Comments on: No Dates for Three Years…What to Do!?

By: MAUEEN

MAUEEN — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 18:25:35 +0000

Have faith in the unexpected nature of life. Unexpected good stuff is waiting to happen to you and you don’t know it yet. “Give thanks for unknown blessings yet to come”..a native Indian proverb i read somewhere. I know it is very hard when you are feeling low and discouraged and hopeless, like nothings happening for you. It is. I have seen numerous friends of mine, single and looking who have found great guys and love when thet were not expecting it or had given up. Anyway, don’t give up, ever. Enjoy life, be your own best friend and wait and see.

By: Janis

Janis — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 11:36:39 +0000

Get to know yourself: what you like, dislike, want , do not want. Decide what makes you happy/unhappy.
When you know who you are and what makes you happy and you start DOING everything that makes you happy and make your life fun, you will meet and make friends of like mind.
Friendships can grow into the most wonderful relationships without pressure or rules – just fun and acceptance.
But you have to get out there and do what you love doing…..

By: hunter

hunter — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 00:19:50 +0000

I agree with Ann Wesley Hardin. So, my next question is, what percentage of the population is this way? I was told 65% is in need of some kind of therapy.

By: Ann Wesley Hardin

Ann Wesley Hardin — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 03:40:20 +0000

Yeah, but see, I think those “wonderful” men who are so devoted to “unhealthy” women, aren’t so healthy themselves. It’s called co-dependency.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 04:41:35 +0000

Dear Ms.GracieB,
!Second commotion re-Ms. AnneZ!

Besdes that…it’s true [no cause 2fret] what she writes about… “Plenty of emotionally unhealthy men have wonderful men devoted to them”.

Also, hunterdear, true= re-”rotten guys”.

Nonetheless, onward w/Cheers!

By: hunter

hunter — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 03:54:13 +0000

“rotten guys with good women attached,” hhhhmmh.

By: GracieB

GracieB — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 02:27:10 +0000

AnneZ is my favorite!

By: AnneZ

AnneZ — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 15:40:01 +0000

And here I thought I proofread. Up there it should read, “Plenty of emotionally unhealthy WOMEN have wonderful men devoted to them.”

While I’m here I might as well add that if you adhere strictly to the “no such thing as luck” philosophy, you can find yourself self-flagellating or seeking inappropriate role models. Just because a woman attracts men by no means signals that she’s emotionally healthy!

By: AnneZ

AnneZ — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 15:36:35 +0000

Have to weigh in on the luck debate. We can do a lot to make our odds better, but luck is never excised from the rule book. Plenty of emotionally unhealthy men have wonderful men devoted to them. Plenty of mean women have good men devoted to them. Men have the same complaint about women–rotten guys with good women attached. Yes, there’s plenty of inexplicable randomness in life. Otherwise known as “life ain’t fair.” Romance is not excluded from this rule.

By: GracieB

GracieB — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 03:31:32 +0000

AWH: Yeah, law of attraction, etc. I hear you. But really? It all sounds like women trying to gain control over the feelings of men in order to feel a certain way about themselves via male attention. Maybe that works temporarily when you’re twenty but I think Jeff has made it clear, to me at least, that there just isn’t that much going on over there and women are trying to find complex accounts of male behavior, not because they really want to know the truth but because they want to find a way to control whether or not someone wants them.