And, I found, that despite adding stuff to your profile, it was ignored if your picture is a nice one and the age was in the ballpark.

That being said, I did meet some very interesting men (and some that weren’t so interesting). All of the meetings helped me determine what I wanted/didn’t want in a relationship, which ended up falling from the sky into my lap. And I now couldn’t be happier.

Don’t compromise yourself, but as the other ladies indicate, the whole sex right now thing is rather funny and writing it all off might cause you to miss out on some interesting moments.

As for the dating sites, just get to know them a bit before allowing dates to begin with. You can weed a few out that way, too.

Good luck!!

The best way to get rid of these guys is the Delete key. From my Internet dating experience (almost all good!), these guys tend to show themselves early. Don’t take the bait. Move on.

And, while I’m sure your online profile is good, just take a look at your photos. I’ve seen some that girls think are fine and guys interpret as “whoo hoo!”

I’m also remembering the old line Moms used to teach daughters: “I’m not that kind of girl.” Worked then, can work now!

Don’t give up on the dating! There are lots of nice guys out there. It may just take a little longer to find them. Good luck

You do NOT need to justify your value system. Men know that higher calibre women don’t offer themselves to every Tom, Dick, and Harry who wants to have sex with them. You just tell them, “this is how I’m wired. If this presents a problem, better that we know now.” NO apologies or explanations necessary. There will be men who resent this cos they feel that we as women hold the power card. (sex).

I go along with Anne’s suggestion to just get up and leave if they become too obnoxious about it. Don’t feel obligated just cos they invite you out. It’s up to him to behave in such a manner that compels you to WANT to be around him. (Hint: men are far from stupid , and know this.)
They know when they’re being jerks.

Jeff has a good suggestion. Perhaps your internet dating profile can say something along the lines of “I’m open to meeting classy men who are sophisticated enough to realize that being with a good woman is an experience to be savored….just like the finest wines.” Using your verbiage, of course. This will alert the bumpers and runners that you are out of their league….do not pass go.

Hang in there, Tammie, there are alot of wonderful men out there who are looking to treat the right woman like a queen, so never compromise your standards, ever.

When a guy starts acting like that, just wish him well and get up and leave. Need more details? “We aren’t in the same place. Let’s not waste any more time. Thanks for coming out tonight, but I think we’d both be better off if we don’t even order.”

You don’t have to be pissy about it. Just laugh it off, like you both just found out you got on the plane to Omaha when you distinctly told the gate agent you wanted Albuquerque. These things happen. Oh well.

Now, there’s a high probability HE will get pissy. Don’t fall for it. He’s already revealed his true colors. Just repeat, “I wish you well, this really is NOT going to work for me. Bye!” Pick up your keys and go, don’t look back.

Believe me, none of this is new.