Comments on: What Does He Want? Look at What He’s Getting!

By: PQ

PQ — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 19:57:24 +0000

mianne: 6 weeks? Yeah, I’m gonna go with removing him from your life altogether. It’s just not worth your time. He obviously made a decision and ur not part of it. When in doubt…as a great man always said: ignore what he says and focus on what he does. He is not doing anything for you.

By: mianne

mianne — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 16:30:43 +0000

So, this is my guy. It’s been 6 weeks since I heard from him and he is the one who said, “let’s keep in touch”.
I think it’s time to take him off my friends list on FB.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 14:11:27 +0000

“So is the moral of this story or the sum of these manslations, that if a guy is really into you, you’ll just know it?! i.e. if he wants a relationship with you he wont be too busy or make up excuses and you wont have to spend time wondering what the hell is going on?”

Yes, Debbie. Yes it is. I’d even go so far to say that the above is true for most women. People just aren’t as complicated as we’d like to make them out to be. Especially when feelings are involved.

Mindy, I’m sorry you got mixed up in one of these deals. As you can see from the other ladies’ comments, it can happen to the best of us. My advice is, give him a dose of his own medicine. Whenever he wants to see you, tell him you’re sorry but you’re “crazy busy.” Then go hang out with your friends and have a good time. Ignore him. He’ll get the picture.

By: LK

LK — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 22:58:47 +0000

What they said. Sorry, Mindy. However, the upside is you are still free enough to run into Mr. Wonderful! Woo Hoo!

By: Becky

Becky — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 20:58:39 +0000

I more or less wasted two years of my life on a relationship such as this. It was always on his terms, at his convenience, on his timetable. If he didn’t have anything better to do, he was with me. If something came up; he didn’t show. It got old – and carved away at any feelings I ever had for him. I listened to his sad stories, held his head while he was drunk, and sure enough, when someone else came along that he perceived as being better than I, he was gone. I felt foolish; for I thought he really cared about me. In fact, if he had really cared in the way that he should have or how I wanted him to, I’d never have had to wonder about our relationship. I’ve chalked it up to experience, and one that I don’t care to repeat.

By: debbie

debbie — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 20:06:56 +0000

So is the moral of this story or the sum of these manslations, that if a guy is really into you, you’ll just know it?! i.e. if he wants a relationship with you he wont be too busy or make up excuses and you wont have to spend time wondering what the hell is going on?

By: Selena

Selena — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 20:06:36 +0000

Sounds like the typical “casual relationship” to me. He hasn’t fallen for you, but likes you well enough to get together now and then if nothing else is going on. Fine for what it is, but don’t expect him to turn into a “real boyfriend” if that’s what you want.

Guys in this mode also tend to disappear without warning when they get involved with another woman. Be forewarned.

By: PQ

PQ — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 19:35:48 +0000

It sucks to be be on the receiving end of this one sided relationship/thing. If the terms he’s applying to your thing do not match your terms then cut your loses and move on. We tend to overanalyze E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G single detail. From what he said to how he said, from what he was wearing to what you were wearing. We’re great at this, nitpicking, I call it. My advice would be to either to enjoy it while it last or while you want it to last. Maybe it should be on your terms more. I say you demand it to be on your terms, especially if it’s only sex. Booty calls are fun if you know how to handle them. That means that the terms need to be agreed by both parties.