There are a good many players out there and there are also guys who place sex as the priority. These guys generally abhor the word “love” in the first place, because they are more wired to the physical bonding rather than the emotional part. Such guys usually hook on to girls who share their vibe for physical intimacy. There are a plenty of girls who are in for short term relationship just for the sex part of it, and these guys are quick to spot such girls. The players usually keep off a girl who they know is on the look out for “love and bonding” rather than just fun and bang-bang.
As a girl, your own intuition should be good enough to know the guy’s intentions. If you are looking to fall in love and share a fulfilling relationship with a guy, then avoid a guy should starts off the “player” alarm in you. Players never bond emotionally, they are in a relationship for the “jazzy” stuff. Which might be a good thing if you are looking for a short term, passionate hook up, but not if you want committment and long-term bonding.
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]]>Dated this guy who found my face on FB through his high school friend’s friend list. Said I was pretty, blah blah blah. I was out of the city and got back a few months later and accepted his friend request. We spoke on the phone, he showed up to the date, we went for sushi.
Sad thing is last date I’ve had in years. Fuck. Anyway, he called and texted 24/7 at first, in the morning, afternoon and evening. Messaged me like crazy. I would tell him I was busy with grad school he didn’t care. Then he was in and out of my life every 6 weeks or so in for 1 date then gone… etc… until he left again and I was like go away and stopped talking to him.
Now he messages me Happy Bday and Merry XMas but why does he do that? We are not friends, we are not dating. I won’t delete him from FB cause why even bother, I’m not on there very often anyway. But why does he message me happy bday and happy holidays? Anyone have any ideas?
Well – aha – I get it now, he is trying to make me think of him, which is working. Because he is a Narcissist.
On his FB page he is a serial dater. Pics of the odd “favourite” every few months. And then I think – gee I am happy for him. I hope he finds a GF and settles down, gets healthy or something. But then that girl is gone. On his FB page there are “adds” for about 4 new girls per week, yet he keeps his friend list to about 150 so you do the math.
Sad thing is he made me calm down and feel beautiful. I have not been loved in so long. I have major social anxiety so have a seriously hard time meeting men.
Anyway, he admitted to me one time that he gets depressed sometimes. He said he spends too much time on the internet. He has mentioned porn sites. He is obsessed with female aesthetic perfection. I was hanging out with a good friend a lot, and he had of course never met her, and he asked “Oh ya, Clara, and what’s her flaw?”
Anyway this dude actually disturbs me. I know aint no doctors on here but what do u guys think?
I think he is stringing me along.
I am one of his 100 favourites.
Lucky me! 
Tee
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I have read parts to my partner who thought I was an idiot for buying a self help book but after hearing how you write and the infomation you give he asked if I could PLEASE give a copy to his sister and mum.
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