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		<title>By: Lola</title>
		<link>http://manslations.com/2009/08/17/its-not-you-its-me/comment-page-1/#comment-7382</link>
		<dc:creator>Lola</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Aug 2010 12:16:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I miss your ramblings!! Its not you..its me, I need you!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I miss your ramblings!! Its not you..its me, I need you!!</p>
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		<title>By: Indian Online Dating</title>
		<link>http://manslations.com/2009/08/17/its-not-you-its-me/comment-page-1/#comment-7350</link>
		<dc:creator>Indian Online Dating</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 May 2010 06:02:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks for all the advice! I wish you the best of luck in whatever crazy scheme you come up with next! As my best friend often says, maybe you have a Renaissance soul like me, always yearning to explore new things! Can’t wait to see what you find. =)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks for all the advice! I wish you the best of luck in whatever crazy scheme you come up with next! As my best friend often says, maybe you have a Renaissance soul like me, always yearning to explore new things! Can’t wait to see what you find. =)</p>
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		<title>By: X</title>
		<link>http://manslations.com/2009/08/17/its-not-you-its-me/comment-page-1/#comment-7283</link>
		<dc:creator>X</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Dec 2009 13:04:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Dear Katya,

You can direct questions to my favorite blogger like Jeff is, who also gives great advice - http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com 

My personal opinion is that, if he really liked you, he would have made time to email you atleast once in 2-3 days if he really liked you that much.Without having much communication with him at all, I don&#039;t think moving with him would be wiser ! Think again , girl friend ! 
Wishing you the best,
Cheers,
- X</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Dear Katya,</p>
<p>You can direct questions to my favorite blogger like Jeff is, who also gives great advice &#8211; <a href="http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com</a> </p>
<p>My personal opinion is that, if he really liked you, he would have made time to email you atleast once in 2-3 days if he really liked you that much.Without having much communication with him at all, I don&#8217;t think moving with him would be wiser ! Think again , girl friend !<br />
Wishing you the best,<br />
Cheers,<br />
- X</p>
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		<title>By: mmagnolia</title>
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		<dc:creator>mmagnolia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Dec 2009 00:37:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Oh...Dear Ms. Katya,
First thought is that more communication is an absolute necessity--absolutely!

Cheapest, quickest can be emailing each other---even via public library computers.  Yes, You need to ask questions IF You want answers versus *wonderings*.

Your concern about raising relationship issues which can &quot;make him upset/mad&quot; is a Basic Problem which obstructs much fruitful *relating*!   If ego or pride ranks First for either One, The Happy Ending is made impossible and improbable!
  
On the brightest side:  Two can live cheaper than one!   If job hunting can be best where He is which is where-U-were, consider returning!    There&#039;s only one way to know if *He* would like that:  Ask!   If response is lukewarm,  Ask Why!

Weak heart fails,  so be valiant!
Best Blessings on Both of Your Hearts!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Oh&#8230;Dear Ms. Katya,<br />
First thought is that more communication is an absolute necessity&#8211;absolutely!</p>
<p>Cheapest, quickest can be emailing each other&#8212;even via public library computers.  Yes, You need to ask questions IF You want answers versus *wonderings*.</p>
<p>Your concern about raising relationship issues which can &#8220;make him upset/mad&#8221; is a Basic Problem which obstructs much fruitful *relating*!   If ego or pride ranks First for either One, The Happy Ending is made impossible and improbable!</p>
<p>On the brightest side:  Two can live cheaper than one!   If job hunting can be best where He is which is where-U-were, consider returning!    There&#8217;s only one way to know if *He* would like that:  Ask!   If response is lukewarm,  Ask Why!</p>
<p>Weak heart fails,  so be valiant!<br />
Best Blessings on Both of Your Hearts!</p>
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		<title>By: Katya</title>
		<link>http://manslations.com/2009/08/17/its-not-you-its-me/comment-page-1/#comment-7277</link>
		<dc:creator>Katya</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:48:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Just found out about this website recently. Too bad you&#039;re not taking on new questions.

I know you probably won&#039;t read this but I just feel kinda stuck and feel like I have to speakout what&#039;s on my mind..
I just don&#039;t know who to turn to for advice :(

The problem is: My boyfriend and I have known each other for 4 years now. He is 23 and I&#039;m almost 24 by the way. Though we live seperated for 2 years now. I gave him an ultimatum 2 years ago because all of a sudden he withdrew. He started coming home late and never had time for me. I felt alone so I broke up with him. After the break up we decide to stay friends and kept in touch. We kept calling each other once in a while, maybe 1 time in 2-3 weeks. Right now we live 2 hours from each other so the phone is our only source of keeping in touch with each other.

5 months ago we decided we cannot live without each other and wanted to give it another try. We&#039;re planning to move in very soon.
We made that decision 5 months ago and things are moving slowly. A little off schedule to say the least.
I&#039;ve lost my job so the money is tight. He doesn&#039;t have a great paying job as well and makes just enough to get by. Problem is: We don&#039;t see each other.
Now I&#039;ve heard it a million times....If a guy loves you he will move mountains and he will find a way to travel this 2 hours just to see you.
Lately I&#039;ve started to believe it and I just feel so insecure.

It just doesn&#039;t feel like we&#039;re lovers...In the past 5 months we&#039;ve only seen each other 2-3 times. The money is tight and the tickets for public transport are way to expensive.
And as if that were not enough...his cell phone broke. I cannot reach him. And so I wait till he calls me. The worst part is...he only calls me once in a while. Yeah you&#039;ve heard that right...once in a while.

