Comments on: Any Good Reasons for an Interested, Available Man to Hold Off? http://manslations.com/2009/04/29/any-good-reasons-for-an-interested-available-man-to-hold-off/ Ask for Jeff Mac's advice on what men think -- about relationships, dating, sex, love, squirrels, whatever. Tue, 27 Jul 2010 15:10:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: sarabella http://manslations.com/2009/04/29/any-good-reasons-for-an-interested-available-man-to-hold-off/comment-page-1/#comment-6739 sarabella Fri, 08 May 2009 04:04:51 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1791#comment-6739 sorrrry, 'mikey-bones'... should have responded to your question. intro contact was workplace phone inquiry initiated by me. there's no working near or alongside. hope that satisfies as better late than never. and thanks, also. sorrrry, ‘mikey-bones’… should have responded to your question.
intro contact was workplace phone inquiry initiated by me.
there’s no working near or alongside.
hope that satisfies as better late than never.
and thanks, also.

]]> By: sarabella http://manslations.com/2009/04/29/any-good-reasons-for-an-interested-available-man-to-hold-off/comment-page-1/#comment-6738 sarabella Fri, 08 May 2009 03:53:29 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1791#comment-6738 thanks, manslator, for airing my linen, and... thanks, commentors, for affirming some food of my thoughts. ...peace thanks, manslator, for airing my linen,
and…
thanks, commentors, for affirming some food of my thoughts.
…peace

]]> By: mmagnolia http://manslations.com/2009/04/29/any-good-reasons-for-an-interested-available-man-to-hold-off/comment-page-1/#comment-6707 mmagnolia Sun, 03 May 2009 19:37:19 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1791#comment-6707 All Dears--specially Ms. sarabella, Slightly smiling, let's sing w/Prof JM [he's head of class 4good reason!]: "..it doesn’t happen if a guy REALLY likes you. I mean, if a guy likes you..." Golly! 4this Pink & Blue Girl, it would be hard [no pun!] 2get sharper than that, Unless...there's discount for shyness. Makes IT complex 4the simple hearted. Thx, Evolution--but men are posed2B bountiful testosterone resevoirs. Let us women be women--different, not less! ALSO: *availableness* should always play 1st-fiddle to *interestedness*! Never! leave any crown unturned [sounding like convert...cause y'am!]. Use anyWay 2learn true "availableness". Later...wonder w-h-y that needed doing! Yep...sarabellaDear, U can love+wish Him well 'til the cows forget road home! His return = zero if The Prince is unavailable. BHappy keeping Your Crown polished! All Dears–specially Ms. sarabella,

Slightly smiling, let’s sing w/Prof JM [he's head of class 4good reason!]: “..it doesn’t happen if a guy REALLY likes you. I mean, if a guy likes you…”

Golly! 4this Pink & Blue Girl, it would be hard [no pun!] 2get sharper than that, Unless…there’s discount for shyness.
Makes IT complex 4the simple hearted.

Thx, Evolution–but men are posed2B bountiful testosterone resevoirs. Let us women be women–different, not less!

ALSO: *availableness* should always play 1st-fiddle to *interestedness*!
Never! leave any crown unturned [sounding like convert...cause y'am!]. Use anyWay 2learn true “availableness”.
Later…wonder w-h-y that needed doing!

Yep…sarabellaDear, U can love+wish Him well ’til the cows forget road home! His
return = zero if The Prince is unavailable.
BHappy keeping Your Crown polished!

]]> By: strawhat http://manslations.com/2009/04/29/any-good-reasons-for-an-interested-available-man-to-hold-off/comment-page-1/#comment-6701 strawhat Sat, 02 May 2009 22:23:12 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1791#comment-6701 he may just be scared to approach you i have noticed that men these day's are not like they used to be,they don't approach women like they used to,could be the fear of a woman screaming rape etc once upon a time you could be having a coffee somewhere and if a man was interested he would come up to you and say mind if i join you? , seems today they mostly look you know they are interested you know you are but nothing happens because of this fear that you may not like it so i would suggest you ask him out for a coffee or a drink so he can be sure he is doing the right thing he may just be scared to approach you
i have noticed that men these day’s are not like they used to be,they don’t approach women like they used to,could be the fear of a woman screaming rape etc
once upon a time you could be having a coffee somewhere and if a man was interested he would come up to you and say mind if i join you? , seems today they mostly look you know they are interested you know you are but nothing happens because of this fear that you may not like it
so i would suggest you ask him out for a coffee or a drink so he can be sure he is doing the right thing

