feeling so stupid about men. Mon, 23 Jan 2012 04:24:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: mmagnolia http://manslations.com/2009/01/12/is-he-scared-of-her/comment-page-1/#comment-7411 mmagnolia Fri, 17 Sep 2010 23:08:31 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1385#comment-7411 Excellent option2point, Dear Ms. GJ! Quickest cut2chase (2enjoy capture) happens when Guy [rGal] apologizes 4His [rHer] presumed "wrong"! ....It's possible that what He [rShe] presumed 2B "wrong is NOT so wrong in the eyes of that significant Other. Honesty can be its own best reward! Excellent option2point, Dear Ms. GJ!

Quickest cut2chase (2enjoy capture) happens when Guy [rGal] apologizes 4His [rHer] presumed “wrong”!
….It’s possible that what He [rShe] presumed 2B “wrong is NOT so wrong in the eyes of that significant Other.

Honesty can be its own best reward!

]]> By: Gani Jaranilla http://manslations.com/2009/01/12/is-he-scared-of-her/comment-page-1/#comment-7407 Gani Jaranilla Fri, 17 Sep 2010 12:02:43 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1385#comment-7407 Guys are only scared of their partner if they are aware that they have done some wrong that will really affect their relationship. Guys are only scared of their partner if they are aware that they have done some wrong that will really affect their relationship.

]]> By: Shelby http://manslations.com/2009/01/12/is-he-scared-of-her/comment-page-1/#comment-5905 Shelby Sat, 17 Jan 2009 00:31:34 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1385#comment-5905 MY fiance Robbie (thank-you again, JEFF MAC!!--I owe this 16-day-new engagement all to Jeff for the almost-two yrs. of his advice) was dating a nutjob whom was 20 yrs. his senior prior to dating me. They dated on and off again for a while until he got with me just over two years ago. He told me that the age thing with her made it really hard for him, not to mention other things about her that didn't sit well with him. Not that a guy and a gal with a big age difference can't be happy; I was married to an older doctor when I was just 21, he was 43. It didn't work out because I was a friggin' kid at the time but some "May December" relationships can actually be okay. Rob gave a similar speach to his ex once because he didn't want to sound like a jerk. She was calling (9 times in a row once) and playing music on the phone (creepy) when WE were together in an attempt to get him back (she's real lonely I think) so my 2 cents is when you do contact this guy you like who's younger, please don't do anything weird. It might creep him out and make you look insane. And whatever you do, do not call his mother or friends. My fiance's ex did that and it weirded-out him, his mother and ME, especially. Your phone call should be nice and light in my opinion, since I have sort of "lived" the older-ex-trying to get back-thing. Rob for example was seriously weirded-out but then again, he was trying to give the nice brush-off. And during a short time in which we had some troubles (due to this lady and MY insecurities) he actually considered using her as a place to crash for a while until he got his life together in the chance that we broke up. The whole "older gal can take care of me for a while" thing. And you do NOT want to be used like that or for that. He told this lady she deserved better and he was a loser as a fader attempt so she'd just move on instead of fixate on him. So watch out for that, you don't deserve that. Good luck!! :) MY fiance Robbie (thank-you again, JEFF MAC!!–I owe this 16-day-new engagement all to Jeff for the almost-two yrs. of his advice) was dating a nutjob whom was 20 yrs. his senior prior to dating me. They dated on and off again for a while until he got with me just over two years ago. He told me that the age thing with her made it really hard for him, not to mention other things about her that didn’t sit well with him. Not that a guy and a gal with a big age difference can’t be happy; I was married to an older doctor when I was just 21, he was 43. It didn’t work out because I was a friggin’ kid at the time but some “May December” relationships can actually be okay. Rob gave a similar speach to his ex once because he didn’t want to sound like a jerk. She was calling (9 times in a row once) and playing music on the phone (creepy) when WE were together in an attempt to get him back (she’s real lonely I think) so my 2 cents is when you do contact this guy you like who’s younger, please don’t do anything weird. It might creep him out and make you look insane. And whatever you do, do not call his mother or friends. My fiance’s ex did that and it weirded-out him, his mother and ME, especially. Your phone call should be nice and light in my opinion, since I have sort of “lived” the older-ex-trying to get back-thing. Rob for example was seriously weirded-out but then again, he was trying to give the nice brush-off. And during a short time in which we had some troubles (due to this lady and MY insecurities) he actually considered using her as a place to crash for a while until he got his life together in the chance that we broke up. The whole “older gal can take care of me for a while” thing. And you do NOT want to be used like that or for that. He told this lady she deserved better and he was a loser as a fader attempt so she’d just move on instead of fixate on him. So watch out for that, you don’t deserve that. Good luck!! :)

