Comments on: When What He Says IS What He Does

By: Ali

Ali — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 14:52:13 +0000

He has been acting the same as before the gift. So no changes there… I guess it was confusing ’cause I gave him some “erotic” stuff we both could use (wink, wink) and he gives me the card (few days after) and completely throws me off. I try not to think much on the signs (good or bad) but sometimes my female paranoia takes the best of me. I guess I just want more of the booty call, really, just physical stuff. Sometimes I even think I might be a bit aggressive with him, very upfront on the, ahem… erotic side and he might be intimidated, is that even possible, JM, from a guy??!!!

By: Barbara Doduk

Barbara Doduk — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 22:30:03 +0000

Was it a gift card for a lingerie store?

By: smh

smh — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 21:53:09 +0000

On target, right now there is not enough information to indicate a shift change in the relationship status quo. More information i.e. data is necessary watch his actions – but until additional information is available consider the situation unchanged.

By: Terry

Terry — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 21:12:33 +0000

A gift card? I’m kind of hoping he still does see you as a booty call. Can you imagine being seriously involved five or ten years from now with a guy who tosses you a gift card for your birthday?

By: Selena

Selena — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 20:19:44 +0000

Just a guess, but it sounds like he bought this card/gift card on one of those “expected to give something” occasions. X-mas? V-day? Your birthday?

If he’s not acting any differently I wouldn’t expect the he FEELS any diffiferently. He was just being polite and doing what was expected for an occasion for someone with whom he was “sleeping”.

By: Pam

Pam — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 16:50:33 +0000

Where was this article two months ago! This guy with whom I was in an on-again-off-again thing handed me a Christmas card in which he wrote that he couldn’t find one that explained how he felt about me. (eh? A: So he bought any old one? B: He couldn’t TELL me how he felt? C: He couldn’t expend the effort to find one? — endless list of alphabet possibilities). THEN, in side was a gift certificate to an amusement park that I specifically, when he asked earlier, said I detested because I had bad experiences there with the other (junior gang member?) *ahem* “patrons.” I DO like roller coasters but not when they’re also ridden by folks who view that happy place as their gang turf where resepct and etc are traded like so many carny tokens. I almost laughed in his face.

By: alison

alison — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 15:57:43 +0000

I was actually in a similar situation recently. The guy i was seeing, in a mostly bootycall sorta way, bought me a Xmas present. not a large or expensive one, but one that must’ve taken some kind of thought, and i really did like it. This got me confused about our relationship and for awhile i thought it was going to take off SOMEwhere, but no…it never did. We are still in a bootycall type arrangement, and-if anything-we actually talk less. So Jeff is right on the money, the gift doesnt’ necessarily mean anything, just watch the way he continues to act.

By: over in France

over in France — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 14:23:15 +0000

You so-o need those little comment icons everyone has on the web now. Then I could congratulate you on the boiling-down stuff with – I don’t know – what? a boiling pan icon? – and could chastise you on the rhymes-with-duck stuff (eeeugh, tacky) by posting a eeeugh-tacky icon. Where are your *icons* JM?
Millions of love because you are so-o..oh well, OK, you know. CB.