]]> By: Shelby http://manslations.com/2009/04/29/any-good-reasons-for-an-interested-available-man-to-hold-off/comment-page-1/#comment-6681 Shelby Fri, 01 May 2009 16:58:15 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1791#comment-6681 I agree with Selena, you may be mistaking interested for friendly. Seriously. MY fiance is nice to everyone and I can't even count the times women have flirted with him overly so, when he was only being nice to them, that he comes over to me and literally hides or says very loudly, "Would my FIANCE like anything to eat? Can I get you anything, hon?" (This is all while he's playing sax in his band at gigs.) His behavior comes off as flirting but he's just being nice and answering their music requests, etc. I see this happen to my fiance AND all of his friends. Maybe they only play at the 'Desperate Cougar' gigs and it's all the womens' fault but I see this too often. Drives me up the wall. If it's at work, he may be afraid to get in trouble. My fiance used to tell me horror stories about his friends who complimented women and they were written up for it as sexual harassment!? (This was at a seemilgly normal insurance adjusting company.) People are weird and your guy may really, truly be interested and be deathly afraid to ask for a date due to a fear of some reprisal from his workmates, etc. That said, Jeff is right to advise you to ask him for a light date--coffee, lunch, etc. He may be scared to make the first move due to the work situation and in this economy, it isn't worth risking the job... Good luck!! Due to little information, it's a hard one to crack but you will never know unless you simply break the ice and ask :) I agree with Selena, you may be mistaking interested for friendly. Seriously. MY fiance is nice to everyone and I can’t even count the times women have flirted with him overly so, when he was only being nice to them, that he comes over to me and literally hides or says very loudly, “Would my FIANCE like anything to eat? Can I get you anything, hon?” (This is all while he’s playing sax in his band at gigs.) His behavior comes off as flirting but he’s just being nice and answering their music requests, etc. I see this happen to my fiance AND all of his friends. Maybe they only play at the ‘Desperate Cougar’ gigs and it’s all the womens’ fault but I see this too often. Drives me up the wall. If it’s at work, he may be afraid to get in trouble. My fiance used to tell me horror stories about his friends who complimented women and they were written up for it as sexual harassment!? (This was at a seemilgly normal insurance adjusting company.) People are weird and your guy may really, truly be interested and be deathly afraid to ask for a date due to a fear of some reprisal from his workmates, etc. That said, Jeff is right to advise you to ask him for a light date–coffee, lunch, etc. He may be scared to make the first move due to the work situation and in this economy, it isn’t worth risking the job… Good luck!! Due to little information, it’s a hard one to crack but you will never know unless you simply break the ice and ask :)

]]> By: Sassy http://manslations.com/2009/04/29/any-good-reasons-for-an-interested-available-man-to-hold-off/comment-page-1/#comment-6675 Sassy Fri, 01 May 2009 12:21:19 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1791#comment-6675 Once met a guy who didn't want to start anything because he was still processing a break-up from a long-term relationship. I respected his space, became friends. A year after that, he approached me to try dating and it worked. Wonderfully! Once met a guy who didn’t want to start anything because he was still processing a break-up from a long-term relationship.

I respected his space, became friends. A year after that, he approached me to try dating and it worked. Wonderfully!

]]> By: Mikey-Bones http://manslations.com/2009/04/29/any-good-reasons-for-an-interested-available-man-to-hold-off/comment-page-1/#comment-6671 Mikey-Bones Fri, 01 May 2009 01:42:34 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1791#comment-6671 erm...excuse me... uh, but could i aks miss stm a question? How do you know him? Is it work? Cuz if a guy makes a pass a a girl at work cuz he thinks she might maybe like him sum....hm... risky move in today's society... but, if you think you want him, go grab his burlap sack and see what's in it. erm…excuse me… uh, but could i aks miss stm a question?
How do you know him? Is it work? Cuz if a guy makes a pass a a girl at work cuz he thinks she might maybe like him sum….hm… risky move in today’s society…
but, if you think you want him, go grab his burlap sack and see what’s in it.

]]> By: Selena http://manslations.com/2009/04/29/any-good-reasons-for-an-interested-available-man-to-hold-off/comment-page-1/#comment-6663 Selena Wed, 29 Apr 2009 12:40:39 +0000 http://manslations.com/?p=1791#comment-6663 I can think of a few. Number one is you are mistaking "interested" for friendly. Happens alot, particularly if the guy has a flirtacious nature. Others: He's gay. He has an STD he doesn't want to have to tell about and risk rejection. He's really ISN'T available and is hiding the relationship for some reason. He's very inexperienced when it comes to relationships and doesn't quite know how to start one. He could be he likes you, but there is some trait or situation you have that makes him think "eh..." about pursuing a relationship with you. Unless you want to keep wondering forever, I think you will need to bite the bullet and follow Jeff's advice about making the first real move. Good luck! I can think of a few. Number one is you are mistaking “interested” for friendly. Happens alot, particularly if the guy has a flirtacious nature.

Others:
He’s gay.

He has an STD he doesn’t want to have to tell about and risk rejection.

He’s really ISN’T available and is hiding the relationship for some reason.

He’s very inexperienced when it comes to relationships and doesn’t quite know how to start one.

He could be he likes you, but there is some trait or situation you have that makes him think “eh…” about pursuing a relationship with you.

Unless you want to keep wondering forever, I think you will need to bite the bullet and follow Jeff’s advice about making the first real move. Good luck!

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