Comments on: Why Would He Have a Mistress for FOUR Years??

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Sun, 03 Oct 2010 05:09:03 +0000

Yes, Ms. Danielle!

OK… That’s understandable!

But…Such an arrangement of being “in love” would be less stressful and more productive toward TheBeing “in love” if all parties [Gosh, no more than 4, please!] know that the *other* parties exist!

Cheers to our Left Brains, and to
Ms. Helen Gurley Brown–51 years as a happySpouse to an everhappyDavid!

By: Danielle

Danielle — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 23:31:11 +0000

Well, I guess that he fell inlove with the lady too, that he keep the relationship that long. Or better yet, he got a company that he did not get from his wife.

By: mmagnolia

mmagnolia — Tue, 21 Sep 2010 04:18:29 +0000

Greetings–All Dears!

Welcome, *ntoxk8n*,
You offer a most titillating footnote!

Yes, on our twentieth hand…
Let’s say She learned after 4years of dateville that He’s a husband.
Let’s say She really! is smitten w/Him.

Thus, She can date other Callers!
That option might define what’s what, and why! Never mind Her prospective poaching; BF/Husband is true Poacher!

BTW….Women also have “a way” of sneakiness. But, too much on anyone’s part is counterproductive!

Dear Taylor,
It’s 15months later! Cheers to hope that Peace of Love already reigns 4YOU!

By: ntoxk8n

ntoxk8n — Sun, 19 Sep 2010 23:28:18 +0000

Hello all. I’m new to this blog. Thanks for welcoming me in. My question is that what if she didn’t know until 4 years later? What if she just found out? Nothing in her letter said that she was with him and all the while knew he was married. Men have a way of being very sneaky and can do so for years….maybe that was the case?

By: Johanna

Johanna — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 02:31:00 +0000

Well, guys will never be contented on what they have. They always think that is a plus for them of having two or more girls.

By: Sayla

Sayla — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 14:50:42 +0000

In response to Katie: To me, a big issue seems to be that we all try to fit our love relationships into a socially acceptable mould or pattern. Everyone is different, yet we always seem to want ‘what she has’.

I have had an unusual type of relationship for the past two years or so, but by and large it makes me happy.We girls have got into the habit of talking about ‘our needs’ and whether or not they are being fulfilled, an awful lot. Well, I am a very loving person, and I ‘need’ to love someone whom I respect and admire and learn with/from. The people around me often express their astonishment, then rub their ‘regular’ boyfriend or husband in my face, and yet none of them seem to be very happy, and are always complaining about their men.

I see my man for who he is, without blinkers, and I know that I am very much loved. Every now and then I ask myself: “Am I happier in this relationship than I would be without it?” Thus far, the answer has always been: yes.

By: katie

katie — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 23:43:56 +0000

I love being a mistress I have always been a dramatic chaotic sort so a daily life or daily love would never suit me neither would marriage.I provide much needed vitality and passion which is my own nature.I have no desire for him to leave his wife she is a perfect fit in ways that I could never provide support,understanding,cooking etc.I fufil a different role.If they fight I actively encourage him to sort it out with her and give advice.I would rather be his mistress than anyone’s wife.

By: over in France

over in France — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 17:17:29 +0000

cattywampus is an interesting word but it doesn’t actually exist. You made it up. I mean, now it exists, but it didn’t before. I guess it will quickly spread round the English-speaking world and no-one will remember that Manslator made it. Sigh. Unrecognised in your lifetime.
All of which is to say, more or less, you were MISSED. Come here so we can kiss you! OK, only joking.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 06:05:44 +0000

PS My clumsy…..I meant to ask, What are YOU getting out of it?

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 06:04:42 +0000

Perhaps, Taylor,

You DON’T want a committed relationship, contrary to what you *think* you want.

As Jeff is so fond of saying, look at what a person DOES vs. what they say.

C’mon, girl…..you put up with this arrangement 4 years, not months…

What are YOU out of it?

The time has come to ask yourself some hard questions.

Or not.

It depends on what your *true* desires are, and what you may be avoiding on the other side of the coin.

Best,
Melissa