Sure, he’d have found you attractive … but don’t you deserve more than … having to do anything with a man, who lives with a woman, and keeps women in orbit, albeit with those he finds attractive ?

Even once you get married, or have a bf, your bf/husband and you are still going to find attractive people on earth ! Would you flirt with them still ( ! ) , when you know they’ve feelings for you ? This clearly isn’t what a good bf/gf does ! It’s not fair to the person you’re continuing the flirting with, nor is it to the gf/bf involved, unless you only think about yourself and no one else’s feelings !

There are lot of good men out there, who will NEVER do this to any woman ! Not to the one they’re committed to, if they’re not happy with her, they’d rather break up and look for another … but not keep women in reserve, as if he’s the sun and women are planets created to revolve around him ! Clearly after an yr, he’s still with the woman and at the same time flirting heavily with you ! Why do you’ve to think so much about him, while he goes back to his home to his gf and perhaps flirt with lots of women he comes across, apart from you ?

Remember a simple Rule Maria :

If a ‘relationship’ ( even if it’s in our head ) seems like tooooo much work, too much thinking, wondering, waiting without any positive re-inforcement or actions from the other side, it just means someone isn’t too interested, and it’s not worth it , and it’s not going to be !

You deserve much better than a guy who’s not forthright with anyone, and thinks ‘only’ about him !

You only need step outside your home and find that good man !

Can’t answer about the “option” part. Could be he would consider it if he broke up with his partner, or could be he is just one of those guys who enjoys flirting.

You need to stop giving this guy so much space in your head and get out there and actually date someone who is single.

Then again, that’s just in the Hollywood movies. Real UPS guys are just that, methinks. Especially the ones that are living with someone else.

Flirt, play, but don’t try and “Snap” him.

Amen to AnneZ …”Maria, listen to me carefully, this guy is not good enough for you.

He is not forthright with anybody.
” Very True ! I … err, read about these kinda jerks somewhere !

It serves his business purposes (his boss gets great customer feedback on him) and it makes his work day fun.

Very sorry, Maria, I’m with Jeff and pessimistic about his interest level. That’s no reflection on you. You are probably cute as the dickens and good on you for taking a positive step by making the first move. You are an example to women (and men) everywhere.

On the other hand, I feel you need a bit of a talking to! “He’s living with someone.” Whoa Nellie! I don’t care how he glossed that over, just take it for exactly what it IS: he is living with SOMEONE!

He also has a child with someone else. I’m beginning to get a picture. I can imagine some choice excuses and blame shifting he’s done in regards to talking about the child’s mother and that whole situation. Fact is, it takes two to make a baby and they both know how to reach for a condom and a sponge and a tube of spermicide and as complete an arsenal against unplanned parenthood as they can fit into the nightstand. He knew the rules. Now he’s involved in yet another half-baked relationship.

Maria, listen to me carefully, this guy is not good enough for you.

He is not forthright with anybody. Please refocus on some other guy in your world who is probably worshiping you from afar right this very minute. That guy has his world in order but may have fewer muscles and way less clever lines. Put a little effort into finding him and you will be richly rewarded.

Now–a word to The Manslator. “Two different parts of the brain involved in getting a phone number and dialing it.” FANTASTIC insight! Thanks so much for sharing that tidbit! I just felt at least three worry wrinkles vanish from my face permanently!

“Going through a breakup right now” translation: Not getting along well with gf lately, not sure what will happen.

The continued flirting: Well, it’s fun. It doubtless makes his delivery day a little more interesting. And Maria, you don’t KNOW that he doesn’t flirt with other women he delivers to regularly, do you?

Bottom Line: He has a partner. He didn’t break up. He hasn’t asked you out even though you made it clear you were interested.

Result: Enjoy the flirting as a little break in your day, but don’t attach any significance to it.