Comments on: When He Says You Could Do Better

By: blubari

blubari — Tue, 05 May 2009 17:47:59 +0000

Ms. X hit the nail. They confess they’re no good and we inexplicably give them brownie points for being modest, introspective, just wee little imperfect man-boys upon whom we can practice all our unconditional love and patience and transform into great partners with these amazing traits of ours.

They’re just announcing what you can expect from them if you stick around, so when you do it’s pretty much like signing a consent form.

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 02:15:09 +0000

And I thought I was the ONLY one who has been told that! So it seems most men do have a clever script that ensures women stay right where men want them=HURT,CONFUSED AND WORRYING!

By: Ms.X

Ms.X — Sun, 05 Apr 2009 03:22:00 +0000

Yes, sure ! Trust that man ! Jeff is soooo right, and he cant be more right-er !

I had one shout on my face that “I’m not too good ” phase, and oh boy, did I waste enough time thinking no one’s perfect, and he’s soooo feeling modest about his faults ?

Trust that man, trust any man who tells you, you could do better ! Say thanks, that was great advice, and bid good bye that minute !

By: Jody

Jody — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 03:20:47 +0000

Has he actually asked you leave or tried to break up with you? Cos it sounds to me like he just wants some reassurance that you aren’t going to ditch him! I think it might be a gentle hint that he needs some ego stroking because you’ve got your life together while his is obviously a bit of a mess. Unless he really tries to leave, or cheats or does something unforgivable, I’d say he really still wants you around!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 21:02:32 +0000

You ARE 2 good for this guy…he was totally telling you the truth.

I would take his statement at face value, and move toward the men who wouldn’t let you out of their sight for all the gold in Fort Knox.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 20:43:09 +0000

Dear All, especially Ms. Riley–

Sometimes a cigar IS only a cigar, and a Duke of Windsor is off-chart!

Ms. R: Who! supports SirGalahad’s partying “a ton”….if He’s not working? Please…. let IT not be Thee!
Also: Didn’t read whether You “love” Him as He says re-U! If so, have U2 talked The Issue until mouths dried? If not, *why-not* seems a good question.

Maybe, Sir G is whistling dixie to spare Himself, but Ms. R should leave no tune unsung to learn what’s Real what!
Pertinent favorite of 89-year old Mom is that “Love is Love, treasure it”, sooo don’t be 2quick 2fly Coop.

Here’s own personal *limbo* re-TheMan o’Heart: I want every Best 4Him, which may not = Self. Dilemma wholly nonexists now, BUT have considered whether *Best* = departing Love [oops, Ma!]. My difference being angels2mend vs. demons festering or “issues” = Zero.
Sincere Walking = possible4woman, possible4man; gender vs. humanity!

Ms. Riley, at least, Ucan’t go wrong being His Friend, if Ulove. His wrongs really hurt Himself. Every GoodBlessing 2U2!

By: Bloomsbury Bell

Bloomsbury Bell — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 20:10:36 +0000

What I love about the “You could do better than me” and “You’re too good for me” lines is that, while the guy saying it is almost always just dishing out BS and knows it, he is actually telling you more truth than he will ever know.

By: MAUEEN

MAUEEN — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 13:49:38 +0000

Dear Riley..Jeff is 100% on the money with this one. I have heard that guys will say ANYTHING to bypass the drama and avoid confronation about wanting to break up so he is giving you a softer(in his mind) version of “Look, i am giving you an out here so please take it as I am desparately trying to break up with you but don’t know how to do it in a way that is mature, honest and relativley painless for you”. I am sorry Riley, I know this hurts to hear but walk with this truth, go thru the door of acceptance keep walking to something better and don’t look back.

By: T

Fri, 27 Mar 2009 15:16:32 +0000

*sigh*

Sad but true.

Thanks Mac.

By: Selena

Selena — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 12:04:16 +0000

“Ever known a man to really let the woman he loves walk out the door? Really?”

No.

Yes Riley, they would rather have the girl they love walk out instead of work hard on all their issues to keep the girl around.
This guy is telling you all you need to know about his intentions. Proceed accordingly.