Comments on: When He Won’t Leave His Woman…Yet…?

By: Valencia

Valencia — Sat, 09 May 2009 17:16:56 +0000

Ay.

3 words: Don’t do it.

-Guy friend I know…same thing..
-He leaves girlfriend of 4 years.
-Wanted me.
-I say: No.
-He finds other rebound.
-2 weeks ago I learn…they are getting married next week.(thx Google)
-The kicker: He still calls my cell phone or texts suggestive messages every 4-5 weeks (I have not replied/been in touch for 6 months.)

Good luck dude….and new wife…

Don’t do it Stella, walk away. I sure am glad I did.

By: blubari

blubari — Tue, 05 May 2009 16:51:59 +0000

“Not happy in the relationship” means not happy with monogamy at the moment that he is enjoying his little foray into cheating with the new admirer stroking his ego. It will be you on the receiving end of that great bargain someday. Don’t make the mistake of flattering yourself with your imagined specialness while you’re rewarding and enabling his lack of character. The rest of womankind thank you.

By: Susan

Susan — Mon, 04 May 2009 15:27:17 +0000

Oh, god no — no shot! Trust me, I say this from experience.

It’s not worth the time/patience/opportunity cost and heartache on your part because Jeff is right – it is highly, highly unlikely he’ll leave his relationship at all. And, as the others say above, you can do better — and deserve better.

By: strawhat

strawhat — Sat, 02 May 2009 22:02:10 +0000

dont even think about it he’ll only look for someone else to escape your relationship one day it just isn’t worth it
my motto is ,if it doesn’t add to your life you dont need it,this would only take away from the life you have now with fear and uncertainty
go find someone positive who knows he wants you and is not leaving one thing for you just to get away
you could never be sure how he really feels about you

love the corn husk thing lol,i might use it too one day

By: Selena

Selena — Fri, 01 May 2009 19:51:29 +0000

He doesn’t want to leave his unhappy relationship until he has something else lined up? Oh, alot of people seem to do this. And alot of other people have a name for the above: Cheaters. And the thing about people who cheat their way out of relationships? They are usually recidivists. When they get bored, pissy, or otherwise temporarily unhappy with the person the left the last for, there they are…out scouting for the next replacement using the same line.

If he is that unhappy at home why is he still there? Maybe he’s not so unhappy, maybe it’s more that you are new and oh so willing. All a cheater needs really.

And Stella, since you’ve already made it clear to him you’re standing there – lined up and all -what he was waiting for… Why is he still with his girlfriend?

Bleh. Stop being a side dish. You can do better than this guy.

By: Marianne

Marianne — Fri, 01 May 2009 15:44:30 +0000

I was in a similar situation this past fall with a man who was still living with his fiance or as he told it, his ex-fiance, though that wasn’t what it said on his Facebook profile. Anyways, I dropped him and even used some of Jeff’s earlier advice by telling the guy that what we had isn’t the relationship I was looking for.

Lo and behold, a few months later, I met someone new who only has eyes for me. The contrast is striking. You definitely deserve better!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 01 May 2009 14:26:03 +0000

Husk my corn!!!

That was classic!!

With permission I would like to one day when the timing is just right, use that phrase.

LMAO Husk my corn.

By: Jewel

Jewel — Fri, 01 May 2009 14:11:42 +0000

I had my answer before I got to the end of the story.Never settle for less.In this situatiion almost doesnt count.There is nothing like a near relationship my dear.No one goes around saying”hey meet my almost boyfriend Tommy”.never settle for less or someone who is not sure whether they want to be with you.What is there to think about. You are amazing and if he cant see that then thats his loss.
Take a walk sweetheart and please never never settle for less.

By: AnneZ

AnneZ — Fri, 01 May 2009 14:02:40 +0000

Oh, Jeff, you have certainly hit this one out of the ballpark. I don’t know what there is left to say.

Run, Stella, run!

Ok, here’s a tip. I bet a thousand bucks there’s a nice guy or 8 or 2 dozen who would love to have you. You just have to look a little harder for them. Don’t succumb to an underhanded jerk who finds it easy to flirt. Seek out the guy who gets flustered around the girls–that one’s true blue!