After being in a ‘dating’ relationship for about 5 months, my man gave me good nite kiss(s) and one night actually snuck in his tongue ! ! ! That is it ! ! !

At that point, ALL the sexy foreplay was never thought about. It never happened.
I am too young (56) to have a ‘companion’ and NO sex.

And, your too Young too ! !

Get a guy that ‘can deliver’ and get hard a few times a week. Geez, we (gals) are only human.

Good Luck to YOU.

Signed, Not Quite Dead Yet

Goodnews [always room 4goodnews!] is that Your followup shows how wellmet U*2 really seem2B! T’is Loverly when Beloveds stand united—Alleluia! Your widened stance is noticeable—Alleluia!

BTW: Waaay upyonder, “ten thousand pardons” extended. OK 2double that, BUT: First….hold the door!

[1] Seems, Udid notice the “cheatesque” comment; that works. However…it resembles a flag U hoisted. Because! we are unknowns 2each, there’s neither knowledge nor motive on this end 2hoist the “cheater” label onto U! “cheatesque” references potential, not evidence.
……..Still w/mme?
However, again: The exact label of “cheater” was put into actual play by Thee, Now…and into virtual play by Thee when Ushared some “lusty” notions. There’s NO [Trust! that] shyness about the word from here. Evenso and Noless:
Your protest, accepted = My pleasure!

[2] The “seem self-centered” flag is another flag found already hoisted. Your self-described mode of “U*2″ is the basis for that sense [IF nonsensical, the construction was prefab]! So Also, kindly notice commenting presumes both a “goodway” and a not-so goodWay 2B “self-centered”; Oh–minor, p’haps, but critical on the point, especially now!

Well, DearMs. Linda…. At the end of day, day ends–ideally, more enlightening.
Appreciate Your return ’cause prospective Love+Happiness of U*2 = More Palpable!
Today, no veggies; time4 Tarts–Cherry!

Sweet Blessings of MerryMoments!

You dont know me at all to say I am self centered…we have an issue that is taking center stage right now and want to deal with it. It does not encompass the whole of the relationship nor the whole of our thoughts, but it is an issue nonetheless. The fact is we have been there for each other and will be there…we just have stuff to deal with, like anyone else.

Thanks for taking the time to write though…
Linda

Oh, Dear Linda!
Woe…Sisterhood card mayB repo’d! But, giving more data is a goodThing.

Both*U seem a bit self-centered, NOT in a goodway, if TrueLOVE abounds! What IF, either*U suffered a life-changing calamity 2make “real” [yet saying Huh?] “sex” impossible? Dealbreaker, Bailout? Methinks loyalty = no less provacative than ripping-off-tees, and that’s why sharing thoughts is critical B4 the valise is put away! This is basic coupledom stuff, am thinking–shouldB, 4happy everAftering!

BTW…if “hair highlighted” turned His trick, highlight every hair on Your body! BTW2…His then! being “more into” woulda been a sweet opening [so2say] 4dialogue on w-h-y. Just! 2get His tongue wagging in a chitchat way on the subject of tricks and treats.

Good feedback [sishood card ret'd!] is that Useem an extraordinary damsel wellset w/Mr. ED [extraordinary dude!, Useem2say]. BUT: His quick sense 2feel offended ‘sounds’ like ultimate problem! Help ease that by initiating/returning His kind of touchy, pawing, groping PDA.

Make it plain that He can’t have IT both ways: stop The Whine, Rspeak 2issues!

Ms. Linda, Your “‘lusty’ attention” from other guys is counterproductive [AND, repugnant even 'tho am not a party in Your party, AND can offer self as exception 2Your "every woman" words]. Turn that around; what IF He’s YOU! Uwould be ok w/His mooning ‘ Hooter cupcakes? If Uget *made* so indirectly [yeah, let's call it 'cheatesque!], w-h-y is His indirect, 2nd tier method insufficient? Just wondering…It’s mah mission!

Bottompoints = Unpredictable erections prevent mutual satisfaction; but satisfaction DOES come [so2say] via less desired portals: 4U, via other men; 4Him, via upper castle!

If it’s TrueLove, talk about including another man4 *Your* “real sex”. He can watch until spectator-sporting fades, OR, He can rise 2Your “real sex” occasion!

If sounds kinda patronizing, true2that; But: Intentions+Wishes = All Sweet!

To answer what seems to be a big question here…oral sex on him is the only sex happening. The ED is not a constant thing…He can get hard but finds it easier to keep the erection long enough to ejaculate with oral than actual sex, where he may become soft. He is extremely loving and attentive…holds my hand all the time, kisses me often and loves PDA’s. I do love being with him. Right now the ‘crazy love’ feeling has been replaced with the ‘I dont wanna get rejected anymore so will keep you at arms length’ feeling.

I have told him that my relationship with him means far more to me than ‘sex’ does, but that doesn’t mean I am willing to be celibate. I am not a cheater so won’t go that way, but I live vicariously through the attention I receive from other men. When I say attention, I mean ‘lusty’ attention. He gives me plenty of affection and love but every woman wants to feel like the object of lust from time to time…

Thank you Jeff for your reply…I will try to open up the lines of communication, but my experience with him tells me that he will feel attacked somehow, no matter how gentle I am and he will turn the issue on me.

(Ironically, I did get my hair highlighted last week and he seems way more into me…weird…)

Thanks everyone…
Linda

Feeling-grimace, jessDear: Pre-pardon present comments:
Actually! Any perceived “second-guess” should be on The Whole Scenario lived by Ms. Linda & Her [Gosh! what may I name Her*Him*?] Mr. So&So, IF communication came B4 The Move-In?! Angels + devils snooze in details; sooo, we wake ‘em!

Comments here or upYonder aren’t exclusive to “emotional commitment” of Either…N-o-t, At All! Any dynamic of Any of us [Thanks, Messr. Hume] is based on *emotion*. I believe This, despite a head-ruled heart—am workin’ on That!

Pre-pardon, Again: !Still, am not clear whether [Linda's definition of] “real sex” was ever part of their 2yr LDR and 6mos postLDR! Info enlightens, enlivens, and generally… lights up on every stash!

My heart’s heart = Happy, IF “crazy love” existed before the lived-in frustration! IF LOVE was, remnant exists [presuming no eternal evil exists on ether side]. Absolutely..That’s a Good Thing!

BTW: Lettuce turnip on agreement that “enthusiasm for munching” should wilt when reciprocity=absent by Refusal + unShared Why! No mano-a-mano, Here!

Lastly, jessDear: Cheers w/Merci;
…..Thinking is 2nd oldest sweetTreat!