Comments on: What About When HE Brings Up Marriage Too Soon?

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 05:22:33 +0000

Hi, *hun*…UyetLive!
Goes2show, those “some women” already knew what sang2Them which was kinda dulcet4U2–in the best term!
Joie2U2!

GoshGolly, *Reb*!
Good2Hear of Heartfull playtimes, and YesYes, sometimes thunderstorms visit!
But: Timelines, Timeframes and talk of such can strain and constrain.

So, what tunes can Commenters whistle!

Tasty grub 4All our *goats* is ThePromise that we will “hear” & “discuss” ANY “topic” w/OurSelves–First, Foremost!

Once upon MyTime, a “topic” was totally repugnant; mostly because I was unprepared for basic Ignorance re-same.
LessonLearned = Zero trumps Truth2Self!
OkOkOk–prob’ly almost Zero, but always Zero on Wednesdays thru Sundays!

Cheers2Truth4U…and EvernearU!

By: hunter

hunter — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 05:05:13 +0000

Rebecca, I agree with you most men date the wrong type of women. Your kind exists, but, in much, much, smaller pools.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 18:21:44 +0000

Hunter – I think you’re dating the wrong women. I personally don’t want to hear about long term anything until I’ve dated someone for at least a month. I don’t want to discuss marriage until at least a year into an exclusive relationship. There’s nothing wrong with the topic being brought up in a conversational way, such as “What do you think of marriage?” But what gets my goat is when exclusivity hasn’t even been discussed and it’s all, “Hey. Let’s get married in a year.” Or, we may be exclusive but it’s way too early and he’s already bringing up what kind of house we’re going to buy together and where we’ll be living when we get married. Whoa, little philly! Reign it in.

By: hunter

hunter — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 17:38:20 +0000

Rebecca, some women won’t see me after the second or third date, because I don’t mention marriage/LTR…

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 17:30:56 +0000

If I hadn’t “taken my heart out to play” so often, I never would’ve realized that was a red flag. I’m thankful for those experiences only because they taught me how to recognize the signs of someone who wasn’t right for me.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Sun, 21 Aug 2011 04:43:37 +0000

Oh—Dear Ms. Rebecca!

TrueU might be…if all o’Life & Love were Rascals, but–not so!

Ditch the faint heart…if only because Rascals have crossed Your Path before!

Sometimes, a “red flag” is the one WE wave, so: Presume Best…’til Diference rears aHead! Besides that, a gesture or a word of ‘No’ isn’t Our best Negative.

Take (Your!)Heart out2Play…even, Win!

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 06:18:21 +0000

In all cases where I’ve gotten this question early into a relationship it was because I was being played. I think men use this to manipulate women into believing there is a future when there isn’t one. I see it as a “red flag” that he’s going to turn into a douche in the near future. That’s my experience anyway.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 03:03:50 +0000

Dear Ms. Sue!
You pinched The Root fabulously!
“It really depends on how he behaves afterwards…(whether) making the steps to be a part of your life and your future”.

Your advice makes it easy to “figure out” intentions of any *Him*
Enjoy every Happy Return of Figuring!

By: Sue

Sue — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 09:45:34 +0000

I had this happen to me a couple times too. Honestly it scared the hell out of me.. because it’s soo early on and you hardly know the person and also its coming from a male. I can’t get used to it. Anyways, what I have figure out is that…

A) He’s trying to get into your pants
B) He’s genuinely interested in you and wants to see if you are going to have some long-term stay

It really depends on how he behaves afterwards. Is he making the steps to be apart of your life and your future?

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 05:41:10 +0000

My oh My, Dears!
Methought = “it’s odd” to refrain from asking ANY question on ANY essential issue [e.g., "marriage"] on the FIRST date!

If *date* = getting to know all about, why not! take the shortest road. Hearing the *wrong* answer trumps spinnng wheels, no traction.

Friend hunter’s point re-”has to mention marriage” is best evidence of wheels being spun. Of course! No such handiwork cast onto such as U, Dearh.
…….PeaceOut!