Sometimes I don&#039;t hear from him in weeks. He only calls me 1 time in 1-2 weeks and when he calls we have less than 5 minutes of conversation. He says he is busy with work. I think he is just to proud to admit that he has no money to call me since its very important in his culture to be a provider for the woman.
I really love him but I just dont know how to handle this situation. Im stuck. Is it the lack of money for phone calls and train tickets or am I really not his number one priority?

I just dont know whats going on...and most of all I dont know how to go about asking him why he is acting the way he is. What&#039;s the reason for his lack of calls? I wish I could get into his mind and find out what he is thinking.
I don&#039;t even know how to bring the subject up as I dont want to upset him and make him upset/mad. Hope someone can help me. =(</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Just found out about this website recently. Too bad you&#8217;re not taking on new questions.</p>
<p>I know you probably won&#8217;t read this but I just feel kinda stuck and feel like I have to speakout what&#8217;s on my mind..<br />
I just don&#8217;t know who to turn to for advice <img src='http://manslations.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_sad.gif' alt=':(' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>The problem is: My boyfriend and I have known each other for 4 years now. He is 23 and I&#8217;m almost 24 by the way. Though we live seperated for 2 years now. I gave him an ultimatum 2 years ago because all of a sudden he withdrew. He started coming home late and never had time for me. I felt alone so I broke up with him. After the break up we decide to stay friends and kept in touch. We kept calling each other once in a while, maybe 1 time in 2-3 weeks. Right now we live 2 hours from each other so the phone is our only source of keeping in touch with each other.</p>
<p>5 months ago we decided we cannot live without each other and wanted to give it another try. We&#8217;re planning to move in very soon.<br />
We made that decision 5 months ago and things are moving slowly. A little off schedule to say the least.<br />
I&#8217;ve lost my job so the money is tight. He doesn&#8217;t have a great paying job as well and makes just enough to get by. Problem is: We don&#8217;t see each other.<br />
Now I&#8217;ve heard it a million times&#8230;.If a guy loves you he will move mountains and he will find a way to travel this 2 hours just to see you.<br />
Lately I&#8217;ve started to believe it and I just feel so insecure.</p>
<p>It just doesn&#8217;t feel like we&#8217;re lovers&#8230;In the past 5 months we&#8217;ve only seen each other 2-3 times. The money is tight and the tickets for public transport are way to expensive.<br />
And as if that were not enough&#8230;his cell phone broke. I cannot reach him. And so I wait till he calls me. The worst part is&#8230;he only calls me once in a while. Yeah you&#8217;ve heard that right&#8230;once in a while.</p>
<p>Sometimes I don&#8217;t hear from him in weeks. He only calls me 1 time in 1-2 weeks and when he calls we have less than 5 minutes of conversation. He says he is busy with work. I think he is just to proud to admit that he has no money to call me since its very important in his culture to be a provider for the woman.<br />
I really love him but I just dont know how to handle this situation. Im stuck. Is it the lack of money for phone calls and train tickets or am I really not his number one priority?</p>
<p>I just dont know whats going on&#8230;and most of all I dont know how to go about asking him why he is acting the way he is. What&#8217;s the reason for his lack of calls? I wish I could get into his mind and find out what he is thinking.<br />
I don&#8217;t even know how to bring the subject up as I dont want to upset him and make him upset/mad. Hope someone can help me. =(</p>
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		<title>By: cath</title>
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		<dc:creator>cath</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Oct 2009 19:22:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>But hey, you forgot to say I hope we can still be friends.   :-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>But hey, you forgot to say I hope we can still be friends.   <img src='http://manslations.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Elly Rencontre</title>
		<link>http://manslations.com/2009/08/17/its-not-you-its-me/comment-page-1/#comment-7234</link>
		<dc:creator>Elly Rencontre</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:32:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you for that great job. i didnt leave message but read many of your articles...Good job. Good luck for the future!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you for that great job. i didnt leave message but read many of your articles&#8230;Good job. Good luck for the future!</p>
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		<title>By: TC</title>
		<link>http://manslations.com/2009/08/17/its-not-you-its-me/comment-page-1/#comment-7222</link>
		<dc:creator>TC</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Oct 2009 18:52:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Man....I just recently found you. Well, I guess I can read all the archives that I missed out on. I have truely enjoyed reading all of your blogs and I hope you the best where ever you end up. And I will deffinately be purchasing your book. Best Wishes &amp; Good Luck to Y...O...U!!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Man&#8230;.I just recently found you. Well, I guess I can read all the archives that I missed out on. I have truely enjoyed reading all of your blogs and I hope you the best where ever you end up. And I will deffinately be purchasing your book. Best Wishes &amp; Good Luck to Y&#8230;O&#8230;U!!!</p>
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		<title>By: Jenny</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jenny</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Oct 2009 13:00:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>O no I have secretley been reading this jyous blog for he past 6 months and feel I have learnt alot but no where near everything! O well... maybe you never are meant to know it all I guess.. thanks any way!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>O no I have secretley been reading this jyous blog for he past 6 months and feel I have learnt alot but no where near everything! O well&#8230; maybe you never are meant to know it all I guess.. thanks any way!</p>
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		<title>By: Heather</title>
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		<dc:creator>Heather</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Sep 2009 23:53:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thank you. Thank you. Don&#039;t turn off the search bar...k.

See you on fb and twitter. All the best.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thank you. Thank you. Don&#8217;t turn off the search bar&#8230;k.</p>
<p>See you on fb and twitter. All the best.</p>
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