Firstly: Most r’ships are all “LD” in sweet strict sense–sooo, You’re there already!

But: U seem lukewarm, AND Your *feeling* that He’s a “really nice boyfriend” cause He pickedU from airport is confusing; negative expectation! Airport collection is basic, do 4friend, do 4non-friend kind of stuff. Yes, that’s good but hope His niceness = broaderDepth!

BTW: Was California prospect alive when U2 met? If so, was His feedback supportive, indifferent, perplexed? BUT, that really doesn’t matter; U need 2ask!

Lastly: Just exactly what IS an LDR…2U? Define what U want re-Him….then, tell Him; KeepIt SimpleSimple!
W-h-a-t could You lose:: Sharing of any highest feelings is dignity, gilded!
Thanks, Ms. Maya, Your query helps us2!

Now, Dear Prof: Something’s amiss!
It would be good to know how A Man would broach such topic to A Woman. We Women could then deliver message in their favorite medium, working IT like a charm 4their pleasure and….Ours!
But…..Is This o-n-l-y Woman’s work!

Second, unlike everybody else, the only thing that makes me squidgy in the letter is “I am open to LDR.” Open to it? The enthusiasm for the gent is underwhelming. Come on out and say “I will miss you terribly. I don’t want to lose you. This is important to me, but you are important to me, too. I want both!”

If you can’t bring yourself to say that, then your feelings for him aren’t probably strong enough to sustain an LDR anyway.

Really, you are in a good position because if he doesn’t answer the way you hoped, then you get a 3,000 mile buffer between you and heartbreak and a whole new life full of new people to distract you.

Remember at all times Jeff’s rule: it won’t change how he feels. Either you’re in a relationship that’s going nowhere and now is the time to move on or he’s afraid of losing you but doesn’t want to get in the way of your goals and doesn’t know how you feel, either. Someone needs to speak up! “I’m ‘open’” isn’t likely to comfort many faint hearts!

By waiting for HIM to say something you avoid the embarassment of “having put yourself out there” so to speak, and the awkwardness of if he does say “no” what then? Do you two break it off right now? Or keep it going until he drives you to the airport in July?

Personally, I ‘m not at all into LDR’s, but if I wanted to keep the door open on a relationship that had promise? You should really think through what a LDR would look like to you and then talk about the possibility of such with him. How often could you realistically expect to see each other? Would you be exclusive, or free to date others? Would he have any interest in moving to LA at some point? How often would you be keeping in touch electronically? Daily? Weekly? Whenever?

I detest uncertainty so I would figure out what I’d like first and then run it by him. Worst he could say is “not interested”. To me that’s better than the lack of closure I would feel with never having had a discussion – being put on a plane with nothing more than a “well, good-bye then”.

The biggest truth is exactly what Mr. Manslator said, if your it for him, he will be gung-ho for the idea, if you two aren’t a match, he won’t be interested.

Either way you will know and be able to move on from there.

One answer will rock and the other will suck, but at least you will know exactly where you stand.

Honesty is always best.