]]> By: mmagnolia http://manslations.com/2009/01/12/is-he-scared-of-her/comment-page-1/#comment-5889 mmagnolia Tue, 13 Jan 2009 03:39:25 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1385#comment-5889 Dear Nichole/JM, Personal knowledge is from having been on *His* perch---oops, indeed! Firstly, No kidding: DearJM's words... “What do I bring to the table? I’m not the Little Drummer Boy here, what can I offer?“ RExact I used re-MyHeart's Man! [Gee...Professor, hope U're not on CIA paylog, using evil aluminum poles on our heads out here!] My resolution [being introspectee girl] was 2mull and 2mull and 2mull. Finally, t'were... Eureka [!no details]. Would suggest Ms. Nichole tenderly, and upfrontly, tease HerGuy outward and explain profit 4the 2of *Them*. Hey...if He's averse, then perhaps, t'is due2 that pesky PlanBailout! The simple fact of Her "really like him" perch tells of something *There*! But...if She wants 'em, someOne's gotta initiate speculations. Maybe....outline the *whys* of/for His attractiveness. Hope Tally favors! Lastly: Understanding anyOne RThing requires effort. Voila, Somesort of Joy! Dear Nichole/JM,
Personal knowledge is from having been on *His* perch—oops, indeed!

Firstly, No kidding: DearJM’s words…
“What do I bring to the table? I’m not the Little Drummer Boy here, what can I offer?“ RExact I used re-MyHeart’s Man!
[Gee...Professor, hope U're not on CIA paylog, using evil aluminum poles on our heads out here!]

My resolution [being introspectee girl] was 2mull and 2mull and 2mull. Finally, t’were… Eureka [!no details].

Would suggest Ms. Nichole tenderly, and upfrontly, tease HerGuy outward and explain profit 4the 2of *Them*.
Hey…if He’s averse, then perhaps, t’is due2 that pesky PlanBailout!

The simple fact of Her “really like him” perch tells of something *There*!
But…if She wants ‘em, someOne’s gotta initiate speculations.
Maybe….outline the *whys* of/for His attractiveness. Hope Tally favors!

Lastly: Understanding anyOne RThing requires effort. Voila, Somesort of Joy!

]]> By: The Seductress Within http://manslations.com/2009/01/12/is-he-scared-of-her/comment-page-1/#comment-5886 The Seductress Within Tue, 13 Jan 2009 00:34:42 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1385#comment-5886 "he just keeps saying what a loser he is." Here is the problem I see. He's saying this because: 1.) He is insecure which imo is a major red flag. If he is feeling this way before the relationship even gets off the ground, it will a constant thread and not likely to get better. Or it will be your job to pump him up and feed his self esteem. Major turn off. 2.) Or he is saying this because he is warning you. He may find the whole "cougar" thing hot and he might want to try it out, but he's saying, "I'm a looser, don't count on me for anything or think this can really go anywhere." That's a red flag too. Major turn off. Good Luck! “he just keeps saying what a loser he is.”

Here is the problem I see. He’s saying this because:

1.) He is insecure which imo is a major red flag. If he is feeling this way before the relationship even gets off the ground, it will a constant thread and not likely to get better. Or it will be your job to pump him up and feed his self esteem. Major turn off.

2.) Or he is saying this because he is warning you. He may find the whole “cougar” thing hot and he might want to try it out, but he’s saying, “I’m a looser, don’t count on me for anything or think this can really go anywhere.”

That’s a red flag too. Major turn off.

Good Luck!

]]> By: Selena http://manslations.com/2009/01/12/is-he-scared-of-her/comment-page-1/#comment-5881 Selena Mon, 12 Jan 2009 12:42:46 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1385#comment-5881 "...And I think I now understand the age difference. How young must one be to even be considering the “back seat” as an option?" Ha ha! Good one Jeff. As was your advice as usual. “…And I think I now understand the age difference. How young must one be to even be considering the “back seat” as an option?”

Ha ha! Good one Jeff.

As was your advice as usual.

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